Ask Me Help Desk - My girlfriend of 5years is breaking up with me.

He has the answers to the questions, all the knowledge that we bring to him. It's all a matter of whether he wants to apply himself.

This girl is sucking the life out of him and has forgotten what it is to be truly happy. He went back to his addiction and that's all he knows, staying in his comfort zone.

Crazy, I'm rooting for you man.. but when the inevitable happens and unlike her, we will be here.

Has he been back?

Crazy do not quit on us now.

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Crazy do not quit on us now.

I think she has made him. One way or another, I'm afraid he will be back.

He came in here for help, and he got it... but it looks like she has come into his life to throw it all out the window.

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I think she has made him. One way or another, I'm afraid he will be back.

He came in here for help, and he got it...but it looks like she has come into his life to throw it all out the window.

Well believe it or not I hope your right. Because maybe he needs to see it first hand again to realize what's going on. At some point he's got to say myself respect are worth more then she is treating me. Maybe one more ride on the merry go round will jar him enough to wake up to see it.

Hi everyone... its been a long time since you've heard from me... Heres my update:

We are back together. She has changed her ways in every sense. If she begins to even start to do what she used to or begins to say anything... then I put my foot down and leave. I tested this theory out the other day when she got upset for no apparent reason... she just wanted to revert back to her usual old self.

So, what I did was to be a hard and you know what? She came crawling back to me and apologized. Here's the deal:

Everything everyone's said, including me may be right. But the thing is that at the moment... and it has been 2 months now, she has really changed her ways. I'm looking at this objectively and she knows that I won't tolerate any of her bullsh$t anymore.

As for me, I still treat her with respect etc... but I think because of what we went through all this time... she realizes that she Fu$k up and that she doesn't want to lose me anymore.

I'm in a holding pattern but accepting of her and her new ways. She still has some things to prove to me... like if she can continue treating me with respect and all... and so for the moment, everything is peaches and cream.

I will update you guys on what happens because, aug. is going to be a very interesting month. She wants me to move in with her. I agreed but like I said, I think it will be make or break with this new living arrangement...

I'm sure you have comments and I welcome any thoughts... thanks for all your help and I really would not have been able to make it this far without it!

:)

Holy crap.

I just read most of your thread from the very beginning and jumped to the end and I didn't expect this at all. I'm really excited for you. I'm glad that you're happy.

HOWEVER:

Please be cautious. Take it SLOW. I don't think moving in with each other so soon is a very good idea. I don't think people can change that fast and it might be best for both of you to see each other a few times a week but still continue on with your own lives so those changes can really stick.

I don't want to be the "Negative Nancy," but you are still on thin ice here. My on/off boyfriend of 7 years just broke up for the 3rd or 4th time a little over a month ago (he ended it like he always does). I'm still hurt about it but with each day it gets better. I'm on day... 14? Of no contact and though it hurts I am getting through it. When we ended it I asked him if it was over for good this time and he gave me the same answer he always does, "I can't predict the future. Don't worry about if we do or don't get back together. Whatever happens, happens." Right now I am also dealing with a "mutual friend" who is stirrin' up sh*& and telling me what the ex has been up to: "the break up is starting to hit him and he feels really lonely. He loves you so much but he still thinks he made the right decision. He just doesn't know where he's going in his life and needs to get himself together." But he said that the ex has told everyone that has asked that he wouldn't get back together with me under any circumstances. It hurt so much to hear that, considering that my ex told me different.

This "friend" is an attention seeker and always makes everything about himself and he was one of the stresses in our relationship and I really think (especially after talking to other friends about it) that he is trying to keep us apart so I hung up on him. And he's been trying to get in contact with me for the last 2 days apologizing but then saying that he doesn't think I have a right to be pissed at him because he was just being honest and saying that he is so upset for hurting me that he "just doesn't know what he'll do." Ugh! Drama! This isn't high school anymore! So I'm not going to contact him.

Anyway, that was a long rant about my problems. BUT I am happy for you and I really hope that at some point I can be back with my ex (the love of my life) like you are.

one more ride on the merry go round will jar him enough to wake up to see it.

Believe me everyone... I do have this advice and words of wisdom in my mind... fyi...

Hi everyone!

Well... I can't F believe it... but you guys were right.

