If you feel like you are, then you are. It sounds like you are doing better than before and that is great.Quote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
I hope all goes well with your show. :)
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If you feel like you are, then you are. It sounds like you are doing better than before and that is great.Quote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
I hope all goes well with your show. :)
Sounds like you're doing lots of interesting things and keeping busy-that's great. You're fine,try not to worry and look forward to a good week-and you've written a song, I'm envious now!
This is more of what's good for you! Sounds like progress to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
Keep it up! Keep an open-mind. Be open to doing new things and meeting new people. Leave the past behind you. Move forward with your life.
I'm get confused. My ex and I didn't trust almost at all and we still lasted almost 4 years. So I don't get it.
STOP taking those backward steps Emo :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
That's the "unaware of importance of trust and communication" situation with both of you. That's why its not significant with you both, but it came in the long run :) Now u're experienced, and raising your own standards! You're not confused emo, just unaware of it... Keep it up bro! You tend to look back all the time, I hope all you act on was improving yourself, not adding the confusion!
Ok! I have the pictures but I am on my cellphone and I have no idea how to send pictures here on the post for everyone to see. Is there a way?
I just finished watching 'Law Abiding Citizen'! Awesome movie!
SONG EVERYONE MUST LISTEN TO! 'Without You' By HINDER!! Listen to it NOW!
Great song! Music's a good healing tool.
Sorry can't help you with the pics,but have a great day!
That song is not strong enough for me, I like Owl City, the melody just made me feel on top of the world!
EmoQuote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
Transfer the files from your phone to your PC via USB cable or the like , then follow the below instructions on how to attach pics from your PC onto here:
A. "Attach" files (including pictures) from your computer. This method puts the attached file below the text of the post.
Click on an Ask or Answer button to ask or answer a question
Compose your question or answer in the window.
Under the window where you composed your question or answer is a section called Additional Options.
Click on the Manage Attachments button: a pop-up dialog will open.
NOTE: The Manage Attachments dialog lists the maximum sizes of the various types of files that may be attached.
Click the Browse button to navigate to the image on your computer and double click the file on your computer: this will return you to the dialog window.
Click the Upload button.
Click the link to close the dialog window OR repeat numbers 5 & 6 to attach another image.
B. "Embed" image(s) from the internet. This method inserts an image wherever you wish within the text of your post.
Click the Insert Image icon above the posting window: A pop-up asking for the URL will open.
Enter the URL of the image in the field then click the OK button.
Source: AMHD FAQ's
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Hope that helps.
Dude let that broad go... sorry for a lack of better words, no reason to want her back after she did you like that...
Find a girl who you can trust without any problems... 4 yrs is gone... relationship got stagnant... and she left... I been through it and I'm glad its over because of all the problems we had!
Move On, NO COMMUNICATION
Thank you Friend4U! The manage attachmentswasnt working yesterday. I will try again later.
I recently read a thread stating that her boyfriend is controlling because he wouldn't like that she spoke to guys online and I think to better myself I need to see my own problems now. I remember one time my ex wrote to a guy online during a game of poker on myspace. They wrote back and forth regarding the game and saying lol and a few other things I can't remember... I was kind of bothered mostly because it was a good looking guy. She never spoke to anyone while we were both in a game room together and the fact it wasn't even a girl but instead a good looking guy while she thought I wasn't in the room kind of bothered me. I did mention it to her and she got upset. Yet, she would've gotten very upset if she saw me doing that. So, Is it bad for me to be this way for future references? I want to better myself.
P.S. my ex sent me a blank email...
It just says "sent from my palm pixi"
I don't know if she is showing off her new phone or what but it's the first semi contact from her in 2 months and a half. What's that about?
Just talking to people never mind what sex they are while you're playing a game's kind of normal I'd say. I mean we all of us here talk to each other because we've got things in common.. .
Her email-ignore,ignore and don't think about it. For whatever reason she sent it,remember,silence is golden.
My ex sent me a blank email after almost 3 months!! Should I respond? What do I say?
