All of us love unwisely at least once,the thing is to learn from our experience and move on. :-)

amicon, thanks so much, I tried to pm you but couldn't find a link, I just wanted to say thanks for being there for me hun, I really do appreciate it, ome days I don't want to get out of bed as he has hurt me so much xxxx

Try pming again tomorrow if you want to-and try to stay strong. It's late evening here in England so I'll say good night.
Take care. X0

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Try pming again tomorrow if you want to-and try to stay strong. It's late evening here in England so I'll say good night.
Take care. X0

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I'm in england to hun, in lancs so I know its late and the weather is snowing for once lol, I can't find a link so il say thank you so much now for all your help and advice xxxxxxxxx

Just a quick update as its 02.20am here, I've just received a text message from my ex's girlfriend mate?? Slating me, the text said that my ex has been forwarding all my texts onto his ex girlfriend? Why would he be so mean, the texts where asking him how he could treat me that way by the way.

Its been a wake up call, I didn't think he could be so low, the text from the unknow woman said I hope your nan is OK? (being sarcastic and just to show he has forwarded my texts), this is my nan that has terminal cancer, they are laughing at my through her, that's sick. Well its given me the wake up call never to bother texting him again and trying to find out why he has turned on me.

Right now he is trying to prove to his ex that he didn't ask me to marry him, even though she has seen the text she don't believe it, and I suppose me stupidly texting him and asking him why he treats me like sh*t don't help my case tbh.

Anyway, its really pi**ed me off that he could sink this low but I suppose shows his true colours.

He always has been this low, you just refused to accept it and wash him from your life entirely. Hopefully you will be angry enough, not just pizzed, to finally end all this crap, and stop going back to it.

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He always has been this low, you just refused to accept it and wash him from your life entirely. Hopefully you will be angry enough, not just pizzed, to finally end all this crap, and stop going back to it.

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I'm such an idiot tal, but I've woken up in time to enjoy xmas :D:D

I stupidly text him asking why he hated me as that was all I wanted to know, as I hadn't done anything wrong when he turned on me :confused

One day he was asking me to marry him and the next he was telling his ex that he never asked me and was calling me stalker :confused: I just didn't understand where he was coming from. Now the ex thinks I'm a loony and want him back, she has seen the texts to prove he asked me to marry him but she said there blurry and can't make them out, she just don't want to see what's in front of her eyes. Then tonight I get abusive texts off his ex gf's mate :confused::confused:

So quit trying to convince someone how stupid they are. Let this mess go down the toilet with the rest of the crap!

Why do I want answers tal? You seem too know a lot and be very wise, don't worry him forwarding my texts to his ex has finished it between us but why do I feel the urge to text him and ask him why he treats me this way??

Louise you keep going back for more. Come on, you have more respect for yourself than that. It gets to be an obsession with you. Why do you keep on reading the texts, from any of them. If you were strong enough, and you wanted to put an end to this, you would change your number, but that isn't happening. You keep going back for more. I can't figure out what you get from all this. Talk to therapist, and get some help.We wouldn't all be wrong.

Louise, you need another hobby that is not your ex. This is an unhealthy obsession. It just seems like you stir things up with others and then complain when they treat you badly.

You need to strive for a little more maturity, which means putting this behind you and putting your energy into something that will make your life better (instead of worse). Do you have a job? Do you go to school? What do you think about besides your ex? What were you doing with your life before you met him?

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why do i want answers tal? you seem too know alot and be very wise, dont worry him forwarding my texts to his ex has finished it between us but why do i feel the urge to text him and ask him why he treats me this way ????

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Partly because your hurt, and wonder why he is an idiot, and partly because you seem not to have better things to do. You seem to be caught in a cycle, and your hoping he changes, or show a better side that he has. But he doesn't have that in him, so you really need to stop looking for it.

Its you who must accept he is an idiot, and uses people. If you can accept a snake bites because that's what they do, you can accept he is no good, and hurting is what he does.

