That's just a feeling, it's not your brain that's working. What is your brain saying? Use it :D

The account has finally been closed. So now I don't have to take care of that. And all ties to each other have been cut.

Great! Keep up the good work!

It would be awesome if the butterfly effect could be achieved, just a thought

What butterfly effect?

If someone could go back in time, by just changing the smallest thing, you could change the course of the future. But it could be changed for better or worse.

I wouldn't go back in time, and once you get over this, neither will you. Sure it's easier to say it now, but think of the consequences. Had I chosen to go back in time and "fix" things, I wouldn't have met my fiancé, or grew closer to my friends, got in better shape or advanced my career.

In a few months, re read this thread, you will think of yourself as an arseclown, I know I sure did

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I wouldn't go back in time, and once you get over this, neither will you. Sure it's easier to say it now, but think of the consequences. Had I chosen to go back in time and "fix" things, I wouldn't have met my fiance, or grew closer to my friends, got in better shape or advanced my career.

In a few months, re read this thread, you will think of yourself as an arseclown, I know I sure did

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I don't really want to change the past, and I know it is impossible. It would just be cool, to see if I could change things for the better between her and I, then go back to normal. I could learn a lot from that

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I wouldn't go back in time, and once you get over this, neither will you. Sure it's easier to say it now, but think of the consequences. Had I chosen to go back in time and "fix" things, I wouldn't have met my fiance, or grew closer to my friends, got in better shape or advanced my career.

In a few months, re read this thread, you will think of yourself as an arseclown, I know I sure did

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100% right! Same here. If I went back in time and made some changes, I wouldn't have meet wonderful girls, lost weights, traveled everywhere and grow closer to my friends and family. My brother is telling me all the time that it is the best thing that even happened to me. You'll probably see why soon. The past is the past, try to concentrate on the future ;)

I still wouldn't mind the second chance to work things out. Which everyone is telling me she won't contact or come back ever.

You're doing great, don't dwell on those thoughts.

Today is a hard day, it's my birthday, and I have spent the last 4 years with her on this day. Her birthday is on the 7th, which we always did something special together. I really want her here with me! She just sent me a private message on Facebook, saying " just wanted to say happy birthday"

Why would she do that when she doesn't care? She has done enough damage, why is she putting gas on the fire?

I don't think it does, but does that count as breaking contact?

Should I do the same in 5 days when its her birthday?

NO! That's just an excuse to break NC

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NO! That's just an excuse to break NC

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Yeah I figured that, day 21 with no contact.
Not really sure how I should look at her contact me. Or why she even bothered

Don't break NC! It's the perfect time to be doing something exciting ALONE and with friends or family. For some reasons the dumper always wants to know what the dumpee is doing, aka they want to know if we suffer. Don't answer back!! Just do something yourself or with friends!

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Don't break NC!! It's the perfect time to be doing something exciting ALONE and with friends or family. For some reasons the dumper always wants to know what the dumpee is doing, aka they want to know if we suffer. Don't answer back!!! Just do something yourself or with friends!

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Well she isn't really trying to find out how I am doing, she just said happy birthday.
I never delete people off Facebook, I think it is childish, should I make an exception for her and her family/any of her friends? Like I never post anything about what I am doing, just basic stuff, like something that I see happen, that was interesting, or a cool fact, or what not

Don't mention her birthday.Don't say anything.

No txt/email/call/im/in person

Think of all the control she has had over you.

This is your one chance besides the NC to get some back.

The girl is worthless,does not care about you or how you feel,why notice her birthday?

You aren't important enough to her,that you would be replaced in... not even a few months...
So..

Just another day... move along.

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well she isn't really trying to find out how i am doing, she just said happy birthday.
i never delete people off facebook, i think it is childish, should i make an exception for her and her family/any of her friends? like i never post anything about what i am doing, just basic stuff, like something that i see happen, that was interesting, or a cool fact, or what not

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She does not deserve to even see what you are doing in your life,or feel the comfort of 'oh I can talk to him in Facebook any time... what I did couldn't have been that bad'
Stop giving her the comfort blanket
Pull it off.Be a man.

By the way

The effect not noticing her birthday may have?

She might contact you asking why you forgot.

Or if she's as stubborn as my ex she will say nothing,to get on your nerves even more,and again the mature response to that is,don't notice she 'didn't notice' you forgot her birthday.

And to keep this on the same page, on my birthday,my ex called me to wish me a happy one as well.I was aggitated at the time and asked 'why did you bother,it isn't as if I wanted to hear from you'
They replied with 'well I just remembered and.. so... do you still love me'

2 weeks later they're in love with someone else

So go figure.