How true... I have experienced every single word that you have written. Though I am still dealing with the heart-ache... it gives me a lot of hope to look at the future... thank you so much...

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Hi friend, sorry it took me so long to respond. I think I was afraid of it at first. It hit so close to home that I kinda ran the other way. Does that make sense? I'm still in somewhat of a denial state. And getting better still seems so far away. But it does give me hope and I do long for that day. I do read the posts on here and I see the new ones and I think that was me 5 weeks ago. I know I've made some progress (very little it seems) but some. And it's all THANKS TO PEOPLE LIKE YOU!!!! You are an inspiration to the broken hearted that can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks Hon

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Hi there, there are so many people going thorugh the same emotional break down as yours... and I am one of them. It's been 5 weeks for me too... I can just suggest one thing don't think of what you didn't get or how the life is going to be without him around, when the thought comes just get up and talk to someone about something else. Until you try consciously to move on it is going to be very difficult.

You have to be strong girl... take one day at a time, when you wake up in the morning tell yourself 'I will not be sad today' you deserve the best from this life.

Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.

I am happy for ONE thing: I found out what a tremendous capacity for love that I really do have.

I found out that I really do need some one to love.
I've spent too many years just doing the nine to five and taking care of business. It's an empty life, and I hate it. There has to be something better than this, just satisfying your own needs and living in a routine. I don't know what I'm going to do to change it, but I'm going to make a hell of a try.

I really enjoyed this post, incredibly well written, comforting and heart warming.
Thank you!

That's exactly what I did after my terrible break up. A very nice article there. Lucky I found this site. :)

When I started reading this, I was amazed at how right you are. I am thankful I found this site. And bravo for a wonderful post! This will help me a lot on my road to recovery.

Wow.
I could say I love you right now!

You just summed up break ups.

I'd have paid to read this! Haha... well, lets not get too far.

AMAZING!
:D

It's true... I have gotten back with my ex 3 times... and it didn't work.. the same day we broke up he went to dinner with one of "his" girl friends... so even if it hurts you have to tell your heart that it isn't worth it and that he is not for you.. that someone else so much better will come when the time is right... he will regret it later

Great stuff Im so lucky Im reading this in my 1st day here. Thank you

It's a great read indeed. There are few people who choose to be in the darkness and pain, bcoz they want to punish themselves for committing something, or by hurting themselves trying to hurt their creator (i.e god) who has actually made them like that. Unfortunately I'm of the lot. I wish I could leave her alone. I have always given her all the happiness, I wish I could finally give what she asks me.. a BREAK-UP.. then finally a thot comes, maybe she is misunderstanding or misinterpretting me.. may be I may show her my improved self, may be she will feel again what we felt together, and these are few HOPES that has dragged for past 12 months and indeed I have made both our lives hell..

I wished I read his a couple weaks ago.. I was dumped and replaced in 2 weaks and still want her back. We dated 3 years and lived togeather for 1.. Its been 2 months now and I'm getting better but still miss her

Dear all, my boyfriend got on particularly well with a mutual friend, and although she speaks perfect english they chose to speak in Italian for long lengths. After tolerating being excluded from conversations, I finally asked them to speak in english so I (and our mate David) could understand and join in. Instead, my boyfriend defended his actions as he felt she struggled with english . Meanwhile she retorted in english, ' isn't David useful to you ?' (meaning can you speak to David as you are in the way). Afterwards I accused my boyfriend of flirting right under my nose, he denied it and said she had flirted with him. I had confided in this woman that I was experiencing relationship troubles, and it hurts to know she still flirted with him. I have explained to my boyfriend I feel betrayed by her, and will no longer be hiring her to work with me. He is annoyed with my decision to sack her, and 'sees me as a lesser person'. This is very hurtful to me as I have recently conceded in making a huge sacrifice for our relationship to work, but despite my gesture he considers me as a 'lesser person' over this current issue. I would like my boyfriend to have no more to do with her, but he is adamant to keep her as friend and meet her for drinks etc. He says she hasn't betrayed him so its all right and questions my version of events (even though he says I am a 100 percent trustworthy person). My boyfriends told me he loves me, he decided to have kids with me and says I must trust him - and not to worry. Am I being insecure, jealous, controlling and possessive? Can I trust him?? Or am I right to make demands?

Thank You so much for this post it has helped me to understand that I am not the only one who acts like a prat and that what I'm feeling is normal.. Thank You.

I have asked a question under a new thread any advice would be gratefully received... Cheers all

THIS WAS SOOO GOOD

But its been 3 months and everyday I think about my ex. Even though I don't cry when the pain do come it hurts even more the more the days go by the more it hurts. Its been over 1 month and half since I text then I text him once no answer. Its been 3months and only contact me 2 times.

I know time heals but that same time make me hurt more.I lovoe this guy so much.

He never told me it was over. Never said he didn't want to talk to me no more never said non of that.. jus stop talking to me cause he got mad...

I pray for him all the time I miss him so much as the time go by the more the pain hurts :(

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THIS WAS SOOO GOOD

but its been 3 months and everyday i think about my ex. even though i dont cry when the pain do come it hurts even more the more the days go by the more it hurts. its been over 1 month and half since i txt then i text him once no answer. its been 3months and only contact me 2 times.

i know time heals but that same time make me hurt more.i lovoe this guy soo much.

he never told me it was over. never said he didnt want to talk to me no more never said non of that..jus stop talking to me cause he got mad....

i pray for him all the time i miss him so much as the time go by the more the pain hurts :(

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This guy does not deserve your loving attention. Find someone who deserves it and treats you right!

Hopfully he finds me cause it hurts... carrottalker

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hopfully he finds me cause it hurts....carrottalker

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Once you get back on your feet and become the strong beautiful woman you want to be. He will fall into place :D

Be happy with yourself first. Then you can be happy with another.

Yea so true... but I try .I try.. I don't talk to him no contact nothing. Even when I cut the friend off I still hurt. I try to be happy but people always failing me.

When I was alone I was getting all these blessing got with someone everything falling apart

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yea so true...but i try .i try ..i dont talk to him no contact nothing. even when i cut the friend off i still hurt. i try to be happy but people always failing me.

when i was alone i was getting all these blessing got with someone everything falling apart

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I went through a very similar stage, where friends and family would be "failing me" or ditching me.

I learned that there is only one person you can rely on, that is yourself. You can have your friends to add to your life. If you are lucky, you can have some genuine friends who will help out, but even then, they cannot be relied on all the time because that is a big burden.

Yes... but I will just stay focus :)
We all have our season and I this is not my season