Yesterday when I was over at my GF apt... we were talking and she told me that she wasn't "happy" and that she didn't want to "stick" by me while I am trying to put my life back together... she wants to move on with her life and basically told me how selfish I was for not wanting her to move on...

She was crying hysterically and screaming while she was telling me all of this. I had no idea she was going to "dump" me yet again... but she did! :O

The only thing that is different this time around for me, was that I am not sad at all from it. I haven't cried or felt bad or anything... im like "well, I know her number and I'm surprised she did this again to me after professing her love blah blah blah...

But I am disappointed because I really thought that she would change this time and you know what people?

She told me that I was the SAME GUY as before...

Anyhoo... I asked her if she wanted me to leave and she said yes and I left her on the balcony crying. She is really MS Queen DRAMA! And drama, I don't want in my future...

Anyway, I wanted to let you all know the latest.

As far as today is concerned, I haven't heard a peep from her and I haven't contacted her.

Again, I told her that I had to get some things done in my life and that I wouldn't be able to live with her until December... and that was just a fact of life... take it or leave it. And with that... she said that she didn't have to live with my choice and dumped me.

I do have clothes and other stuff in her apt... and her key but she as of yet, hasn't communicated with me.

Personally, I think that she's surprised that I gave HER the ultimatium and that she didn't like that... and so she dumped me.

Any comments... I KNOW you guys have some..

Thanks.

Good riddence... :cool:

how many times before you finally let her go? It took my NPD girlfriend and me 7 years before I was like enough is enough. We broke up 3 or 4 times. One time we broke up for 9 months... while she F'ed other guys. One time we broke up for 2 or 3 months, while she F'ed other guys.. I always remained faithful and single waiting for her. Took 7 years of that abuse before I left and since I've left I've been on TONS of dates.. casually dated a girl for 2 months.. Made hot steamy love on my X's birthday.. (completely unintentional, it was just ironic that it was on her bday). I am just saying to took me 7 years to realize that I wasn't the problem and that it was her. Stop trying to make it work with her and start making it work with new ones! You will be surprised how amazing dating new women are when you were in a hell relationship for so long. Night and Day.

Hi kctiger...

Yeah... im not unhappy about that but I just don't understand her. I really think that maybe she has some psychological problems. Because its just so harsh. What person is like this? You know? Anyway, the ironic thing is that she blamed ME for all of it.

Like you know, she's a beautiful woman but I feel kind of like a pig for saying this... but this time around... she's gotten well, "older"... and some of her beauty has faded. If that means that id be stuck with a woman whose no longer pretty AND is this way TOO... well then what was the point of it?

Again, sorry to say that but that's how I feel... dont mean to sound like bad guy.

No matter how much beauty someone has on the outside, the inner beautfy (or lack thereof) eventually shows...

Everyone...

So I just got a call from our mutual friend...

Haven't heard from this guy in months... and now out of the blue he calls me and asks how things are going with her.

I tell him...

He says he's going to talk to her. So obviously, she contacted him so that he could call me and find out what I'm thinking and all...

Sheesshhh! Well at least that's what I think... what do you think?

I think that the Jerry Springer yo-yo show should have ended a long time ago. Block both of their numbers and let those two date... the drama queens will be perfect together.

Lol

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Hi everyone!

well.....i can't F believe it....but you guys were right.

Well, if it makes you feel better we can't believe it either. We really thought she'd change this time.

BWhahaaha. That was hard for me to say. We really didn't.

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Yesterday when i was over at my GF apt....we were talking and she told me that she wasnt "happy" and that she didnt want to "stick" by me while i am trying to put my life back together...she wants to move on with her life and basically told me how selfish i was for not wanting her to move on.....

So she's not willing to wait by you, well you put your life together but your are the selfish one. Where I'm from, we call people like that hypocrites.

By the way, I'm not exactly sure what is wrong with you life, but one big improvement was the girl, so she's actually nice enough to do you a favor.

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she was crying hysterically and screaming while she was telling me all of this. i had no idea she was going to "dump" me yet again...but she did!! :O

So she's crying, while she's dumping you. Serious emotional problems.

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the only thing that is different this time around for me, was that i am not sad at all from it. i havent cried or felt bad or anything....im like "well, i know her number and im surprised she did this again to me after professing her love blah blah blah......

How could you cry or be upset, you may not want to have accepted it, but you knew this was the outcome.

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but i am disappointed because i really thought that she would change this time and you know what people?

she told me that i was the SAME GUY as before.....

