You should tell your family to stop answering her calls and tell your mutual friends that you don't want to know anything about what is going on with her or anything that she says. Or, you can just let her sit on her high horse and think whatever she wants, and just make yourself laugh at the ridiculous things that she is saying. It's almost funny the things that you find out about a person after you are no longer together with them... because you are able to look at the stupid things they do and say without any bias. So either tell your family to stop communicating with her or just kick back and laugh at her. Don't waste a minute of your time on her.

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question I have her on my myspace account and she has me now that this is going on would I look like a dummy or look weak if i removed her now.???

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I would definitely remove her like the others have said , it will show you are not hanging on to her.

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Chris
I would definately remove her like the others have said , it will show you are not hanging on to her.

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OK I think your all right the only reason I have not removed her yet was because I feel once I do that its definitely over and there's no more chances of getting her back... Does this sound dumb??

First off I got to give you a TON of props for not calling her after that. I know I'd flip out, but it goes to show your strength of character to not have called.

From my view point you are inside her head. She obviously insulted you or said that you cannot get over her because she is angry that you have not called her, she's pissed about that:).

What I am learning is that some girls can't take being ingnored, they may not be wanting you again, but they sure as heck want you to want them. You, my man, are giving it to her good with the N/C. Some girls don't care if you don't call and they move on, your girls cares and I could not imagine a better way to keep getting at her than NOT CALLING, especially if she thinks you will have heard what she said. She may have said it to get you to call, but you know your betterthan that, you've already proved it.

Good on you man.

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First off I gotta give you a TON of props for not calling her after that. I know I'd flip out, but it goes to show your strength of character to not have called.

From my view point you are inside her head. She obviously insulted you or said that you cannot get over her b/c she is angry that you have not called her, she's pissed about that:).

What I am learning is that some girls can't take being ingnored, they may not be wanting you again, but they sure as heck want you to want them. You, my man, are giving it to her good with the N/C. Some girls don't care if you don't call and they move on, your girls cares and I could not imagine a better way to keep getting at her than NOT CALLING, especially if she thinks you will have heard what she said. She may have said it to get you to call, but you know your betterthan that, you've already proved it.

Good on you man.

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Ya it took a lot not to call ill tell you that. Now I just need to make the next move and cut her off everything I'm just not sure if that cuts all ties and if that's right?? Will that cut my ties with her or if its meant to be it just will be?

That's a question I have been debating for the last little while. My girl was jabbing me kind of like yours is, It got to me and so I deleted every possible way to communicate with her saveher phone number. I went 3 months and was slowly getting over it until I had a moment and called her, NOW she is on my MSN and we talk once and a while.

Here's the thing, sometimes I wonder whether calling her was the right move, but at the same time I wonder if I have a shot at her in the future, that's the problem we all face. IF you go N/C you will heal and eventually be over it, if you go back than it will take longer to heal and you may hurt yourself even worse BUT you MAY, one day get her back. It all depends on what your willing to do for it, how important she is to you and so on.

I mean, if my ex-girl posted a pic with her and a new man I would be hurt, but It was me who made the decision to re-open these possibilities, just makesure you can handle whatever comes your way IF you do call her. Just be PREPARED!

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Thats a question I have been debating for the last little while. My girl was jabbing me kinda like yours is, It got to me and so I deleted every possible way to communicate with her saveher phone number. I went 3 months and was slowly getting over it until I had a moment and called her, NOW she is on my MSN and we talk once and a while.

Here's the thing, sometimes i wonder whether calling her was the right move, but at the same time i wonder if i have a shot at her in the future, thats the problem we all face. IF you go N/C you will heal and eventually be over it, if you go back than it will take longer to heal and you may hurt urself even worse BUT you MAY, one day get her back. It all depends on what your willing to do for it, how important she is to you and so on.

I mean, if my ex-girl posted a pic with her and a new man I would be hurt, but It was me who made the decision to re-open these possibilities, just makesure you can handle whatever comes your way IF you do call her. Just be PREPARED!

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No CALLing will not happen that's a fact!

With myspace I am just getting to the point were I check her account every so often to see if there are any changes or things like that. I really want opinion of who thinks I should remove her from my list and who thinks I shoudnt?? If I do remove her does it ruin any chances of getting back wwith her or does it make things worse for our relationship or better..

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If I do remove her does it ruin any chances of getting back wwith her or does it make things worse for our relationship or better..

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Just remove her. MySpace creates too much problems anyway. It makes you inclined to check her page. Besides, if you guys didn't get back together, it's not because you removed her on MySpace, it's because she's a biotch that didn't know she had someone good and let him go.

Yeah, also tell your family to stop taking her calls. They should be on your side. And as for mutual friends... yikes... I know how you feel there. My aunt is my ex's boss. And it eats me alive to hear things. Thankfully, my aunt doesn't tell me crap. So tell your mutual friends not to talk about it.

Good luck.

This sounds true

Okie all, So I actually removed her she's gone off mypage now I guess the last issue is the fact that I have made friends with a lot of her friends and we still stay togethor when she's not around of course. So not sure how this is going to make her react but if she gets mad and has her friends not stay with me anymore then that's just the way it has to be. Then I will move forward in a different part of my life. Not sure why I made such a big deal out of this but in a small little way it kind of feels good. Just hope it was the right choice.

