Thanks amicon, I'm trying my best but I'm breaking inside, now I've got the ex girlfriend texting me, the night before last was his ex girlfriend mate as well!! And then him. Roll on the sale when I can get a new phone so they can't hurt me

Don't read any of the messages from him, his girlfriend, or any of his friends. Just delete. Have a friend delete them if that will help you not see them.

Hope you get the new phone soon that will allow you to block them. Also, glad you have goals and a new fella. Focus on them. I would ask your new boy friend not to communicate with any of them at all. It just stirs the pot.

Merry Solstice! Starting today, there will be more sunshine in your life!

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Don't read any of the messages from him, his gf, or any of his friends. Just delete. Have a friend delete them if that will help you not see them.

Hope you get the new phone soon that will allow you to block them. Also, glad you have goals and a new fella. Focus on them. I would ask your new boy friend not to communicate with any of them at all. It just stirs the pot.

Merry Solstice! Starting today, there will be more sunshine in your life!

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Thanks asking, my fella has told my ex that he has deleted his number (he hadn't as like me his phone isn't compatible) and as soon as he knew he rang my fellas phone to test, my fella has just said he has blocked his texts and calls and that altoguh it may ring at his end it won't at ours??

I can't believe he was texting my ex asking what we were doing etc when we in bed,what kind of a nut job is he. The really hurtful comment came when he asked my fella if I had killed myself yet as I'm taking my time in doing so :(:(

my fella has just text me and he has just received a text from my ex's girlfriend or ex girlfriend now!! A really abusive one, when is this going to stop, it said that my ex means everything to her and we should f^^k off out there life and to stop texting him?? It was my ex that was texting us in bed last night so I don't know what all that is about. He is just feeding her a bunch of lies and she is silly enough to fall for it

I recommend you turn your phones off and put them in another room when you are in bed. ;)

Make a pact with your new guy not to read or tell each other about any more of these messages. You both deserve better. So make an agreement with each other to let this blow over.

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I recommend you turn your phones off and put them in another room when you are in bed. ;)

Make a pact with your new guy not to read or tell each other about any more of these messages. You both deserve better. So make an agreement with each other to let this blow over.

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Since my last post his ex has been ringing me constantly, so we have both turned our mobiles off and just ignore her, she is a nutter like him it seems, she goes back to him after he made her go back on her depression pills :(:( she is threatening me and my fella about contacting my ex, the thing is we hae told him to leave us alone. He is really playing her for a fool it seems and she is falling for it x

I've just turned my mobile back on and got lots of messages from the ex's girlfriend, I just deleted them so don't know what they say but they would have been vulgar no doubt as she is as rough as a badgers arse, why can't they leave me alone, he will have told her I'm texting him, the only reason I texted hi early this morning to say leave us alone to be happy, because I stand up for myself he goes crying to her and she has a go. Ive so had enough, my phone will be off tonight for the 1st time in ages.

I just don't understand and now understand that I never will, I've took everyone's advice on here when they say don't ask why as you will never know or get the answer, just accept it and move on. I just can't get my head around why his ex would have a go at me when its him that is in the wrong??

They are both in the wrong, and seem to be egging each other on. Don't you think that's a shame, and a pity, they have nothing better to do? They certainly deserve each other, and I'm sure you will have the last laugh.

Its been my experience that people who go to such lengths to put someone down, are actually jealous and insecure and are trying to project themselves higher in there own eyes. Usually the exact opposite happens, and they end up miserable, and exposed for what they are.

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They are both in the wrong, and seem to be egging each other on. Don't you think thats a shame, and a pity, they have nothing better to do? They certainly deserve each other, and I'm sure you will have the last laugh.

Its been my experience that people who go to such lengths to put someone down, are actually jealous and insecure and are trying to project themselves higher in there own eyes. Usually the exact opposite happens, and they end up miserable, and exposed for what they are.

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Thanks Tal, they don't seem to think there in the wrong unfortunately, he is telling her I'm a loony and she thinks I made the whole thing up to win him back (as if), even though she has seen the texts he sent me. How can a person (my ex) ask me to marry him and then say he didn't, how can he pretend to cut my name in his arm when he didn't? Etc etc these sound to me like the actions of a mentally ill person don't you think Tal?

I think we can all agree that the pair of them are sadly lacking in the mental health department but make a pact with yourself that nothing they say or do is going to hurt you anymore.
You can do this and you'd be doing in for your own peace of mind.

Talaniman Rule-Never try to figure out what crazy people think, or do. It will make you as crazy as them.

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Talaniman Rule-Never try to figure out what crazy people think, or do. It will make you as crazy as them.

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Lol, very true Tal - wise words from a very wise person

It's over, move on, cut his drama off. Stop playing into it, with them all. Smartest thing you could do is get a new phone number, that would stop everything. It's going on way too long.. I just don't know how you even listen to it, its been going on way too long.

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It's over, move on, cut his drama off. Stop playing into it, with them all. Smartest thing you could do is get a new phone number, that would stop everything. It's going on way too long.. I just don't know how you even listen to it, its been going on way too long.

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sully123 you are so right, I've left them too it over xmas, I did have the ex boyfriends girlfriend or ex girlfriend whatever she currently is ringing me on christmas day but my phone was on silent upstairs and so I only realised late at night. I never replied as that is what she wants, they are both just looking to stir the pot and hurt me. They are welcome to each other, I do hope they spend new yrs eve together as they deserve each other. On a happier note I had a lovely xmas day with my family and drunk far too much champagne!! I hope everyone else had a lovely day too.

Here's to a new year and a new start xxxxxx

Stay strong louiseismyname and don't give in. Your heading in the right direction. Glad you had a nice Christmas, and start the New Year off thinking only about you.

Thanks sully, my ex really hurt me when he told my fella, oh by the way tell louise I love her NOT!! I just don't know how he could be so cruel, well I do, as he is a nut job!!

Don't even think about allowing yourself to let him hurt you. Ignore!

Thanks amicon, your right, every time I think of those words try and block them out. I think he was only saying them as I have a new fella and he don't like that I'm moving on so in order to hurt me he says nasty comments. Im too grown up to play silly games with them both, I really do hope they get back together as they really do deserve each other. I hope you had a lovely xmas x

Yes thanks but no champagne! The trick is to keep ignoring both of them,you have a good life-they don't.
A person only has the power over us that we allow them to have.
Take care. X

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Yes thanks but no champagne! The trick is to keep ignoring both of them,you have a good life-they dont.
A person only has the power over us that we allow them to have.
Take care. X

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That's very tue amicon, they have no power over me at all. I don't understand why my ex's girlfriend or ex girlfriend (whatever she is at the mo) rang me on xmas day? I do have a good life don't I!!

I have a nice detached house, a lovely fella, a nice doggy, great friends and family, a degree, masters etc and he has...

A drink driving conviction he received in April and is banned until Oct, a wacko girlfriend, he is living at home with his mummy and daddy at 31, all his mates think he is a lair (as they warned me about him before we got together), he hates his job etc etc

Gosh when I write it down I really do have it much better off than them, at least now I don't have the worry of whether my partner is cheating or lying to me constantly, as I know that is what his gf/ex girlfriend will be constantly worrying about :D:D:D