You mean caring and sensitive to her feelings. F*** her. F*** everything about this bottom feeding b*tch. You have spent since February and before jumping through every hoop she has put in front of you, and at the end she says you are selfish and the same as before. Let her cry, let her be hysterical, let her get hit by a semi, because this loser deserves any horrible thing that can happen to her.

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anyhoo....i asked her if she wanted me to leave and she said yes and i left her on the balcony crying. she is really MS Queen DRAMA! and drama, i dont want in my future.....

In the future when you get dumped, don't ask to leave. Having said that, she is so stupid, she didn't realize what a gift she gave you. Freedom and positive mental health.

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again, i told her that i had to get some things done in my life and that i wouldnt be able to live with her until December....and that was just a fact of life....take it or leave it. and with that...she said that she didnt have to live with my choice and dumped me.

I can't imagine moving in with this attitude.

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i do have clothes and other stuff in her apt....and her key but she as of yet, hasnt communicated with me.

If they are not important or worth much I'd write them off and buy new clothes. If they are, I'd make that call now and get this done. You taking action to end this doesn't give her a means to call you in the future.

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personally, i think that she's surprised that i gave HER the ultimatium and that she didnt like that....and so she dumped me.

She's not used to being on the other side. Unlike her, I commend you for standing her down.

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any comments....i KNOW you guys have some....!

thnx.

The merry go round is stopped. Go ride something else.

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like you know, she's a beautiful woman but i feel kinda like a pig for saying this...but this time around....she's gotten well, "older" ....and some of her beauty has faded.

Maybe some of her beauty faded because she's an ugly b*tch. I've never seen her and I can tell you that. I've dated extremely beautiful women too, and that usually means they come with a sense of entitlement that they are better then everybody else. To be very honest with you, I find women society considers "10's" both that I've dated and known to be actually missing something. They expect that you are going to lie down for them and give them what they want. Low and behold look what happened to your situation. You gave her whatever she wanted and when you finally stood your ground she cried and dumped you. Let someone else who is desperate to be seen with a hot chick have her. You should be deserperate to be seen with a strong man who can look himself in the mirror and know that his self respect is more important then some girl's looks.

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everyone.....

so i just got a call from our mutual friend........

havent heard from this guy in months....and now out of the blue he calls me and asks how things are going with her.

i tell him...

he says hes gonna talk to her. ? so obviously, she contacted him so that he could call me and find out what im thinking and all....

sheesshhh! well at least thats what i think...what do u think?

Why are you doing this? END THIS BS!

Thank you chuff!

I just got an email from her... ill post it in a sec...

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thank you chuff!

i just got an email from her...ill post it in a sec...

I don't even know what it says, yet but I can tell you the relationship has turned. It used to be you going after her. Now look at this. You showed up with a pair, stood her down, she cried, you ignored her temper tantrum, you left and look at this... she's coming to you. Crazy I have to say, nice job.

Thanks chuff but the letter she wrote makes it look like she is the one in control... here it is...

I don't know what to say. I have been thinking all night... crying a lot... I am at a loss about all of this. Love isn't enough. And the fact that you think that I am being unreasonable upsets me more. Because if you truly loved me like you say, you would not drag me through this. I would NEVER do this to you. I would (and have) done everything possible to be with you... and I'm sure in your mind you are reading this and saying to yourself "thats what I'm doing"... All you do is tell me to be patient and to wait... and wait... You have had me waiting here for you for 4 years... yet your comment to that is "don't bring up the past". Right.

I love you and miss you so much it hurts. But I can't do this to myself anymore. Its not fair. I feel like I have put my life on hold for you... living my life by YOUR timeline. A timeline that is the slowest damn timeline that I have ever known. How can you ask me to keep waiting?

I'm not writing this to argue anymore. I just think that yesterday, you were laughing at the things I was saying as if I was asking for unreasonable things. I'm not. I don't want you to write back and recap your timeline. I heard it loud and clear yesterday... and I don't consider the fact that you can have "sleepovers" to be "with me". You don't live with me... you come to sleep over and then leave... you don't have anything in my apt... you won't even eat dinner with me... I am, and always have been, on the outside. I deserve more. I want more.

You need to focus on doing what you need to do for your situation. I am moving on and forward with my life... I am not going to look for anyone, but I don't want to be with you like this either. If and when you are finally free.. TRULY free... we'll see where I am at... That's all I can offer back right now with the deal that you have brought to the table.