Basically just keep up the no contact. She actually has herself convinced of what she is saying or just likes to lie about things. Either way going back with her ( or even talking with her) will only dredge up old feelings and make YOUR stress levels go up.

Well that's why I removed her from my contact and my myspace . I think I'm going to even start deleting the email address she has on my email account no need for me to store her things were I got to see them ever dam day!

That was moving forward...

There used to be a song I liked a lot where the lady sang: "I'm gonna wash that man right outta my hair, and send him on his way".. It's an oldie, but it stuck to me for some reason. This also can apply to guys.. just use your favorite shampoo. - or even find another shampoo that will not remind you of the relationship with her. Any effort you make to adjust your life and lose those memories is helpful in cases like this.

I promise, within time, you'll get better and better at it and start enjoying your life again.

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I lost a lot of my friends because of this relationship so that's my biggest thing cause when I'm with other buddies or family I feel great I don't think about her its when I'm alone or when I wake up in the moening I do the most thinking . Even the weekend she always goes out sometimes I wonder who she's with. But the truth is I had the thought of us breaking up for the longest time I was just scared of being alone

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I lost alot of my friends because of this relationship so thats my biggest thing cause when im with other buddies or family I feel great i dont think about her its when im alone or when i wake up in the moening i do the most thinking . Even the weekend she always goes out sometimes i wonder who shes with. But the truth is I had the thought of us breaking up for the longest time I was just scared of being alone

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At least you are being honest with yourself. Being alone can be good if used constructively. Rearrange your room, buy something new for the place, even move the bed to another location - as long as it's not the same as when she was there... that will also make it easier.

You'll also make new friends.. ones that care about you and not the relationships you have had or will have in the future. So... get out and get out of that 'lonely zone'.

Hey Chris, this was EXACTLY like my situation only for the fact that it was Facebook not myspace (same deal). Hopefully she does not take you deleting her as a response to what she said about you, but even so I agree with the move.

Sites like myspace and Facebook are the DEVIL whenit comes to ex's, you don't want to know what she is doing or whom she speaks to, that's why I deleted my girl, to save me from going insane.

From my own situation it was the rightmove, I mean you still have her number and she still has yours. If anything you have removed the "easy" way out, which is just send a message via the internet, this will make her call you if she has something to say.

Overall I think your in a good position, its hard to NC I know, but you still have the ability to contact her and she can contact you as well, so if something will eventually happen you have the ability to let it. So you should not worry about whether this was the right choice or not, you really have not lost anything, only gained. I would notbe surprisedif she contacts you in some way to confront you deleting her, that's what mine did, if shedoes you know she cares:)

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Hey Chris, this was EXACTLY like my situation only for the fact that it was facebook not myspace (same deal). Hopefully she does not take u deleting her as a response to what she said about you, but even so I agree with the move.

Sites like myspace and facebook are the DEVIL whenit comes to ex's, you don't want to know what she is doing or whom she speaks to, thats why i deleted my girl, to save me from going insane.

From my own situation it was the rightmove, i mean you still have her number and she still has yours. If anything you have removed the "easy" way out, which is just send a message via the internet, this will make her call you if she has something to say.

Overall I think ur in a good position, its hard to NC i know, but you still have the ability to contact her and she can contact you as well, so if something will eventually happen you have the ability to let it. So you should not worry about whether this was the right choice or not, you really have not lost anything, only gained. I would notbe surprisedif she contacts you in some way to confront you deleting her, thats what mine did, if shedoes you know she cares:)

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Yea I no about face book same concept See I found myself checking it all the time to see if she's talking to new guys what she's up to and so on. So I always wanted to keep it but every time I saw new pics or even old ones it made me upset. So instead of keeping this up I figured after all that was said and done its time. I called a month ago when I found out she was having surgey she didn't have much to say. She did ask if I was dating and how I was doing but I kind of got the cold shoulder like she was akward or something to talk to me. So why should I keep hurting myself my looking at her myspace when who knows what she's thinking only think I no is that she broke up with me its her choice. And that I must move on now.

YOu got it Chris. I'm still in shock at how similar this is to my situation. I was on Facebook for days and days tracing every single wall post and new guy she added, I had to delete my account cause I was obsessed. I too also called her after a month and she was very cold to me, that's when I decieded to leave Facebook.

You can check out my story on this site, basically it the thinking and situation that will happenif you do deceide to call her again, for now though I'd let it be and start healing, then you can re-assess your feelings after some time.

Hey So my granmother just called me and she finished the story about my my ex told her when she called. She forgot to mention that when anna my ex call she asked my grandmother if she heard the news so she said no what , she then goes on he didn't tell you he's going skiing with MY FRIENDS, I can't go cause I have a party so they invited him. But of course they asked me if I was OK with it cause if I said no they said they would not take him.

Now I no even that she told my grandmother not to mention to me that she called, how could someone's own family member not mention something like this to them. So now I'm even more happy that I cut her off my myspace and kept the NC.

Why would she say something like this is she didn't care what I did or was doinng??

Because it bothers the heck out of her that you are not there, begging like a dog for a bone, for her favors. It REALLY bothers her. Not so much because she wants you back but for the fact that she is a goddess. Your Grandmother should just hang up the phone next time she calls - your Grandma does not need that drama queen either.