I am also I jealous person it is hard but that is where trust comes in... the key words your boyfriend said while talking to his exgirlfriends mother was, "I love her but WE ARE DONE..." I love parts of my ex yes because there had to have been something to love to begin with but I am in love with my current... To me that is a big difference. I think if you promised your boyfriend you would work on your jealousy then that's what you should do... and realize if he could have gotten together with his ex along time ago and hasn't and from what I read it seems as if it is never going to... So just think about all the variables before becoming so jealous. It's hard not to become jealous I know still working on it everyday...

OK I went to this camp and well lets say I fell in love with this gguy and he really loved me but a few days later a girl came and made him not stay by me it looked like she was winning him over then I was fighting to get him back it was jelousy of the both of us I mean who knows

I honestly have a similar issue with mine although, its not as unsolicited as yours. Regardless, i will give you my honest opinion. Four months youve been together so its expected--since he claimed to be soo in love with his ex--that he will still bring her up from time to time or even think about her. This is probably inevitable; so it may help you if you maybe ask about her if he brings her up or you see him on the phone with her. Try to show some "interest " it will pass as you attempting to work on your jealousy issue, AND it could be good for you. Maybe find out why it is he loved her so and why they broke up, so then maybe it may give you a bit of insight and motivate you to be a better girlfriend. Of course he's going to still love her, its only been 4 months BUT you could change that, you want him to love you--this takes time and effort but you can do it. The whole calling her thing though, I mean its a little questionable because my philosophy is i put the past in the past especially when it comes to ex-boyfriends. SO i understand your freaking out about that. If a guys done with his ex, that means he should literally be done, no phone calls, no hanging out, you move one. end of story