I seriously got 3 sentences into this garbage and I knew it must be Chuffed.

To answer the previous post, you are wrong. She sent this to you. I don't care the content, I don't care what she says, you are in control. For once, do not blow this. You are going to her, she is coming to you. Now to this...

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I don't know what to say.

Then why write this email.

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I have been thinking all night...crying a lot...

Ah, look at that. She's crying and you aren't. You are in control. Assuming she's telling the truth, and let's be honest, that's a big assumpation. She might just be saying this looking for sympathy, thinking that you'll come running to a crying woman.

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I am at a loss about all of this.

Translated to mean, "You used to follow me like a puppy, now you actually stick up for yourself, and I'm not sure what to do anymore."

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Love isn't enough.

?? When did she every love you? Is this the same woman you've been on this site about since February? Playing the love card? Please.

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And the fact that you think that I am being unreasonable upsets me more.

Translated to "So let my try guilt to see if you start doing what I want."

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Because if you truly loved me like you say, you would not drag me through this.

More guilt, also you notice after all this, you stand up for yourself one time... ONE TIME and she says you are dragging her through all this. What a piece of work.

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I would NEVER do this to you.

BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH. Stop it, I'm a rolling. That's great. Good stuff there.

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I would (and have) done everything possible to be with you...and I'm sure in your mind you are reading this and saying to yourself "thats what I'm doing"....

Attempted reverse psyhology... and she failed at it.

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All you do is tell me to be patient and to wait.....and wait.... You have had me waiting here for you for 4 years....yet your comment to that is "don't bring up the past". right.

I have no idea what she's talking about so I can't really comment.

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I love you and miss you so much it hurts.

Is this the same line she's used in the 40 other previous break ups?

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But I can't do this to myself anymore.

Ok, then why write this email. You left and she came to you. You aren't doing anything to her, so why write this claiming you are. Guilt trip anyone?

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Its not fair. I feel like I have put my life on hold for you...living my life by YOUR timeline.

I feel like you have been doing the exact opposite.

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A timeline that is the slowest damn timeline that I have ever known. How can you ask me to keep waiting?

For the love of all things holy. You told you wouldn't move into her apt. until December. That is 3 and half months. If after 4 years she can't wait 3 months until your lease runs up or whatever is holding you what is the point. Which we all wanted to know before this came up anyway.

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I'm not writing this to argue anymore.

No she's writing it to make you feel guilty. Also, weren't you the one who avoided the argument by leaving... so there was no argument so she's just making stuff up.

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I just think that yesterday, you were laughing at the things I was saying as if I was asking for unreasonable things. I'm not.

She is.

Also, nice job laughing at her. When they start huffing and puffing, don't fall for there trap but just laugh it off. There problems are not your problems. You are really coming around.

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I don't want you to write back and recap your timeline.

This is some of the best comedy I've ever seen. This is fantastic. Let's recap. She dumps you for the 64th time, she cries and whines, you leave and then DO NOT contact her. So she sends this guilt trip email and has the line "I don't want you to write back"
As though she has any say. This is truly the only control she has left. She is literally saying, "Even though you are not contacting me, I don't want you to contact me." Wow.

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I heard it loud and clear yesterday....and I don't consider the fact that you can have "sleepovers" to be "with me". You don't live with me...you come to sleep over and then leave....you don't have anything in my apt...you won't even eat dinner with me.... I am, and always have been, on the outside. I deserve more. I want more.

And you offered to move in December, so she can shut the F up.

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You need to focus on doing what you need to do for your situation. I am moving on and forward with my life.... I am not going to look for anyone, but I don't want to be with you like this either. If and when you are finally free..TRULY free...we'll see where I am at... Thats all I can offer back right now with the deal that you have brought to the table.

Wow. More blame you, but it's really all about her.

I've said this for months, but how can this woman or any other woman for that matter be worth this. HOW?

Either you're a glutton for BS, or you really need to end the BS your in.

Delete her emails, and ignore her, at all costs. Please, as this thread is going in so many circles, you have to be dizzy by now.

Yeah, I'm a glutton for bs.

Here's the latest...

She wrote me another email... saying that she just wants... well hell here it is... : oops I deleted it! Sorry guys.

Anyway, the bottom line was that she wanted to see me.

So, I went over to see her with the intention of ending it. Well she ended it...

