Thanks, amicon. I know it's a tough journey, but I have to go through it. Thoughts of her with her new guy really hurt me bad. Someone told me last couple of weeks that her new guy is one of her ex's friends. It means that they knew each other for quite some time, obviously way before me and the thoughts of me being her ex's rebound makes me feel so sad.

I'll try to be good to myself from now on. I've been grieving for more than 1/2 year. I hope this will stop soon.

Don't just try-do it-be good to yourself.
Do at least one thing every day that makes you feel happy,really happy.

It's a new week,make this the week your new life starts.

Yeah just try. As if. Do you know how?

You're making it tough. Yeah you. By wallowing and relying on this cuddling here.

When are you going to do something? Haven't heard jack sh**t about that, only boo hoo-ing.

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I'll try to be good to myself from now on. I've been grieving for more than 1/2 year. I hope this will stop soon.

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If you'd started NC etc. at the start like we all advised you to the grieving would be virtually over by now. That's why we say the sooner you start accepting it's over and start to move on the sooner you'll get to that good place.

Bottom line... it's your choice!!

She is probably going through mental problems or she ended up -ucking around on you and instead of her looking like the bad guy maybe trying to make you look and feel like the bad guy to make herself feel better for whatever reason. She obviosly is not remorseful for screwing around which is probably exactly what happened.

Why are you apologizing I wonder what set her off, truly. Sometimes others hate other people for no reason. Obviously she disposes you for some reason but what does it matter?

Whatever the reason is it is over, and I hope you find somebody in the future that is more sane and less mental problems.

Good luck.

Hi guys, it's been a while since I last visited this site. I went for a one month break. I was feeling good when I was away from the country. Although her images did flash through my mind, it wasn't that bad, as I was busy walking around, enjoying different cultures, trying new things and most importantly I met a lot of great people. When I was away, my ex kept sending me myspace messages but I deleted it right away after I saw it. I think she is ready to be friend again. But I'm not, as I still have feelings for her. Sometimes I don't, and sometimes I do. It's weird. She thinks that I hate her for all the heart aches she puts me through. I didn't respond to any of her messages. She makes it sounds like I was the one who didn't want to be her friends but in reality she was the one who cut all ties with me. Why so? I'm trying to heal as much as I could. At times, I'm OK. At times, I'm not but I know I'll get through it.

Thanks guys for your advice. It helps a lot!

Good,you're getting there.

Ignore her messages forever.
It doesn't matter what she thinks or feels.


Keep healing and keep being good to yourself.

Come back and let us know how you are.

I must say that the one month break did help me a lot. Being away from the country is definitely a good way of healing. Also, resting my burden to God has helped to get through this difficult time. And not to forget, without you guys, I think I'll probably still keep dwelling on the past. Of course, I will think of my ex off and on, but nothing serious. Lately, I've got a feeling that I'm ready to love. Erm, it's like... I can't wait to love someone. The feeling is so strong, however, without any doubts... I have not met her yet! I can't deny that there are some setbacks till now, but I'll quickly turn it around. Is this a sign that I almost reach the finish line or I'm already there?

I think you are just about ready to cross that finishingline-great-no more tragedy-but harmony!

Of course you'll love again,just take your time and enjoy your life till that happens.

Happy Easter!

Thanks, Amicon... I'm waiting for that moment to come... and Happy Easter to you too! ;)

I think your feeling better, and that's great, don't get me wrong, but there may yet to be more work to be done, as the process is ongoing, but that doesn't mean your completely healed, just feeling good about yourself. There is no hurry, keep working, and see what life brings you, and you will know if you're ready or not, to cope with it.

Healing is never about a partner, past, present, or future, but about your ability to cope with anything you're faced with, especially your own feelings.

Hi guys, I just thought of giving a little update on my progress. One of my friends who's just back from another part of the world invited few of our friends including my ex for some kind of short catch up. Initially I didn't want to go because I do not want any setbacks anymore. But, somehow, something is telling me to go. I went... but I didn't look at her directly. Maybe I should put it this way. I didn't even want to look at her. When she started to talk, I felt a little weird. It's like I could feel the blood was rushing through my veins, and I quickly changed my focus to other things. The interesting part is that weird feeling just vanished a minute or two. I don't feel that kind of pain I had last few weeks or months ago. Of course, I do think of her once in a while (I just dreamt of her yesterday). I don't know how to explain it but the feeling is no longer the same. It's like... I wouldn't want such a friend. I was myself the whole night and I pretended that she doesn't exist at all. I'm glad that I went for the short gathering... I know there'll be some part of me still think of her and I hope it will go away soon. In short, I hope I can reach the finish line soon :)

Thanks, guys for your help and support! :)

Nice milestone. A dreaded & uncomfortable one.

Glad you handled it well & came away feeling good.
In the past now.

Cheers, man.

Great to hear , I think we did mention to you it gets better with time :)


And you didn't believe us did you ;)

I'm proud of you!

Time is a great healer.

Keep going.

It's been a while since I last posted on my progress. Recently, my ex spoke to one of my mates and she kept asking him whether I'm still mad at her and she no longer has that feeling for me and only loves me as a friend. I told my mate that she shouldn't care for me anymore when she no longer loves me. Well, my mate told her exactly what I said and she replied that I should grow up. I find that's ridiculous. Can't she recall what she puts me through?

More drama from not being total NC.

Its up to your mate to respect that.

Whatever you hear isn't going to be good.

Like:

"she no longer has that feeling for me"

Stop worrying about her.

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It's been a while since I last posted on my progress. Recently, my ex spoke to one of my mates and she kept asking him whether I'm still mad at her and she no longer has that feeling for me and only loves me as a friend. I told my mate that she shouldn't care for me anymore when she no longer loves me. Well, my mate told her exactly what I said and she replied that I should grow up. I find that's ridiculous. Can't she recall what she puts me through?

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Who cares right :rolleyes:

I really don't care what she wants to say but one thing for sure is that I don't need her sympathy. I'm leaving the town in the next few weeks, moving on to a new place. She can continue to pretend that she cares for me as a friend or being nice in front of my mates, I don't really care. Sometimes, I just don't get it why people behave such a way after they broke someone else's heart...

All Im hearing is her.

Screw that.

You already got it, get it?