That sign is a good sign. Just don't let any sign make you call your ex ;-).

Seriously, though, you are right. Take care of yourself and you'll be fine.

You mentioned you saw signs. Read positive books and fill your head with positive things. Read over and over, because at this time your brain will go negative and keep the focus there. Don't wait for signs, put them there for you to feed off.

Imtotallylost...

What was your spiritual ephany?

By the way... im going to go read your story to get the full scoop but if you could please some crib notes ;)

Signs could also be over interpreted, over analyzed. But reconizing them as that could make positive changes for you

Hi everyone...

Just wanted to say that I'm feeling pretty good today. Fyi. :)

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by crazyoverher

hi everyone.....

just wanted to say that im feeling pretty good today. fyi. :)

---

So grab a green beer (non alcoholic for you babies) and start celebrating... :D

Thanks kctiger... hope you have good st.pats. Day too!

Hi everyone! Happy st patty day!

Just wanted to let youall know an update...

I received an email from our mutual friend... but I decided to NOT open it today... just didn't want to deal with anything he has to say she said... ill let you know tomorrow what's up.

You know, I think back now at our relationship.. and I feel so stupid. That I let ANYONE talk to me that way. Especially, someone that said that she loved me.

I wouldn't have any respec t for me either if I was her. To treat me so poorly and me just take it is abominable. I will NEVER let someone be abusive like that to me again...

I was blinded by her beauty and her $EX. And, me wanting to keep her happy above everything, inculding myself.

Anyway...

Update for you guys...

Our mutual friend just wrote me an email saying that he's there for me... etc.

And he said that my GF is going through a lot of stress in her family life right now but that she loves me still more than ever... at least that what he thinks. Anyway, he tells me to NOT let go of my love for her and that he will call me later today.

Now what? Is the $hit I am in? Uggh!

Tell your friend to get out of your business, because you don't want to hear about someone else business. It's that simple, and maybe that's the lesson to be learned... don't get caught up in someone else's opinion, and good intentions, when it comes to your own best interest.

He thinks he is doing you a favor, but isn't, and its up to you to express that to him.

Stay focused, you were doing well!
Actions speak louder than words... forget what she has 'said'..
You have a mission - stick to nc, heal, better yourself for your own good and you will find that self respect and self love will come your way... then when you least expect it.. that special one may just come along, who knows!!
Give it a try my friend

Arzy

UPDATE!!

Hi everyone...

I wanted to tell you the latest here. Our mutual friend gave me a call and told me that my GF wrote HIM a long letter.

I know its wrong, but we have been using him as an intermediary of sorts. She especially.

I already emailed her and told her how I felt, gave her ultimatum.. etc as everyone on here knows!

Anyway, he called and told me that he will call me later TODAY to discuss what she wrote.

Now here's the deal... if she wanted to be with me, then she would right? She would have contacted me, as I told her right? Help me out here please!

So, I'm thinking she wrote him to tell ME a "dear John" letter. Whatever the reasons... blah blah.

I need some advice please for you all. ANYTHING!

OUR friend didn't sound very positive when he was telling me this.

So, I'm thinking that its probably BAD news and that she's dumping me again... blah blah.

I figure that when he calls me back later today, that I should ask him if its GOOD NEWS or BAD NEWS... and if he says BAD news... then I'm thinking of telling him NOT TO TELL ME ANYTHING MORE! Don't get into what she said in the letter etc... dont say ANYTHING more.

I know I'm being a wimp here, because of how I still want her back even though she's done all this to me... I was thinking that maybe THIS time, I could CHANGE how she acts towards me... etc... blah blah.

But yet at the same time, I have really gotten a lot of respect for myself and from this forum and everyone on it. Like I said I would be even more of a mess if it wast for Everybody here! But I still feel conflicted. Damn me for being this way.

Anyway, I got to tell everyone here that I'm kind of sick to my stomach about hearing this. I have myself respect slowly coming back but if he tells me that its bad news... I am going to feel like $hit. Its crazy... but id rather not know HER reasons or excuses.

HELP!

Hop into the nearest vehicle you can find, drive to where I live, and run me over!! You're killing me Smalls!!

Utilize the letter for toilet paper... that's my two cents.

Leave her she does not respect you, you deserve better.

If you want to keep yourself respect and everything, then simply tell him you do not wish to know what it said. She has your number, she knows where you live, she has two able legs to walk her high self centered arse over to your house and explain why she was a selfish b*tch

Hi Crazyover,

Everyone here is right. You do not deserve this. You are getting yourself respect back. I know you want to know what the letter said, but if it is negative, you don't want or need anymore hurt from this woman. You are way to good for her and her imature behavior.

That's what I figured everyone...

Ill just tell our friend that I Don't want to hear any of it. But let me ask you, if he blurts out that she said that she will hook up with me later on... what do I tell him?

I figured id tell him that SHE knows where to find me. Right?

Yeah, I think that I DO deserve better than that! Not to mention all that she is putting me through.

She is very self centered and high and mighty isn't she? I mean all of you are right, if it WAS good news then she would have contacted me. You know, I'm thinking that I'm going to tell him that I Don't WANT TO HEAR what she wrote! Period. And that she does know how to reach me IF she accepts my ultimatum. If not... to leave me alone forever.

Isn't THAT the right thing to say?

Yeah, I just can't stand any more hurt from her. It has effect my relationship with my family as they tell me that I'm soooo down and out. I happen to agree.. but lately with your help, they have noticed a positve change in me.

My opinion: cut both her and your friend out of your life... perhaps forever, UNLESS your friend can handle not talking about her around you. You have way too many attachments to her right now, and he is only serving as an enabler to this drama... I have never seen such immature games go on between two people who AREN'T even together!

Enough games. Don't say anything, period, that is the right thing to do. Tell him that you are finished with this stuff and end it at that. This is similar to playing the game "Battleship" where every single piece in your fleet has been sunk yet you are still trying to play the game! GAME OVER!

I've been thinking about that kctiger. I've been thinking that I don't know if I could still BE his friend... because he DOES talk about her Every time I see him or he calls or whatever.

He continues to be close to her as is evident. Let me ask you something... kctiger...

U say that you've NEVER seen such immature game like behavior. I don't want any compliments if even you think that way... but do YOU think that I've been a good guy THROUGHOUT this ordeal?

Thnks