After it was clear that she was just being abusive to me.. shouting at me... cussing etc... I said that I was there to have a positive constructive talk with her...

People you know what she told me?

She said she FU## her old boyfriend 3 months ago BEFORE we got back together. I can't believe she told me that. Whether that was true or not... I was so hurt that I didn't say a word.

I just left.

And thus, while she hurt me by saying all that to me... now that she did, she KNOWS that I will never go back to her again.

It is over.

Now, tomorrow is another day and this woman is crazy... so who knows what she will do now... I will keep you posted.

Is there a pretty considerate woman out there in the world? Please let me know people... because right now, I just don't know if anyone is honest anymore. Not to have self pity... its a good thing what happened tonight... it just really sux that she did that. Very uncool.

Oh well, life goes on... but you know what guys? I left and all but surpisingly, I thought I was going to cry or something... but I didn't! I just was hurt that she told me that but that was all.

Oh... one other thing...

I wanted her to have the "upper hand" in the breakup... because now, she can't seek "revenge" or anything like that to me... u know... because if I broke up with her... then she would have gone freaking "fatal attraction" on me...

Wow, so you mean to tell me in this latest turn of events that she's not only controlling... which I believe has been covered and not only has deep emotional problems... which I believe has been covered but she's a whore and apparently to stupid to realize by telling you that, that she actually admits to it. Not that everybody didn't figure this out already.

Why should you cry? I understand there were feelings but losing her is actually gaining part of you. Furthermore, you can't bring yourself to tears because you had to know this would be the outcome. The pattern was the same as it always was. Nothing's ever changed.

I hope you got your stuff back and get away from this person. Your life is to short to have people like her in it.

Hi chuff...

Thanks for your comments...

Well the update is that I got 21 texts from her last night and 2 emails... I turned off my phone and so far today, haven't read them... ill do it tomorrow. As far as today goes, I'm going swimming! :)

Thanks man!

I feel great. I wrote her an email that ill send her tomorrow... it basically says... that I ALONE will decide what I am going to do... and No one not even her, is going to tell me what to do!

While I feel great about all this, I can't help but feel that it's a shame that I had to even say that to her... u know?

But regardless... im doing it. I'm going to make her sweat today... if she even cares... and like I said, tomorrow shoot her that email...

Ill keep you posted!

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Thanks man!

i feel great. i wrote her an email that ill send her tomorrow....it basically says...that I ALONE will decide what i am going to do...and NOONE not even her, is going to tell me what to do!

while i feel great about all this, i can't help but feel that its a shame that i had to even say that to her...u know?

but regardless...im doing it. im gonna make her sweat today...if she even cares....and like i said, tomorrow shoot her that email.....

ill keep u posted!

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!

She has texted you so many times that you have had to turn off your phone, she is now emailing you non stop, she is begging you for attention of any kind. DO NOT send her an email. It will only verify that you are still thinking about her which is what she wants. No matter the message of the email, the communication plays into her control. You are acting completely different then you used to and FINALLY you have got a response out of her. Do not revert back to the old way. Keep your control, keep your power and do not respond.

Oh really? I didn't think I was giving up control if I did send her an email...

Well... ok... because I went to look at my email and you know how it shows the first parts of the message in outlook:... when I saw one of her emails... she only emailed me twice...

The first part of her message said: FU&& YOU!

I didn't expect that... I didn't open it yet... and she also sent me a picture too... I haven't opened it but I will tomorrow.

Anyhoo, based upon what she told me... the email I was going to send to her... I think that its best that maybe I don't... because if she's so rude to say that to me... then she doesn't deserve me emailing her.

She also left some voice mails... ill listen to them tomorrow too. I'm just not up for dealing with her bs.

Anyway, you think that I should just fade away then?

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oh really? i didnt think i was giving up control if i did send her an email....

You are. Because she's telling you that she sleeps around with other guys, calling you names, sending you emails, texts and the works. You are doing nothing. Literally nothing and she's putting all this energy into you. Maybe it's not good energy but energy none the less. She needs a reaction from you to feed off.

Forget the messages, she is the one coming to you. She's coming to you with hate but that's because she wants a reaction. I had an ex that used to flip her lid a lot and eventually I just started laughing at her. That's kind of what you are doing. You are saying "this doesn't bother me" by not responding. The opposite of love is not hate, but indiffernce. You are being indifferent to her and it's driving her nuts. Even more so the before.

