Ask Me Help Desk - When guys look at you

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Originally Posted by huno

I get a good thought in there every so often, yes. And, you'll be surprised to know, I sometimes spend hours pondering the big questions in life, such as:

"How did the universe begin?"

"Could the war in Iraq end peacefully?"

"Why do girls insist on wearing those giant oversized glasses? They look like flies in tight jeans."

OK, I see. I was only asking because I've seen guys who seem that their brains turn to mush just because they stare too much. It makes me feel bad actually, but I'm glad to know they're still able to function (think) normally when they stare. :D

P.S. Again, I'm only exaggerating a little...

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Originally Posted by woh337

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It IS frustrating sometimes... :rolleyes:

So... does that mean you are with me at the yelling part?? ;)
Where is Huno? I already start missing him... :P

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Originally Posted by woh337

so... does that mean u r with me at the yelling part???;)
where is Huno??I already start missing him...:P

Don't worry! He'll be back before late! ;)

I think we scared him or he became shy like he used to be :D

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Originally Posted by kristynn

Don't worry! He'll be back before late! ;)

I think we scared him or he became shy like he used to be :D

Lol, that's awesome if we did scare him back to what he used to be. I heard he has seductive eyes:rolleyes: ;) hey honestly, are there many guys staring at you? And who are those guys mainly ? ;)

Okay, coming back, everyone, any answers to it?

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Originally Posted by woh337

hey honestly, are there many guys staring at you? and who are those guys mainly ? ;)

There are some. Mainly guys I've never talked to but that I often see around...

It's annoying sometimes. :rolleyes:

It can be funny sometimes too, and it is not something you can ask around why guys stare at me or what not! I bet you must be a pretty girl;) It sometimes confuses me if that is because I am good looking or because of any other reason...

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Originally Posted by woh337

It sometimes confuses me if that is b/c I am good looking or b/c of any other reason...

Let's keep it very simple: if they stare at you, it's because first and foremost you're nice to look at! :p All the others reasons follow...

And I guess you're just like me. They stare, OK, let's say that in my head, simply put, it's kind of... I guess I'm nice to look at or he just likes staring at me, but when they are so daring, you wonder, hell, you wanna talk to me or what? If so, why don't you just come upfront and talk to me? I don't bite, you know? :p but then you notice them constantly staring and nothing more, and you don't know what to believe anymore. Sometimes, I end up feeling bad myself. Not very often I go talk to them because when I do, they are shy and/or intimidated and I feel bad to make them feel that way.

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Originally Posted by kristynn

Let's keep it very simple: if they stare at you, it's because first and foremost you're nice to look at! :p All the others reasons follow...

And I guess you're just like me. They stare, OK, let's say that in my head, simply put, it's kinda ... I guess I'm nice to look at or he just likes staring at me, but when they are so daring, you wonder, hell, you wanna talk to me or what? If so, why don't you just come upfront and talk to me? I don't bite, you know? :p but then you notice them constantly staring and nothing more, and you don't know what to believe anymore.

Exactly, I will be very happy to talk to them, any of them! The thing is some people would stare at me for a whole semester sitting on the other side of classroom. I mean... come on, it does confuse me! A whole semester, I mean... geez... would u please say something?:confused:

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Originally Posted by woh337

where is Huno??I already start missing him...:P

I went to the gym; can't seduce women if I'm fat and ugly, right? :D

Anyway...

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Originally Posted by kristynn

Now, can you please tell us what should we do when this type of situation arises? Maybe to try to help them out a little bit, and be less intimidated and shy (if possible)...

Well YES--help them. Make it obvious that you're interested.

Better yet--be the one to approach them. Believe me, shy guys spend a lot of time wishing, praying, hoping that the girl would just start the conversation. I think what stops a lot of guys from approaching girls is not knowing how to start the conversation, and of being afraid to look stupid when they do think of something.

Whenever a girl would start one with me, things became a lot easier and I'd open up. But it was that initial step that really kept me from moving forward.

Now, if the guy continues to be shy afterwards then he's just hopeless and you should move on. But I think most will be okay after the first meeting. So give them a helping hand. Prove to them that girls are not to be feared. Once they get past that initial barrier shy guys can open up.

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Originally Posted by woh337

Exactly, I will be very happy to talk to them, any of them! The thing is some ppl would stare at me for a whole semester sitting on the other side of classroom. I mean...come on, it does confuse me! A whole semester, I mean...geez...would u please say something?:confused:

My conclusion is that they wouldn't say anything. :(

In this case, YOU have to do something.

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Originally Posted by huno

can't seduce women if I'm fat and ugly, right? :D

That's OK. You still have those "seductive eyes" of yours, don't you? :D We're not all so demanding...

Welcome back! :p

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Originally Posted by woh337

Exactly, I will be very happy to talk to them, any of them! The thing is some ppl would stare at me for a whole semester sitting on the other side of classroom. I mean...come on, it does confuse me! A whole semester, I mean...geez...would u please say something?:confused:

Hahah... poor guys... yes, they are probably intimidated.

These days I think it's perfectly acceptable for girls to walk up to guys and initiate. This is the 21st century... it's time we all lived as equals!

Now before you all accuse me of running away again, I'm going to take a shower and have lunch. :p

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Originally Posted by kristynn

That's OK. You still have those "seductive eyes" of yours, don't you :D We're not all so demanding...

What good are seductive eyes if I have a repulsive body? Girls don't just look at my eyes, they eyeball me like a ravenous wolf eyeballs a sheep.

You should see the way these girls leer at me. It's frightening. :(

Hey, I do have a question: this girl I met recently did comment on my eyes. She keeps going on about them. But one day she said she really wanted to try putting eye liner on me... she said it'd make my eyes look nicer. Um... do guys ever do that? That just sounds weird.

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Welcome back! :p

Thanks, it's good to be back. :) But now I'm out again... for now. ;)

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Originally Posted by huno

What good are seductive eyes if I have a repulsive body? Girls don't just look at my eyes, they eyeball me like a ravenous wolf eyeballs a sheep.

I know, I know... Then you're saying you're really chubby? :p

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Originally Posted by huno

Hey, I do have a question: this girl I met recently did comment on my eyes. She keeps going on about them. But one day she said she really wanted to try putting eye liner on me... she said it'd make my eyes look nicer. Um.... do guys ever do that? That just sounds weird.

That's a weird thing to say but she might be fantasizing about you :p or maybe she's a crazy makeup artist and would loooove to see those eyes of yours with a touch of eyeliner. Ask her! Only she knows! Don't be shy!

Hey you guys were talking to each other without me? Ey,ey, ey... seductive eye, welcome back, hugs! ;)

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And also guys what do you think when u stare at a lady;)

Trying to make eye contact to see if she returns my smile, when I was young and single. I stare now because I'm a dirty old man and can get away with it. HEHEHEHEHE!!

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Trying to make eye contact to see if she returns my smile, when I was young and single. I stare now because I'm a dirty old man and can get away with it. HEHEHEHEHE!!!

Dang, are you a man? ( I didn' mean to offend you). :eek: I thought you are an old woman! Well, I am impressed by all the comments you have made to many posts, :) you rock like whoa!! :p

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Trying to make eye contact to see if she returns my smile, when I was young and single. I stare now because I'm a dirty old man and can get away with it. HEHEHEHEHE!!!

talaniman,

We've got a problem here. Nowadays, they stare, but they never (or almost never) smile. Too shy, I guess.

See? What now? :cool::confused: