I rang her over a week ago and she finally called me back - she contacted me. So I'm going to NOT call her back and see if she calls me AGAIN.

I really think your holding out hope for getting back with her even though you call it closure. I realise it take time and hard work to get back from limbo, but dealing with reality, must start with being honest with yourself and dealing with those feeings... honestly. Sorry your putting way too much on her, instead of you, in my opinion.

Right... She is just playing games with you and you will get false hope now. I'm glad you didn't answer. Now she may be wondering... When she calls again keep it short and tell her everything is okay and ask if she is okay and then say you have to go because you have something to do. Then adios amigo!

It's the end of the road, you either stop here and don't go anywhere or you take the turning and make a life of yourself.

Bit like a treadmill. Forgive the analogy. You run but you don't go anywhere, your not making any effect apart from tiring yourself out and getting healthy of course lol :P

But if you step off the treadmill you move on, you have places to go? So choose where you ona be, stuck or gone :P

Why is SHE calling me back if she wants closure from all of this - God knows I do. I'm moving on but I don't know why she's calling me.

Block her number! Block everything. If you want to be healthy then make the effort or be stuck where you are in several months time. Your choice, were the only ones who can start the process of changing our lives.

This is so confusing. I still love her and I'm trying to move on and if she's doing what she wants to do while we're not together why's she still calling me? Any women have any insights?

As I said block her.

And if she keeps calling? Isn't it rude for me to not return calls. I know I don't appreciate it when people don't return my calls.

Your in your own world here. Do you not see? The relationship is over, let it go for your own sake. I am sorry but you gota let this one lie.

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Originally Posted by Righthearted

My EX won't return my calls (only a couple times) she just stopped taking my calls all together, I would never do this to her and she even left me a message once about having the decency to call her and tell her that I didn't want to talk to her after I didn't take her calls for a couple of days.

Is it her way of dealing (not) with the break up? I was thinking of writing her an email asking her about it. Any suggestions?

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When my boyfriend wouldn't talk to me I wrote hima letter telling him how I felt and at the end wrote ' the rest is up to you' if you don't hear anything she must be a!! END OF!

I understand that it may be over but can anyone tell me why she bothered to call me back 9 days later? Apologizing for not calling me back sooner.

Well in that case can anyone explain why my ex took £60 worth of presents off me just days after dumpin me?

Oh wait I know, its because she's a

WOMAN!!

Most probably that she has moved on,forget her,she's your ex and move on because she isn't worth your time and isn't showing any interest to you.

From a woman's perspective: I think you should just take the call next time she calls. If she starts telling you how much she misses you and wants you back, "Tell her that she needs to move on and that you are trying to move on yourself". If she starts in on the I miss you crap then more than likely you are her back up. Some women, I say this because I use to be like this, need a man in their life. It is a security blanket knowing that you have someone there and you are not alone. Don't let her hurt you again. I have done this to guys before and now that I am older, I realize how cruel it was to tag them along for my own satisfaction of having someone. And just so you know Zooropa, not ALL women take men for their money and run! ;)

I know what you're saying a lot. Should I at least listen to what she has to say before I tell her to move on. What if she really wants to try again.

Before you tell her to move? I thought she has moved on already... You need to tell yourself to move on. I'm going through the same thing. It's been 2 weeks since no contact from my ex... And it hurts to know that but I'm sure everything will work out in the end. I left everything in good terms, but I don't think I will take her back now. It got to the point of too much. She doesn't have the decency to call and see if I'm okay or how I'm doing. So forget her now... I'm a bit pissed off while missing a little bit of her... I am doing much better though and I'm sure you will be fine as well... I received a private call two days ago and another at work today so it may be her... But I don't know. I find myself a little weak this week.

The fact that she went for this long without talking to you or even taking your calls is not a good sign that she would be sincere in her reasoning for getting back with you. If she was truly in love with you and you broke up, she wouldn't have taken so long to contact you because she would have missed you. She is probably at the point right now to where she is a little lonely and wants someone to be around so she is falling back on you. Don't be the Fall Back Boy. All it leads to is heartbreak down the road. I think you deserve a much better girl that will love you for you and not jerk you around like this girl is doing. Like I said, take her call, tell her you are trying to move on and she should too. Tell her you don't like sitting around wondering if she will come back and you want to get on with your life. Things will work out for you man. Just give it time and things will drop into place. If you are tired of waiting for her to call back then just give her a ring and tell her the same thing. Just have a strong sincere voice when your talking to her and see how she reacts. Good luck

But she did call me back on Monday, I may call her sometime next week. I don't know.

How long were you with her? It sucks after all that time together and the wonderful memories... they can just up and leave like nothing! And just forget about all the great moments! We thought they were the one for us, but obviously not.