Ask Me Help Desk - How Do I get him to Trust me?

If this happened to me and my fiancé, hell I'd be happy with the stuff that is going on... Not to make light of your situation, but this is not a deal breaker problem IMO... It is hard to say it to someone you care about... You fear that you will be looked down on or simply ignored... But you have to do it... You've got to get that nerve up to tell him... Make him listen.. If he doesn't want to listen then enjoy being single a bit and see what happends...

I Feel Like If He Doesn't Want To Be With Me Then Why Does He Continue To Spend Time With Me... us Spending Time Together Makes My Feelings Grow Strong For Him... I Tell Him Over And Over Again Like You Mean Everything To Me And I Will Do Anything For You... but I Thin Khe Knows That And Takes It For Granted...

Makes My Feelings Grow Stronger For Him... he Knows That... so Why Would He Want To Put Me Through That Unless He Does Want To Be With Me

Maybe he's got someone else in the mix? Have you been suspicious of anything or anyone? I'm not trying to alarm you are make you believe that, but you never know... Sometimes when a person cares about someone they put them on the back burner so to speak... There in case whatever in front of them doesn't pan out... Just something to think about... I've thought about that, but I know in my case that isn't the case luckily...

If he cares about you he will make the right decision.. Just talk to him..

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Originally Posted by Shaunta

Honestly...nope Never Heard Of It..this Is The First Time....sounds Like Fun... But I Dont Think I Would Have Anyone To Go With....this Is So Stressful..i Dont Know What To Do....i Want To Call Him But Then I Dont Because Iu Called Him Around 4 And He Said He Would Call Me Back And Its Now 8:37(

I would try giving him a call back...

I responded in that message topic... Trying to keep them apart hehe..

I Don't Know What Your Talking About... I Don't See It.. lemme Check Again

Thank You So Much For Your Help... im Still In The Same Position As I Was Last Night... I Hope Everything Works Out For You... thank You Again

Just keep trying to talk to this guy and tell him what you feel and what you want... If he wants to be with you he needs to say it... Don't but yourself out there forever, make it known that you are a great person and great people don't last long!

Well I Talked To Him Today He Was Being Nice To Me... but Who Knows How Long This Is Going To Last?? So Iguess While Hes In A Good Mood I Will Talk To Him...

Let me know how it goes... Personal Message me or write back in this topic... Got to run..

All right... I'll Get Back To You... thanks For Looking Out..

The only thing you done wrong here is not tell him. But, it seems to me that he has over reacted.

If my (ex) girlfriend had been texting someone while we were separated, then I'm mature enough to understand. I understand being lied to is not nice, and yes you should have told him from the start.But, you know that already.

Just follow the advice you have already received. You have done nothing wrong. Your intentions were always good. I'm sure we have all told small lies or kept things to ourselves to protect our 'partners'. This is not worth breaking up over - and he has to realise this! Do not blame yourself for this.

Thank You... see Me And The Boy Was Talking When We And My Boyfriend Broke Up And I Just Continued To Talk To The Guy When My Boyfriend And I Got Back Together... I Didn't Tell Him Someone Else Told Him And Because Someone Else Told Him He Got Mad... he Feels Like I Was Trying To Play Him

I Wish He Thought Of It The Way You Two Do... ive Apologized To Him Over And Over Again... its Not Getting Me Anywhere... hes Suppose To Come To My House Today And That's When I Want To Talk To Him About How I Feel And How I Can't Do This Anymore... its Either Going To Be This Or That... if Its Going To Be This Then Iw Ould Be Happy If It's that Then I Will Be Upset But I Will Have To Get Over It Again...

Shaunta... Post some updates on this if you have "the talk" with him... I want to see what he says... Good luck again!

Well Jeremy... he Came Over Today And I Had "the Talk" With Him... he Rang The Doorbell So I Buzzed Him In And Unlocked The Top Door... when He Opened The Door He Seen All The Stuff He Ever Bought Me In A Bag By The Door... He Then Came Into My Room And Said That's Going On... at That Time I Said Nothing Because I Didn't Know How To Start The Conversation With Him... the I Said I Have A Song I Dedicated To You.. he Was Like What's That... so I Said A Song By Deborah Cox "we Can't Be Friends" When I Said That To Him He Was Like That Do You Mean... so That's When I Told Him Like I Can't Be Friends With You Anymore It Hurts Me... a Person Can Only Take So Much And I Took So Much... I Told Him That It Hurts Me To Just "be Friends" With Him Because I Grow More And More Feelings For Him Everyday... if Were Not Going To Get Back Together Then I Don't Want To Be Friends Anymore... then He Was Like Who Said We Weren't Getting Back Together I Just Said Not Right Now... who Knows What God Has In Store For Him... I Was Like Ok... then He Was Like So Where Do We Stand Right Now... I Was Like Ok We Can Be Friends And Eventually Be More... Im Not Going To Push Anything On You... it Will Happen When Its Suppose To... I Also Told Him That I Don't Like The Way He Talks To Me In Front Of His Friends... I Was Like You Talk To Me Like Im Your Child And Im Not... but Everything Is Good For Right Now... who Knows What's Going To Happen Tomorrow... lets See If Hes Still Good To Me When He Gets Me From Work... I Hope So... thanks For Everything I Don't Think If I Talked To You I Would Have Talked To Him... thank You Again... I Hope You Can Understand This... its Late And Im Typing Really Fast.. lol... talk To You Again...

How Is Everything With You Fiancé?<----spelling??

Well that is deffinately a possitive step and I'm proud of you for making it... Just keep it up... Hold your own and respect yourself... If he truly wants to be with you, he has been given the wake up call today... Keep me posted!

P.S - Things with my fiancé and me is apparently on the mend (lets hope it stays that way)... I think we are both going to work really hard to make our relationship return to its former glory... I'll let you know if anything changes... Thank you for your words of caring and wisdom as well!

Your Welcome... anytime... thank You So Much For Being Here So I Could Talk To You... im Glad I Came Across This Site... if I Hadn't I Would Be In The Same Position.. lol Thank You So Mcuh... good Luck With Your Fiancé