DO NOT RESPOND
If she wanted to say something to you it wouldn't have been a blank message. So either she did it by mistake , or she did it to get rise out of you.
Don't get involved with game playing and undo all the progress you've achieved so far.
Dude, c'mon.
Is that even a question at this point.
Don't go backwards.
Emo, u choosed the right path, the only path. That e-mail is a meaningless act of her, don't even think about it. U must be strong to face the flashbacks and do not break down and step backwards!
I hate to admit it but since the blank email yesterday I feel like I've lost so much energy! I don't feel like doing anything almost all day! Oh nooooo! I keep thinking of her... little things n how we went on vacations together and I got to sleep next to her and have her anytime and talk and I mostly miss her cute body. I love her asian eyes and face. I was so lucky... now look at me!
Emo, don't let this stop you from moving on, I can understand what you're saying but you have a number of good things coming up and a plan for the future so see this for what it was- a blank email meaning nothing.
So a blank message put her back on that pedestal? Just like that? Well, Ya know what Im going to say... CHANGE THE CHANNEL.
You know,, If she sent it to you on purpose, that wasn't very nice. She knew it would drive you up the wall wondering what it meant...
Rockie
It's like Friend4U said, if she wanted to say something, it wouldn't have been with a blank email. Either it was a mistake, or she's fishing for some kind of response. Just ignore it in either case, you'll feel better soon enough.
Well, I didn't feel so good today. I actually cried for the third time in almost 3 months. I have not responded to the email. I will not go backwards... I suffered enough.
"I will not go backwards...I suffered enough."
That's exactly the right attitude. Keep it up.
There's only one way to go-forward. And you're going to continue on that road.
For the first time, I actually reread my entire thread. With the emotional dust mostly settled and my great progress, I actually noticed a few things. In the beginning I thought everyone was against me but it was the total opposite! Everyone has been trying very hard to help me. Cat, thank you for being there since the beginning and giving me the best advice. Same for you TMan! Thank you, IWish, Amicon, Paxe, Friend4U, ohsohappy, justwantfair, and vanheart!
I have been doing a tremendous job in my recovery. I have continued with my band, continued working out, fixing my room, hanging out with friends, registered for school, manage to focus on my job, and not holding anger and being polite and great and humble to everyone as usual. I am happy to know that I can still be myself. Everyday is a step forward. I am happy for these things. I just want to do so much right now. I think I'm understanding everything better and that this is for the best and for my experience because there is something better waiting for me. I think everything happens for a reason and this was a preparation for something better.
That's great Emo,I'm proud of you. Cyberhugs. :-)
Oh no! I was going through my email and there were pictures of her and us! I'm scared if this will draw me back for a while now... We looked so happy and she was so pretty... uh oh! Why did I want to keep looking at it and stare at it?
Delete the pictures. Delete anything that draws you back.
What's not there can't hurt you.
Stay strong now.
OK... deleted! I'm okay!
Its been 3 months and I still think of my ex and it hurts sometimes. Surely she is not feeling this way or else this wouldn't be happening. What am I to do? It's not too bad. I have had a lot of progress and I'm sure there will be more but I don't want to go through this anymore. Also fear of another relationship going bad and so on. Help...
Its OK buddy.
Those feelings will pass if you control them & let them.
Don't worry about anything like what she's thinking. Especially who's next.
Get yourself on track first. Learn from this one.
Realize this is over. That's a good emotional start.
Listen to yourself in your previous post abut recovery. Keep riding that.
She's not going to hurt you any longer.
The past is the past.
Now what?
LOL... don't worry Emo you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last.Quote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
Point is , now that the emotional dust is starting to settle you can actually to see it :)
I surely have accepted it's over and I don't even want her back. Hence, the no contact. I just think of cute things we did, for example:
1. She would raise her hand to speak in a cute way playing around and I would select her and she would say "You Cute!". Then I would raise my hand and she would select me and I'd say, "You Cute!"
