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Thanks guys... stay calm and focus... decide on things that'll make me happy... ill just wait...
Guys what if sometime these following days ill encounter her while walking home or something. What will I do? Should I talk to her?
Anymore advice...
I woke up this morning and felt the sting of our break up...
Thanks guys!.
You don't have to ignore her, just don't give her the extra attention you normally would. Say hello in passing, but keep walking. I promise it'll get easier once you take the time to take care of YOU. You are the only one that is looking out for your best interest.
<3 Leslie
Thanks...
The thing is... I don't know if I can handle seeing her with another guy... gee... her tried to call me last night... I didn't answer the phone... am trying so hard not to think of her... am giving myself much work to keep me busy... but still... geee! I know I can overcome this... but I don't know when... gee.. I totally messed up...
*sobs*
What if she saw with this flirty girl I told you about... will it hurt her?? Am not rebounding or anything...
I just don't want to hurt her even if she did hurt me...
Geee
You are on the right track... keep it up and you will find it bothers you less and less. Its going to hurt at first but soon you will feel that decrease more and more. In a few months of keeping her out of mind you will wonder what you made all the fuss about.Quote:
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Thanks exactly what am feeling... but still I have some regrets...
Gee!
Am meeting lots of new faces now... what'll I do if I ever encounter her? What should I say? Or things like that? Help... I still have some stuffs at her house... shall I go and get those?
Gee!
You mean you wouldn't feel sorry for that guy? I sure would knowing he's dating a callous, crude, bottom feeding skank who's idea of charity is to do nothing for anybody but herself.Quote:
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And again I shall point out that you are blaming this entirely on yourself and giving her a free ride when she's done nothing but be a complete b*tch to you. Again I say F her. She gave you two weeks after you gave her 4 years and she then has the nerve to call that charity. I hate this woman and I've never even met her. While you may not be perfect, you did not, in any way mess this up. That's her fault and she knows it... in fact everybody here knows it, the only one that doesn't is you. So I'm letting you in on it. You were not the problem here. Now, not in next month or next year or in 20 years but right now is the time to start placing blame where it goes and I congradulate you because you are not to blame for this.Quote:
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I can only hope.Quote:
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Dude, if she just dumped you I'd say that's her choice but she purposely dumped you then led you on then was cold to you, and then tried to get things from you. She didn't try to hurt you, she tried to emotionally and finacially clean you out. I'm telling you, this is not the angel you believe she is. Now I'm all about taking the high road which you have obviously chosen to do, but don't you confuse that with emotional self defense. You should not want to hurt her because you don't want to be near her, not because it's the right thing to do. She didn't break up with you in a respectful and dignified manner so you don't owe her jack. Remember this is about you, she gave up the right to be cared about so that's her problem now, not yours.Quote:
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Get your stuff if it has any value to you, but other than that don't give her any more attention that you would give anyone you don't know. If she says hi, you say hi then move on. Take the moral High road and be nice... but don't give her more attention than anyone else would get.Quote:
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Its been three days since I last visited this site... I focused on our thesis defense... my instructors approved it... am glad... right now am not feeling that same sting, pain as before... is that a sign that I moved on?
Am really thankful to all of you guys... you really nailed it... again, her mom called last night. I didn't answer the phone, again...
Am having fun with this girl I met at that bar... we were going out after our class.. get a drink or just eat... I don't know, but right now I feel so numb... I just don't know...
Have I really moved on?is this a sign of a brighter future? All that matters now is me and what will I be in the next month or years... gee! Hope she won't go stray...
I kept her pictures, our pictures, her sketches on my drawing book, deleted her pics on my PC... removed her contact number, what else...
Gee! Am really thankful to you guys!
A toast to all of us... ill be here asking some other questions guys... hope you'll stay and answer those... youve given me a place... gee!
Thanks to all of you...
*sobs*
You've made the first steps to moving on... just keep with it and soon you will wonder what you ever saw in her. Keep looking forward, and don't look back except to learn from your mistakes. Your future is ahead of you, not behind you now.Quote:
Originally Posted by OverDozed
been days since my last visit here...
I dreamed of her twice the last last night... I don't know why... is that a sign that I can't still let her go? Or just a random dream... yesterday night I went home with this girl I met before my ex.gee! I courted this girl, but I didn't take it seriously... she saw me at the bus stop,waiting... she was weeping.. gee! Iasked her why, she said she and her boyfriend had a fight about a third party. The she said she wants to go home with me. Good timing, no ones home that day. When we got to my place, I offered her a cup of noodles.we sat at my room. I let her do all the talking, then she asked me of my girlfriend. I told her my story. By that time I knew she wanted to get some revenge about what her boyfriend did to her.
I wanted to have sex with her. I know she wants it too that time. I can see through her actions. But I didn't do it. I don't know why? We talked till 3:00 am... then I decided to get her another cup of noodles... as I go back, I saw her asleep... I just let her sleep... I only want her to feel comfortable...
guys... I did the right thing, right? I know how what she's feeling that time. I don't want her to do stupid things like I did, cutting my wrist... I just watched her sleep.. shes cute and sexy... hehehe! Please tell me I did the right thing...
gee! Its still hard to forget my ex...
am trying really hard...
I am so proud, and you should be too! You took the high road, and in spite of your misery and pain, helped another human in misery and pain. That's worth a lot in my book.
This morning... I woke up weeping... I don't know why... it seems that all the sting is coming back again...
Gee!it still hurts... how long will it take me to totally forget her? How long do I have to feel this?
