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  • Aug 16, 2007, 11:07 AM
    Foxy459459
    Most deff.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 11:08 AM
    GlindaofOz
    I do but I also believe it only takes us so far. I also believe that destiny is not an absolute and that we always have the power to change any "fated" situation.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 12:11 PM
    victoria_mitchell
    Yes but I believe that... We create our own destiny
  • Aug 16, 2007, 12:14 PM
    saraispiel19
    Yes- but I believe we αre in control of it-- eαch decision we mαke connects us to our finαl pαth:)
  • Aug 16, 2007, 12:22 PM
    Emland
    Nope.

    I can't really support controlling one's own destiny, either. If it is predestined, then it will happen regardless of your efforts.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 12:24 PM
    saraispiel19
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Emland
    Nope.

    I can't really support controlling one's own destiny, either. If it is predestined, then it will happen regardless of your efforts.

    αgh emlαnd αlwαys correcting me :p dαmn!
  • Aug 16, 2007, 12:28 PM
    Emland
    But that is what is great about opinion, Sarai. You can have any opinion you want. No one says mine is any better than yours.
  • Aug 16, 2007, 12:29 PM
    saraispiel19
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Emland
    But that is what is great about opinion, Sarai. You can have any opinion you want. No one says mine is any better than yours.

    yα but yours is αlwαys better thαn mine-- dαmn I need to get my brαin bαck from post-pαrtum..
  • Aug 16, 2007, 01:16 PM
    kp2171
    I have a relative to makes CRAPPY choices all the time, screws life up, and the fav phrase, when in the middle of it all is, "well, whatever happens, its God's will"...

    Makes me want to puke.

    no... actually, I think if God's will was for this person to make these awful choices, they'd have been born with their head already up their arse.

    I believe we have opportunity and gifts. And we also make our own opportunity and mold ourselves.

    People who talk about destiny sometimes talk about soul mates when it comes to relationships. I also cannot stand that talk. I have a great wife. Good marriage. But I know she's not the only person in the world for me and I know I'm not the only one for her. If something were to happen to me, I think she could find another mate that would be loving, kind, generous, humble... you know, like me. ;) we made a choice. A decision.

    Ah... my point... is... uh... I think bad things happen to good people without it being their destiny. I think good things happen to good people, sometimes by chance and sometimes by effort. And I don't think belief or disbelief in God changes any of that.

    And now I have a date with a brownie. Its destined to be gone very, very soon.
  • Aug 17, 2007, 07:16 PM
    jane2019
    Should you take a chance?
    Do you believe in taking chances? What if you really want somethng. Should you
    Go after it ?
  • Aug 17, 2007, 07:52 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Life is a chance, getting up and out of bed each morning is a chance.

    Should you turn right or left, try to beat that yellow light or stop, everything thing we do is a chance.
  • Aug 18, 2007, 02:48 PM
    Zell
    Take a chance, but keep your witts about you.
  • Aug 18, 2007, 05:32 PM
    GlindaofOz
    My motto in life comes from a zen saying "leap and the net will appear". Honey let me tell it's the truth.
  • Aug 18, 2007, 09:04 PM
    jane2019
    How many times should you go back to an ex?
    I know someone who was dating a woman who he was engaged to. They broke up.She
    Broke his heart? Than he goes back to her. Just your opinion what do you think . Could going back to an ex work. And how many should you go back till it's enough.. Thank you
  • Aug 18, 2007, 10:59 PM
    Homegirl 50
    If you keep going back and breaking up again, it's not working, which is why they keep breaking up.
    When you get tired of the up and down drama, then it will be enough and you'll stop going back.
  • Aug 19, 2007, 12:39 AM
    diya
    Going back really doesn't work... momentarily it does... but long term.. A big NO. When you first break up, you have reasons to do so and when you get back, it still lingers on in the back of your mind... subconscious mind to be precise. So even if you work hard, it rarely works. Best is to chuck up what's broken and look for another experience.
  • Aug 19, 2007, 08:18 AM
    s_cianci
    Going back to an ex can work but it usually doesn't. As they always say, "it's broke for a reason." And repeatedly going back and getting into a cycle of breakups and reconciliations is definitely out. That just becomes a big power game and is totally unhealthy.
  • Aug 19, 2007, 03:31 PM
    talaniman
    I think moving on is healthier and wiser.
  • Aug 19, 2007, 03:49 PM
    cougar
    Once is one too many times. I'm sure it's terribly hard, but they are continually setting themselves up for heart break - moving on is the only direction they should be going.
  • Aug 19, 2007, 03:51 PM
    Sori33
    Well my sister is the same except for the engaged part and they got back together and broke up they never got back together so once is engouh

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