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Originally Posted by madaman

Im in the same boat as you, and have very similiar thoughts quite frequently. It will be so great when this pain is over wont it?

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It will be great when the pain is finally over but sometimes I think it's going to last forever. Just about the time I start to feel better, WHAMMM it hits me like a ton of bricks and I'm back where I started.

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Originally Posted by cerisa

Missing Him, I have followed your posts for a while now. I hope you find some peace in your life soon. Heartache is a real pain as well as an emotional one, and it causes real damage to your body. Please, do something nice for yourself every day. A quiet moment with something you enjoy... warm bath, glass of wine, cup of tea, whatever. Know that many people are rooting for your "recovery" your situation is a sad one, but you can come out of it with your head held high. best of luck to you.

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Thanks so much cerisa for your caring response, Tuesday's his Birthday so I just might have to take a warm bath, have a cup of tea and several glasses of wine to get through this one. His B-Day will be the first major day we won't share since he left and I'm worried it's going to be a rough one.

Cerisa had some excellent suggestions! I know EXACTLY what it's like to be so hurt and confused that you can't think of anything except him.

On big dates like tonight, maybe in the future you could round up some close girlfriends and go to dinner or catch a comedy. Kansas City has some good comedy clubs! Laughter IS the best medicine! :)

Anyway, it's not healthy to stew over the same thing. You'll make yourself sick! I know because I've been down that path, and it's miserable. I'll keep you in my prayers, and hopefully your heart ache will soon start to fade. :)

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Originally Posted by kujhawk48

Cerisa had some excellent suggestions! I know EXACTLY what it's like to be so hurt and confused that you can't think of anything except him.

On big dates like tonite, maybe in the future you could round up some close girlfriends and go to dinner or catch a comedy. Kansas City has some good comedy clubs! Laughter IS the best medicine! :)

Anywho, it's not healthy to stew over the same thing. You'll make yourself sick! I know because I've been down that path, and it's miserable. I'll keep you in my prayers, and hopefully your heart ache will soon start to fade. :)

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Thank you kujhawk for keeping me in your prayers. I know I have healed considerably since he left and I owe it all to the people here on this forum. I know I have a long road ahead of me but at least I know I can get anything off my chest here and I always get helpful and caring responses. It really means a lot and it makes me feel like I'm not so alone in all of this.

Hi Missing
I think your doing real well.
Michael :-)

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Originally Posted by friend4u178

Hi Missing
I think your doing real well.
Michael :-)

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Thanks hon, I am doing much better. Am I completely healed.. NO but I can tell I'm moving in the right direction.

I helped mine get his first bank account! I helped him get his first car (and we were 24). I introduced him to the music he likes now. I helped him write his resume and called everyone I knew to get him a job. He moved up because I consistently encouraged him; how smart he was, how special and talented. Anything he needed, I did for him.
Now he's sharing that with someone else. And he probably looks like the most put together person, but I did that for him. And you know what? It was an incredible waste of my emotional and psychic energy. And now? After two years I can honestly say I don't care.

It will hurt in the beginning. You will wonder if he's doing all the things he did with you with someone else. Mine actually came back, but by that time, I didn't want him.

I promise these thoughts will fade over time. It's not easy in the beginning, but keep focused on the light at the end of the tunnel...

Good luck!

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Originally Posted by shadylady1979

I helped mine get his first bank account! I helped him get his first car (and we were 24). I introduced him to the music he likes now. I helped him write his resume and called everyone I knew to get him a job. He moved up because I consistently encouraged him; how smart he was, how special and talented. Anything he needed, I did for him.
Now he's sharing that with someone else. And he probably looks like the most put together person, but I did that for him. And you know what? It was an incredible waste of my emotional and psychic energy. And now? After two years I can honestly say I don't care.

It will hurt in the beginning. You will wonder if he's doing all the things he did with you with someone else. Mine actually came back, but by that time, I didn't want him.

I promise these thoughts will fade over time. It's not easy in the beginning, but keep focused on the light at the end of the tunnel....

good luck!!

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I've heard that they actually try and come back. I haven't seen any indication that he even wants to. I don't think I want him back now but I just want him to try. I know that sounds crazy. 3 days after he left me for this HO I talk to him on the phone, his last words to me were " our bond is still very strong and you are my best friend" that was 3 months ago and I haven't heard from him since.

Well today was my ex's b-day. Man was it hard. This was the first time in 7 yrs I wasn't with him on his birthday. A girl I work with had a b-day over the weekend so today she brought me some of her b-day cake. I thought how ironic that she doesn't even know my ex but she brought me b-day cake on his birthday (WEIRD). Anyway those that know my story know that my son works with my ex. Well today they all passed around a card for everyone to sign. When the card got to my son he didn't sign it. Later my ex asks my son why didn't you sign my card? My son just looks at him and said " Like I give a Fawk if its your birthday. My son said my ex looked all sad and walked away. I mean God what did he think was gonna happen? Did he think my son was gonna say " Hey buddy thanks for screw'n over my mom and have a wonderful birthday" Ok well I didn't actually have a question I just needed to vent a little bit.