Stay away from snakes and guys like this. Now move on.

Talaniman Rule- Never stand besides a bush you know a snake is hiding in.

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Partly because your hurt, and wonder why he is an idiot, and partly because you seem not to have better things to do. You seem to be caught in a cycle, and your hoping he changes, or show a better side that he has. But he doesn't have that in him, so you really need to stop looking for it.

Its you who must accept he is an idiot, and uses people. If you can accept a snake bites because thats what they do, you can accept he is no good, and hurting is what he does.

Stay away from snakes and guys like this. Now move on.

Talaniman Rule- Never stand besides a bush you know a snake is hiding in.

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Thanks for all your replies, well I've done as you all said and told him enough is enough, my new fella has text him and asked him politely to leave us alone and stop slating me. Anyway, that plan backfired as all my ex is doing now is constantly texting me ex at silly hours in the morning and lets just say writing very explicit messgaes asking my new fella what we are up to and telling him that I am rank and that he had better wear protection. This is putting it very mildly, my ex now refers to me as "it", he said to my boyfriend are you going to do ***** ti "it" tonight in bed, oh and by the way the way tell "it" I love her lol... NOT.

He just wants to ruin my new relationship, he says he don't give a dam about me but then why would he do this to me and my fella, I'm hoping to get a new mobile at xmas to stop all this. This things he says about me are just so graphic and demeaning :(:(:(

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Louise, you need another hobby that is not your ex. This is an unhealthy obsession. It just seems like you stir things up with others and then complain when they treat you badly.

You need to strive for a little more maturity, which means putting this behind you and putting your energy into something that will make your life better (instead of worse). Do you have a job? Do you go to school? What do you think about besides your ex? What were you doing with your life before you met him?

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Asking, I'm looking for new hobbies but at the mo in England its thick with snow so I can't get out but I'm keeping busy, as I said above the ex is now targeting my new fella with really horrible and sexually explicit messages at silly hours of the morning. As for school, I have my degree and a masters and I'm currently completing my Chartered Institute of Marketing Diploma, I have also decided (due to my nan being ill with terminal cancer) that I'm going to apply to go back to uni in Sept and become a nurse. Im feeling more positive today and looking forward to a new yr and a new start, I thought it was cracking up there for a minute as all he does is play mind games with me that I'm taking no longer and I've told him that yesterday. I now just delete his message as mentioned without reading them so his words can't affect me and make me cry :(:(:(

Let the b@stard get the last word, and stop explaining yourself to this idiot. My gosh, ignore him completely.

That's all he wants is the satisfaction of knowing he can get a reaction just by pushing your buttons. Don't give him one.

That's what he wants Tal, the last word grrrrrrr. Im past caring now, he just upsets me so much calling me "it", how could someone turn on someone like this? Its like he don't like me being with my new fella but don't want me either at times

Can you block his number so that his texts are refused? You can on some phones. Constantly texting people the way he does is harassment. Maybe you should have a word with the local bobby?

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Can you block his number so that his texts are refused? You can on some phones. Constantly texting people the way he does is harassment. Maybe you should have a word with the local bobby?

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I've tried that, may bloody phone isn't compatible, I'm going to get a new phone at xmas in the sale so hopefully it will put the end t all this hurt and pain he wants to put me through, I angrily (and stupidly I know) text him the other day and said "i know you want me dead and if you carry on im going to be" he then said to my ex last night, "i thought lou was trying to kill herself, god she is taking a long time in doing it lol :(:(

I've just this second had a text from his ex saying thanks for getting me and **** back on track, I hope you have a nice xmas as I know we will :(:( why do they want to hurt me all the time. She knows and has seen the texts that he has sent me but still goes back for more :confused::confused: , I certainly wouldn't go back to a guy that the week before asked someone else to marry them lol, she must have a very low opinion of herself, that's all I can say. Onwards and upwards I say xxx

Yup-onwards and upwards!