2. I would tell her to jum and she used to do this cute little jump. The pictures she took were sooo cute and she looked so happy and innocent.
I just don't get it. Since she started working, she didn't want to see me as much. I can still remember how she would sneak smoking so that I wouldn't find out. She would get upset and either ignore me or throw me out of her house or curse me or swing at me or throw things at my car or slam my door or yell at me in public. She would always wonder who text me and would never believe me. If I were home and she thought I was in my car she would say "prove it" and I would so that she knows I never lie to her. She always thought I was trying to talk or look at other girls and I always reassured her that it's only her because it really was! She would always say she doesn't find any celebrity sexy except me. But I was like c'mon, can't we be honest and be friends a bit and not so strict? I would tell her the ones pretty to me were beyonce and sandra bullock. She would get upset and I'd say but you are prettier and sexier. I don't get it. I never went out behind her back even once. If I were caught once, I wouldn't do it again but yet she did it four times and I still feel bad for doing it back cause that's not like me. Still just for that one time she broke up with me. Even throughout all this, call me stupid, but I'd still accept it all just to select her raised hand and hear her say, "You Cute!".
Rant on.
Everything about your post is about her. She, she, she...
And celebs.. hehhehe.
Plus she went behind your back 4 times. And you still are worrying about her.
What about you, now.
I have been wanting to put an update for a while but couldn't push myself to do it. Here is an update. I have been doing a lot better as far as feeling pain this week. I wake up and I don't really feel anything anymore. Though at times she crosses my mind and I still get sad a bit. I keep thinking its my fault. I wonder what things I could have done differently and saved a pretty good relationship. I don't know anymore. I often wonder that maybe its not my fault since I did tell her 4 times before to please not do things behind my back and lie about it. And every time she did it, she said its because she barely gets to hang out with her friends. Yet she never even mentioned about wanting to hang out with anyone so that always confused me. Then when I would get upset about her lying then and only then would she bring up that she never gets to hang out with friends or something along those lines. It confuses me and I would tell her I have no idea what she means because I'm only bothered that she lied and not that she is hanging out. I never questioned her cheating. That just always confused me how every time she lied then she pulls that same card of "i don't hang out with friends". Why not say hey I'm going to go out with so and so today. Was that emotional blackmailing?
I remember once she wanted to go to a party where an ex was and I said oh you just want to go to see your ex and she said f... you and hung up. She didn't go to the party that time. Then about 2 years later she says she was going out to a club with friends and her sister and I was like OK cool and have fun. Then another time she was going to hang out with friends and I was like OK cool. She went and I asked for her to call when she got there. I ended up calling her and asked why she didn't call when she got there and that was it. I can't remember anything more drastic than these so I don't see her need to lie. Let alone I always took her out with me and never felt the need to do things without her. Confused.
Focus on yourself. Not the whys & what ifs. That's only going to cause more confusion as you are certainly realizing.
The less mental & emotionally energy you spend on her, the better.
Its OK to run all of those past tapes in your mind, but only if you can learn from them & know when to take a break & step back in a clear way.
Hello confused-do you know you're overthinking the past again? You are doing so much better Emo keep moving forward and don't get hung up blaming yourself for the past.
Look forward to the future.
Those memories sound real clear in your head as if your brain is processing them all the time. Emo, go buy a ton of brain boots and give yourself a kick in your brain when this virus sets in!
I get it... but nobody answered my questions... Please friends, answer them or give me your opinion at least. I feel like I wrote my last post for no reason. I need to hear your opinion and talk with you all about it. I have more to say and ask. Please respond. I know I have to keep moving forward and I am. I just want some responses. Talking about it and venting is useful... pLease heLp!
Emo
If my GF was constantly questioning & badgering me whenever I went somewhere without her I'd get sick of it after a while , a good relationship doesn't require constant answers and you have to learn to trust or it won't work anyway in the long run.
I definitely feel you have some major trust issue's when it comes to this girl , so it's something you should work on before you get into another relationship.
Now stop thinking about this girl , IT'S OVER , and start moving forward again.
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