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well...ok....cuz i went to look at my email and u know how it shows the first parts of the message in outlook:.....when i saw one of her emails....she only emailed me twice....

Twice more then you emailed her.

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the first part of her message said: FU&& YOU!

Part of me wants to tell you to email her back and just write, "You are so sexy when your mad."

Don't do that though.

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i didnt expect that...i didnt open it yet....and she also sent me a picture too....i havent opened it but i will tomorrow.

Why? Just let her hate belong to her. This isn't your problem anymore.

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anyhoo, based upon what she told me....the email i was going to send to her...i think that its best that maybe i dont...cuz if shes soo rude to say that to me...then she doesnt deserve me emailing her.

she also left some voice mails....ill listen to them tomorrow too. im just not up for dealing with her bs.

You've dealt with time and again. Now is your time, not hers.

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anyway, you think that i should just fade away then?

Absolutely.

Well that's sound advice chuff.

I do want to stay in control... all today she has not done anything. She hasn't emailed me or texted or called... maybe she's waiting for me to respond... what do you think? Or maybe she thinks that because SHE got the LAST word in... that SHE"S in control?

Also, I don't know what she said to me but ill be interested and make sure I let you know...

chuff... I do have a confession...

I have been thinking all day today what she told me last night:

"i was over at my old boyfriends house when we were sepearated becuase i was FU%%%g him!"

Any advice people on how I deal with that pyshological blow?

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well thats sound advice chuff.

i do want to stay in control....all today she has not done anything. she hasnt emailed me or texted or called....maybe shes waiting for me to respond....what do you think? or maybe she thinks that because SHE got the LAST word in....that SHE"S in control?!

But how can she be in control? She's flipping her lid, completely off balance and you are not responding to anything.

Haven't you ever had someone just lose it on you and all you can think is, "What is wrong with this person?" Because what they are upset has nothing to do with you.

Well, that person is her. She's upset and the cause is her. She's an angry person and she get's more angry because you are indifferent to her. You aren't doing one thing to her, calling her one name or belittling her. She can't stand it because she's so used to people either arguing with her or rolling over for her like you used to do. Now you are doing neither, you are treating her like someone that lives on an island somewhere in the ocean. You aren't paying attention to her as though you don't even know she's alive.

Thanks chuff but how do I deal with what she told me:?

chuff... I do have a confession...

I have been thinking all day today what she told me last night:

"i was over at my old boyfriends house when we were sepearated becuase i was FU%%%g him!"

Any advice people on how I deal with that pyshological blow?

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Originally Posted by crazyoverher

chuff.....i do have a confession...

i have been thinking all day today what she told me last night:

"i was over at my old boyfriends house when we were sepearated becuase i was FU%%%g him!"

any advice people on how i deal with that pyshological blow?

But it was designed to be a pyshological blow. She's grasping at straws because of your indifference. Everything she says is designed to keep you down or hurt you. This was that.

What's ironic is, it makes her look worse and she's to stupid to see it. What she's really saying is, her crotch is open to an ex boyfriend at a moments notice and not worth anything. Down in Florida we call girls like that whores. She admits to being one, that makes her look ridicules.

Furthermore, if it's true is this the kind of girl you want to be with? I mean, I don't expect virgins but if you are so cheap to just give it up to rotating boyfriends then what real value is there with this woman.

Beyond all that, you should read this entire thread again. This shows here, in your own words that she in manipulative and controlling and this was just another example of really how cruel she really is.

I remember my ex had left me for another guy and then left him for another guy and then when she got dumped she was trying to get back with me. Long story short I was not interested and she was telling me about how this was all a big misunderstanding, blah blah blah. Finally I just interupted her and said, "it's not my fault you choose to be a whore." That's exactly how I see your situation. She choosing to be the town slut is not your problem. You deal with real women, the bottome feeders can have the town slut.

Thanks for that man... it helps me.

Yeah, it was very cruel. I'll try to keep my head up! :)

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Originally Posted by crazyoverher

thanks for that man....it helps me.

yeah, it was very cruel. i'll try to keep my head up! :)

You are winning. You have nothing to be down about. You've finally seen her for what she is, you are beating her game to the point she admits to being a whore and not leaving you alone. You're the man now, hold that head up and be proud that in the end, try as she might, she just couldn't beat you in the end.