That was my ex ex that dumped me for a guy on the net this one my recent just wants *space*... now I know I'm no astronomer but I can't let her have the whole universe there's room for everyone here

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Well ive been going to the gym since my last gf lmao wow did that one suck and was i down. She dumped me for a guy she never met who she talked to ont eh computer with who lived in ENLGAND. Ever since that i was hitting the gym and stuff. Lol iunno seems like once i got the ball rolling again for another gf it seems to screw up. Kinda pisses me off and feels like i have no luck lol. i just don't know what to do....talk to her, not talk to her, make her chase me, maybe she gets mad at me. I don't know, i wish one of ya'll could just fly here and smack me across the face for a while lmao.

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http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_33_16.gif http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_19_1.gif I couldn't find my 'slappy smiley' But consider yourself SLAPPED!

Read the first two 'stickies' in the Relationships forum and get your head out of wherever it is stuck in now. You should not give a damn if she is miffed, she made you feel like crap, so now the ball is in her court. Take a serious break - you need it and deserve it.

Well update for today. She wasn't in the classes with me so I don't know if she is hurt by what she did or thinking its awkward now nor should I care. I sat in the front for both classes, and the second class sat with a couple a girls I know that are in my LAB. So I don't know. Today was all right for me. Just I was still feeling the hangover from the whole *space* crap and felt a bit lonely but my friends and I were just having fun and laughing so that helped quite a bit. So anyway I don't have classes with her till thurs so now I can hit the gym hard again tomorrow. Anyway yea things are going all right. Thanks you guys/girls your helpnig me a lot

Well this no contact thing is well meh kind of sore on the spine if you ask me. I find myself sitting home alone tonight and all my friends are working... I feel like crap lol. My phone used to ring from callers and text messages every min and most of them were from her. I feel really low, but I know I got to keep my head up and my eyes on the finish line I suppose.

Yeah no contact is rough but you can handle it. You've been through a break up before and you got through it just fine. Don't feel low. You need a hobby! Buy a guitar. Learn to play the piano or just go for a jog. I guarantee you you're nervous energy will subside. Good luck!

Well I weight lift A lot but I'm sore from today still lol my chest feels as if it is about to explode... I wish it would have snowed already cause then I would be at the rink right now skating not having a care but since there is nothing to do my mind is just playnig with me. I know I shouldn't feel down and stuff lol like my friend gave me a hug today cause he was like *oh so your cause told me you have a gf* and I told him what happened and he was like aww man I'm sorry and hugged me and everyone there felt bad about it. Might I say its good to feel wanted by your friends and know they care a lot. But I guess when your not busy your mind tends to rush to what is was used to.

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Well I weight lift ALOT but im sore from today still lol my chest feels as if it is about to explode...I wish it would of snowed already cause then i would be at the rink right now skating not having a care but since there is nothing to do my mind is just playnig with me. i know I shouldn't feel down and stuff lol like my friend gave me a hug today cause he was like *oh so your cause told me you have a gf* and i told him what happened and he was like aww man im sorry and hugged me and everyone there felt bad about it. Might i say its good to feel wanted by your friends and know they care alot. But i guess when your not busy your mind tends to rush to what is was used to.

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I envy you. You have great friends it seems. I would suggest if you have more free time perhaps take up painting or something artistic. It helps get your mind off things and put them on a canvas, paper, rock whatever. It's great you're working out. Just keep productive. It works.

With me since I've been doing it for only 2 years it's like a drug to me now lmao. I'm turning 19 in 2 weeks and I'm only 5'8. I used to weigh 120 before working out now I weight 150. I think I did a pretty good gain in 2 years. If I miss a workout I swear I go through withdrawl. But yea I need more than working out cause my mind keeps surging right now and I hate that. I wish there was a button you could push which would turn your brain off or something.

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With me since ive been donig it for only 2 years it's like a drug to me now lmao. i'm turning 19 in 2 weeks and im only 5'8. i used to weigh 120 before working out now i weight 150. I think i did a pretty good gain in 2 years. If i miss a workout i swear i go through withdrawl. But yea i need more than working out cause my mind keeps surging right now and i hate that. I wish there was a button you could push which would turn your brain off or something.

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Yeah it's called Halo 3. Just get an xbox.

Lmao yea no doubt I have one. Im getting online for my b-day so ill have a lot to keep my mind. But I don't know when I'm down it's iunno hard for me to play video games... I know for me saying that I should castrate myself lol. But I don't know I just either feel I want to work out or waiting for it to god damn snow already lol. I think this is the worst part the NC thing cause when you first start and its new and you really cared about the person... well yea... lmao lol I guess I could always watch porn but I don't know lol

There is no button in the brain, but there are enough other buttons, such as the remote control... change to comedy channels, sci-fi, or listen to some new tunes that you have not heard before. Now is the time to discover new territories.. go for it. The more you fill you brain with new input, the further back the old input gets filed.
We older folks can attest to that fact. I don't remember much about my 19th year now, except that I raced cars, learned a new dance and had fun singing with a band. My relationships then... all forgotten.

You too will survive.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_1_139.gif New things and experiences can be so much fun.

Be yourself. Do what you would do if you didn't even know her. Stay true to who you are and the rest will come easy.

You could try getting on a bus before she does and sit where there is enough seats that if she wants to sit near you she can. Then you will see if she gets on the same bus or goes for the next one or tries to sit near you on the bus.

You're doing things or trying to think of things to do to avod her is not going to help you because she will always in the back of your mind. You can be on the same bus without sitting together or be in the same class without interacting.
Ignore her she will ignore you and soon she will be out of your mind.

UPDATE: So class was pretty good today. I sat near the front as planned and we watched a movie I actually liked called Tough Guise. Well after class I got a text from her and she wanted to her book I borrowed from her back. Knowing that it is her book I have to contact her or least give it back. So I texted her back telling her to meet me in the café. So I'm waiting there eating my lunch and listening to music and she comes up to me and I hand her the book. She then looks at me for like a minute straight not saying anything and she kind of sighed or made some type of noise and looked at me and said *Well should I sit down I don't know I don't want it to be weird* I just looked up at her a politely said *You can do what you want, it is your decision* So she sat down and she started eating her salade. It was quiet for a bit and got boring so I was being nice and polite and asked her how her classes were going and how her week was going. You know just small talk. I don't know how but I made her laugh just a couple times, I wasn't even trying to be funny. So then my class was about to start and stood up slowly and just said *Well it was nice seeing you again, take care* And walked out of the café feeling pretty good and not looking back at all. Then later I saw her on the bus but I sat near the back and she sat near the front when she came on she smiled at me so I gladly returned the favour and that was that. I don't know what to think now really... so yea! Lol just let you guys know.

You just keep doing what you're doing. Things will work themselves out.

Thank you kindly.I would be lying if I said I didn't want us to get back together cause I do so very much. But a little part of me is saying why bother, is it worth it now. I guess if it doesn't work out you have to give up the things you want the most in life. Which makes for more experience and finding the right person for you if not already found.

Listen to that little voice, it rarely steers you wrong.
I wish you the best

Shoot usually I tell that voice to shut up... hasnt gotten me anywhere big or good so far lol

Ahh the power of indifference and composure is victorious yet again. You've actually become somewhat of a hero to me. We find it hard to maintain no contact, you actually stare temptation in the face and smile. Nice work my good man...