Yep, let's leave it at that. You take care of your life and she will soon try to take care of hers when her marriage doesn't work. Anyhow how you've been doing?
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Yep, let's leave it at that. You take care of your life and she will soon try to take care of hers when her marriage doesn't work. Anyhow how you've been doing?
It is amazing that she has made that jump.
I know I'm better off, I know I don't have to do what she has done, but I kind of feel left behind. She has moved so far forward
Glad college started back up. Having been meeting a lot of people in classes and what not. I have settled into a group on the weekends that do poker tournaments. I have been going back to town where she lives, and have become comfortable with doing that. (she isn't going to keep my away from my closest friends)
I wonder if she is pregnant!
Any way you are doing well and will continue to do so.
I feel bad for the child, if that is true. If it is true, that is fine, as long as she doesn't try to act like it is mine and try and get money out of me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
You know it's understandable that you feel left behind. My ex went with someone else and she probably is going to marry him because she is weak and she has a lot of pressure from her family. Though, it's their life and our lives. We try to make our lives much clearer, fuller and healthier.
We are happy to live, we are not living to feel happy like our exes do.
Actually college started for me also. I would suggest you join a group of volunteering, that makes me feel so much better. Also try to get into some of those college parties.
You have to go on with your life now and do something else... find someone else.
Well if she thought is was yours I don't think she would be marrying this other guy.Quote:
Originally Posted by AKeagle
But it could be that she is not pregnant, but is in love and happy. It's a little too soon for marriage and she is too young IMO but it's not the first a couple has fallen in love and married quickly.
Don't let this stay in your mind. Have some fun. You are a free man.
I agree. I just found out today.Quote:
Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
Paxe: I've been going out almost every night, or meeting up with friends
Nice! It looks like you are NOT in electrical engineering like me :D (aka tons of mens in class and little time to party). I'm trying to get out everyday but I have other stuff to do (study, volunteering, sport (very important)). But try also to meet and go out with different people.Quote:
Originally Posted by AKeagle
Yeah, I went with IT, though it is mostly guys. I take an elective here and there to meet people outside of my degree. It seems to be work. Plus I've been lifting at home, but go to the on campus gyms to ran. I have also been meeting a lot of people at the weekend poker tournaments I play in. It's a good crowd to be around for 6 hours, never a dull moment.Quote:
Originally Posted by paxe
I met this give in my scuba class, we talk almost every other day. We usually partner up together during class. My head keeps getting in the way of asking her on a date
Well it does seem you are in a pickle like me :D. I try to meet people through my friends and through my volunteering, or even college parties. I love poker but I'd never go with a poker tournament.
Seriously for meeting people, volunteering is the best. There is a lot of interesting people. And if you're head is not there, then it's not there. Don't force yourself. You just came out of a relationship and you may need some more time alone.
It is a new day, and the only word that seems to come to mind is desperation
It is Friday, and the only WORDS that come to my mind are: PARTY TIME!! :cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by AKeagle
Mine is poker tournamentQuote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
But as for the mess she is in. That is what comes to mind
Mine is actually sport, party is actually tomorrow :D. Oh and yes, I agree with KC, weekends are for PARTY!
Paxe you were right. I feel very little about what happened. Though I do want to walk into a empty room and yell. Then go back to trainingQuote:
Originally Posted by paxe
Well... why do you even get those informations? It's pointless actually.
Well my friend that told me about the engage meant told me. She just doesn't understand what I told herQuote:
Originally Posted by paxe
Sometimes you need to cut off some of your so called "friends" if they treat you that way. If one of my friend did that to me, I wouldn't think twice about leaving them. One of my "friends" tried to date my ex behind my back, I didn't think too much about keeping him as a friend after that.
Stopped talking to this friend about two weeks ago, cause some bs she pulled about the date I was bringing to a party. But she has my phone number, I read the message, but never responded.Quote:
Originally Posted by paxe
Never would have thought in a million years that the outcome would have turned into this. She has now took the plunge into something serious, which has nothing to stand on. It was her decision, but before anything was mended. Lust, not Love.
I know, I was not what she was looking for. I am not at the point in my life where I am ready to get married.
Some people cope with losses in different way. Me and you we get ourselves better, our exes do stupid things. My ex is getting drunk almost all the time, and once she was so drunk last week she vomited, took her top off and then tried to clean her mess and insulted everybody. Your ex married someone in less than 3 month. I believe that life will reward us and we won't suffer as they do, even though I hope that they get a better life than they have now.
Right now, the only thing I wish for is to wake up and feel better about my loses, for the pain to fade. (which has happened over the last three and some months since it happened)Quote:
Originally Posted by paxe
I choose to cope with my problem silently. Besides here, I don't really talk to people about it. (just yesterday I told my my father the whole story) It is always a downer in any occasion, and I am trying to move up.
As for her decision. It seems the future only has one course.
It's more than understandable that you have pain. By now you should have realized that this pain does go away especially with NC and taking care of yourself. I would suggest talking to more people about it, it will help you out. Now she has chosen her path and you have chosen yours... Actually life does get better for us, much better than our exes.
In the end of the day, you have taken the right decision of moving on and loving yourself first.
I finally broke the news to my parents, everything that I hide from them about this for the last month and some. I also talked to my close friends about it, though like some of you said, "well you dodged that bullet", but also said "It will never last, I give it 6 months max"Quote:
Originally Posted by paxe
The last chapter has been written of this. The End
Now time to start a new book.
Thank you all for the help you have given me
Good luck man!
Good luck and god speed
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