Well... I spoke to my ex-fiancee today (first time since she was mad at me early wednesday), I knew she was going on business travel mon-thurs this week and her luggage is still at my house. I called her to ask if she wanted me to drop it off while I was doing errands near where she is staying (20 miles away in her brothers house). She initially didn't pick up and I left a message telling her Id drop it off and leave. She called back right away and we spoke for 40 minutes, she was going to borrow her brothers luggage but told me if I didn't mind she'd appreciate it. She told me she was going to call me today. I told her I didn't try to call her because I wanted her to have peace and quiet, she told me she wondered why I didn't call and wondered if I was mad or just giving her space. She told me she really appreciated it.
We caught up on recent events and she told me how she's been hanging with her brother and his friends on a few occasions and she's been relaxing and enjoying herself while alone. She hasn't gone out with any friends other then that. She says she is really enjoying her time alone. I told her Ive been in 5th gear with things like my wieght and that Im visiting a therapist for my short temper fuse. I told her this was a real boot to the buttox about how much I really needed to change some area's. She comfortably acknowledged everything I told her I had plans to change within myself to make myself a better man for her. She didn't shoot me down once.
I asked her if she missed me and she said she did. I asked if she missed our previous life at home with our cats and daily habits and she told me she did and that she will probably miss it even more within a week or two.
I told her that her happiness is all that matters to me and that Id do anything to accommodate that and that Im bettering myself as we speak.
She told me she was going to come over next week after her travel trip and help clean the property up so we can sell it. I told her I really don't want to see her for another two weeks or so, I want to weigh X amount and look good for her. Her reply was "You dont want to see me? lol. Ok if thats what you want to do".
She asked me which bills I wanted to be responsible for this month and we agreed on which. She told me she changed her direct paycheck deposit to her single checking that Im not on, she then asked when I wanted to get my own phone contract? I asked her if she really still wanted to do all of that and she told me she did. She said she wanted to be 100% responsible for herself and not anyone else and that its part of the whole being on her own idea.
I told her I was in boston last night with my buddy with 4 females, I told her that most had boyfriends and that it was just the same as being out with 4 guys. I said I didn't really have fun etc etc. I told her Im not going after girls and she told me it didn't bother her.
I then asked her if she could give me some guidance on where I stand in the long run. I asked straight out if she wanted to be friends and not attempt to get back together ever again. Her response was "Im you friend now, I want you to talk to me like im your friend and about anything you want". I reworded my question and asked her if there is a chance we would never get back together and she said yes there is a chance, I then asked if there is a chance we could get married and have kids and she affirmatively said "yes" also. She stated that she doesn't know anything at this time and that right now she doesn't want to go out anywhere with me or see me for now. She wanted to make sure I told my sister (her little sister in her eyes) that she will call her soon and that she didn't want to talk about this stuff right now, she asked what they thought about her and this whole situation and I told her they still love her and that their advice was for me to give you space and that its like a vaction for her. They also said that if you truly love each other you guys will get back with one another, my ex-fiancee agreed and was glad to hear what they said to me regarding this whole situation.
I asked her if she was still going to stick to the 6 months before she considers dating and she said "If somehow asks me on a date Im not gonna just say no, Ill think about it". I asked her if I could take her out on a date two weeks from today and she said we'll see.
I ended the conversation by telling her that I love her so much and I want to be a better man for her and treat her the way she deserves to be treated. I told her to have fun at the beach and wear sunscreen. I said I love you and she said "I love you too, bye.
Looks like she's still on the fence but atleast I got some definitive answers this time instead of 100's of "I don't knows". What's your opinion?