The last thing I know is... last night... at around 1:00 am.. I dreamed of her again... woke up cried a bit.. then sleep again...
I went to the bathroom to wash things up... but I ended up crying again in the shower... I let myself cried for about 2 hours,almost... guys... at this rate, with that no contact thing... is there a chance that she'll come back? I've asked this a lot of times already... I just want to know...
Is there a small chance? Will she ever recognize my pain and sufferings?
This'll be my last week on school... so as her... remember the deadline she gave me... *laughs*
Ill be having a vacation with that girl who I conforted... she said she needed to stay away from that guy for a period... so I asked her to come... ill tell her mom later... ill be doing my favorite hobby... sketching... want to see my sketches?
Hope when I got back here... at this site... ill be able to forget her... hope I can... ill draaaaaaaw 24/7... gee! Ill help her decide for herself...
Hmmm...
Crying is an outlet for pain. I won't recommend that you do in front of a woman but cry away, it's only helping you.Quote:
Originally Posted by OverDozed
Have you tried thinking about anything else?Quote:
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Or as I would write that, once you were done feeling the pain you had no problems going back to sleep.Quote:
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Does she really come off as someone who gives a damn about anybody other then herself. Furthermore, you can not pain your way to anybody's heart. Women don't feel sympathy for men can't take charge in certain situations and this is one of those situations.Quote:
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I'm going to be subtle. F her deadline. How low of a human being (and I don't like being listed as in the same species as that thing you call your ex, I must admit) to demand that you change in two weeks to meet her approval. Who in the hell is she? Were you dating the Queen of England? Even she isn't worth this treatment.Quote:
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Good, you've already made plans and you've got something to look forward to. I'm not an artist but I would assume that being on is a great outlet for you to concentrate and focus on something you love. Keep doing that, and also try exercising.
Yeah the deadline thing, dude, that's that's umm as low as it gets. Cutting your wrist? Get help you're highly co dependent and a danger to yourself. You can't change people either it doesn't work. They have to change for themselves. See a therapist man and forget her.
I thought I can get through this by having this vacation thing... im with this girl...
Last night she played the song entitled when your gone by avril... after a couple of seconds I felt a pain... and I want to cry it out to... I rushed upstairs to cry but as I turn my back she grabbed my had and about to slap me, but she discontinued. Instead she said, "if you cry i cry too"... so I decided not to.. I sit right by her side feeling the sting...
I haven't finished any drawings yet because all I see in the canvaz is my ex.. dunno why... all am doing now is trying to comfort her... geee! Yesterday was suppose to be our monthsary thing.. can't help to cry that night... I saw the calendar and it's the 20th of October... glad that she was sleeping when I cried...
Thanks guys for being there for me all this time.. you really knew what to say..
Thanks...
I was just thinking... what if this girl am with right now, in this vacation is falling for me?
Because guys you know what mean... I just came from a break up and I needed time to heal... I really can feel that she falling for me... just don't know what she sees in me... right now I can say that am still having a hard time accepting the fact that its over or should I say that its hard to move on...
Gee! Feels like the sting is getting stonger each day... I still miss her... there are time when I want to grab the phone and call her... but I cant... am doing my very best... but still I end up stumbling... she became my center for 4 years... did everything that she ever wanted me to be... how can she easily forget all our memories? Why is it easy for her to forget the things I did? All I ever wanted was to make it right and look at her eyes, I still get rejected... I received a text from my ex's older sister asking me to come by there house and visit her... I said I cant... now I believe the world really is unfair... ive done nothing to her to do this to me...
Ill be back to check things here as soon as I can... I just rushed here at the nearest café to check this post... I left my friend sleeping... shes cute... gee!
Thanks to all of you guys...
Hope we can all overcome this...
*cries*
Take things one step at a time... and one day at a time for now... don't over think them, a very common mistake so many people make. When the time comes, and the subject comes up deal with it then. Right now just enjoy yourself.
Gee!
Its been a month but still I can't get over it...
*cries*
I feel for you man me and my ex haven't spoke for 2 months. I know it doesn't feel likeQuote:
Originally Posted by OverDozed
You are progressing but believe me you are. Continue NC it took me about a month or so
To even start feeling like I was moving in the right direction. Good Luck!
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Buddy, you got the answer by yourself. Why are you expecting us to give you the answer, you already have in front of your face. The answer is you. She gave you the answer. WHO THE HELL ARE YOU TO PROTECT HER?? WHO THE HELL ARE YOU TO CONTROL HER LIFE?? WHO THE HELL ARE YOU TO TELL HER WITH WHOM SHE SHOULD HANG OUT? OR WHAT SHE MUST WEAR? OR WHAT SHE MUST DRINK AND SMOKE? FOR THAT THERE ARE HER PARENTS! AND NEXT TIME, WITH HER OR ANOTHER GIRL, Doesn't MATTER, Don't STAY NEAR HER 24/7. HAVE YOUR LIFE TOO. AND Disappear A LITTLE TIME AFTER TIME. IT MAKES THE THINGS BETTER. WAKE UP!!
In my opinion this is the answer, and you should tell her these words. And than disappear! For some time. Let her think of what you told her. At least she will know you understood your mistakes.
By the way, everyone needs a little time alone. That doesn't mean she doesn't love you. That means nothing more but time alone. SHe gave you the signs, but you missed them. Now, stay away for a little.
HOPE YOU ARE STILL ALIVE TO READ MY POST :)
My opinion. Why the hell people still think they must change other people?Quote:
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