Hi everybody,

It seems like I've been posting a lot lately. I thought I was well on the road to recovery until this past week. First his birthday was Tuesday and that kicked my butt now today I find out his girlfriend is pregnant with twins. I knew she has been claiming to be pregnant with his baby since a few weeks after he left me but the part I don't get is how I found out. Let me explain. My son works with my ex and his girlfriend as you know, well today my sons wife went to their work to pick my son up and my ex comes out of work as soon as he saw her there. He of course told her about the twins and in response my daughter in law asks him if he's sure the babies are his, he says " I'm pretty sure they are" So anyway that's not what's hurting me so much, OK it is... but what's bothering me the most is. Why did my ex go out of his way to tell a member of my family this news? I mean he knows that they want nothing to do with him since all of this happened. Ok what I'm getting at is I realize that my ex doesn't love me anymore obviously but if anything we were bestfriends and he was never a mean spirited person. So WHYYYY would he tell my sons wife knowing full well it would get directly back to me? It's like he's trying to twist the knife as deep into my heart as he possibly can. Can someone please tell me why he's deliberately trying to hurt me when all I've done is let him go quietly and not so much as contacted him so he could have his new life?? If anyone has an answer I would be grateful. Thanks

If I were you I wouldn't bother worrying about this guy. Seriously, that's there issue with twins and you should just be having fun being single.

Dear woman: You must try to remember that you, the children, your x-husband, his girl friend, the sister, a friends sister and maybe a few cats and dogs are all tied up with each other on a day to day basis and this in itself is the perfect formula for producing dicite, innuendo, rumor, distrust, pain, anger, acting-out and many other sad little goodies. If you don't get yourself out of this loop I'd imagine someday you'll hear that Rex the dog who the sister thought was a male is going to have a liter of kittens in 6 and a half weeks and you'll hear of this from the girl at the gas station who is also a part-time ultrasonographer who documented the girl friends twins 11 days ago.

You can break this link of hyena crap by ignoring 98% of everything you hear and try anything to redirect your skills. Your smart and can do it. Best wishes.

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If i were you i wouldn't bother worrying about this guy. Seriously, that's there issue with twins and you should just be having fun being single.

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I'm not trying to worry about him, in fact I've cut him out of my life and not contacted him. I was just curious if anyone could give me some insight as to why after all this time of no contact he's telling my family news that he knows will hurt me when he really has no reason to want to.

He may be a little salty and is trying to get a reaction out of you. I would RUN RUN RUN and leave him in the dust. There is no need to bother with him. He has a new life new family and HE Isn't EVEN SURE IF THE KIDS ARE HIS! That in itself should be a sign that he is a Noodle and doesn't deserve your time or attention. GOOD LUCK!

Disengage yourself from the ex as far as you can. Tell your family and extended family to keep all and any news/gossip about the ex and his life to themselves. Does you no good to hear it. Get on with your own recovery.

Have you viewed the posts from members on how to get over a guy, what to do after being dumped, etc.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...kup-78597.html
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ed-123862.html
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...sh-114179.html

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Originally Posted by kuulski

He may be a little salty and is trying to get a reaction out of you. I would RUN RUN RUN and leave him in the dust. There is no need to bother with him. He has a new life new family and HE ISNT EVEN SURE IF THE KIDS ARE HIS! That in itself should be a sign that he is a Noodle and doesnt deserve your time or attention. GOOD LUCK!

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HAHAHA! A Noodle, that's funny. I love it! I would have to agree with you. Leaving me is his loss and he is a NOODLE.

I have an interesting update to share with everyone. Well my ex and his girlfriend are over. She finally admitted that the twins she's pregnant with aren't his...

She told him that they are her ex boyfriends babies and so they called it quits.
As most of you know my son also works with them and he said that my ex and her got into such a huge fight at work yesterday that they almost got fired.

His big reason for leaving me for this Ho was because he wanted a baby. WELL BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR, YOU JUST MIGHT GET IT. Hehehe.

Do I sound happy about this? HELL yeah I'm happy. I wasted 7 yrs of my life on someone that in the end walked away because I didn't give him a baby. Well looks like she didn't either. She just passed them off as his while it served her purpose.

Ok I know it's taken me a long time to recover from this... But I just wonder how do you recover from leaving a good 7 yr relationship that in everyway seemed extremely happy, All though minus the baby he wanted, for a lying tramp that told you your biggest wish was coming true only to find out less then 6 months later she lied the whole time... Oh the humiliation he must be feeling knowing that everyone he works with and all of his friends know how bad he betrayed me. Talk about being bit in the @ss...

Can Anyone Say KARMA??

Karma!! Lol

Sounds like this jacka$$ got just what he deserved.

KARMA... LOL
What goes around, comes around!!
Good for him, he betrayed you and left you and in the end he got what he deserved.
I'm sure it's still tough getting over him but I wish u the best of luck.

Just don't get weak, and let him come sniffing around you again.