ihatewestseneca:

She doesn't want "one more buddy"... she wants "at least one buddy"... seriously, if you come to my school (of 10,000) and ask about her, she doesn't have a single friend here. It's really sad. She had the rep of a saint for 3.5 years. People used to come up to me and ask, "how'd you get her?!?"... and now, it's more along the lines of... "oh her? yeah, f her"

I'm not so sure she thinks I want her... as I cut her out completely and she's been getting updates from my friends about my life and has found out that I've been going on dates. She once found out that I went on a date with this girl (remember that girl who said "we need to set up ground rules?") and she freaked out... started calling my friends and asking if we're in a relationship... etc. so I'm sure she knows I want nothing from her.

I AM a slut. I was recently deemed the following monikers:

Narcissistic masochist - I am dr. house.

Karma - I do bad things and I don't get what's coming to me...

Man whore -... kp did that one.

Personally, I would leave things between the ex alone as why change a situation that's working so well, and let people say what they want. By the way I'll be visiting the grandkids in Stone Mountain this summer, so if you hear a lot of hooting and hollering, that's us.

Well, I own a shirt that says "manwhore" and ladies enjoy it. Girls at school will read it and give me this look like "who are you kidding" and then I say "for you, 30$" then you know, exchange them digits.

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Originally Posted by ihatewestseneca

well, i own a shirt that says "manwhore"

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I have one that says..

... ready?

... here goes...

I LIE TO GIRLS

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Personally, I would leave things between the ex alone as why change a situation thats working so well, and let people say what they want. By the way I'll be visiting the grandkids in Stone Mountain this summer, so if you hear a lot of hooting and hollering, thats us.

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I completely agree.

On the stone mountain thing... hope you're prepped to get in an argument over who won the civil war.

... on my most recent trip, I got in an argument with a nice gentlemen about who won the civil war. Seriously.

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

I got in an argument with a nice gentlemen about who won the civil war. seriously.

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Haha, of course it was the south! Psh

Word, man. WORD. Let your ex stew in her own BS. Ugh..

Oh sneeeze. You were sort of slutty this past break, but whatever. It's college (yeeaaa~). My advice is that you live it up before you leave the nest.

Best,
J

Sneeze
I think you need to remember this split only happened about 3 months ago , that's not that long for a relationship that went for over 3 years. The fact that you know all this "stuff" about her and what she thinks etc is not doing you any good in my opinion. Even though you seem like your pretty much over her , you do seem to me to hold a fair bit of resentment against her.

Let her think what she likes , let her do whatever she wants and let her and her friends think and say whatever they want to about you. It doesn't matter.

as far as my resentment, it's not really much of a resentment but apathetic disappointment. I really don't care much about what happens with her life... just a bit disappointed that who I thought she was... isn't really her.

I do not go out of my way to find out about her... but people constantly come up to me to tell me about her.

At times, I tell people I don't want to hear it. Really.

as far as my life, I think I'm doing OK =D

midterm week. Yikes.

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

midterm week. yikes.

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Too right!

Well, if you are both staying in atl for a year, I wouldn't rush into the friends thing. Maybe in 5 months or whenever you feel ready. But right now things might be too fresh. No rush, just keep doing your thing.

I'm glad you're doing well Sneezy. You are an inspiration to all us guys who have trouble moving on. With regards to the whole friends thing, well I would let it happen naturally. At the moment she wants your verbal agreement to a friendship in order to make things easier, maybe even ease her guilt. However, I would just let it happen when it happens. What I mean is that someday you two may eventually run into each other and have something more to say than "Hello." Maybe you'll even have a class or work together. Conversation will more than likely occur naturally and by then there will be no more bad feelings. From there a friendship can develop, heck maybe even a relationship will blossom again, but one step at a time. Don't force a friendship, just let it occur on its own.

I agree confused. Cept the thing is, I'm pre-med... working in a research lab. She's an educational studies major... and she doesn't have a job. Therefore, once we say goodbye @ graduation... chances are, we won't ever see each other again... except for the 1 year she and I will be here in atl.

I was also told today that she is staying an extra year... but due to a lack of a job, she will be living with the new guy.

The trend continues.

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

we won't ever see each other again...

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You never know what could happen Sneeze... if I remember correctly you didn't see the break up coming. And I'm sure when you were in the relationship that breaking up was the furthest thing from your mind... just like the idea that you may never see her again... stranger things have happened.

I need a woman's opinion on this...

Remember NEW GIRL (the girl who said we needed to set some ground rules?) https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...161688-15.html (post 148)

Well... we haven't spoken to one another in a while... she went on spring break... I worked... midterms... etc. anyway, this morning, I get an e-mail from her saying the following message:

Sneezy:

I hope your spring break went well. I had a blast! We should meet up for lunch soon. Are you free April 2? Say... 12:30? Let me know!

I didn't think much of the e-mail until I read April 2.

... April 2?!

That's 2 weeks away! It's not like we're far from one another... she lives in the apartment building next to me... we go to the same school...

I don't know, it made me do a double take. It's one thing to plan a trip 2 weeks in advance... but to plan a lunch 2 weeks in advance is a bit weird to me. Is it not? I admit, she's busy... I'm busy... but I wouldn't plan a date 2 weeks in advance, much less lunch.

This post reads as if I'm freaking out about it... I am not. I just thought it was really odd. It's one of those things that make you think... "is this a joke?"

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

I need a woman's opinion on this...

Remember NEW GIRL (the girl who said we needed to set some ground rules?) https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...161688-15.html (post 148)

well...we haven't spoken to one another in a while...she went on spring break...I worked...midterms...etc. anywho, this morning, I get an e-mail from her saying the following message:

Sneezy:

I hope your spring break went well. I had a blast! We should meet up for lunch soon. Are you free april 2? say...12:30? let me know!

I didn't think much of the e-mail until I read April 2.

...April 2?!?

that's 2 weeks away! It's not like we're far from one another...she lives in the apartment building next to me...we go to the same school...

I don't know, it made me do a double take. It's one thing to plan a trip 2 weeks in advance...but to plan a lunch 2 weeks in advance is a bit weird to me. is it not? I admit, she's busy...I'm busy...but I wouldn't plan a date 2 weeks in advance, much less lunch.

This post reads as if I'm freaking out about it...I am not. I just thought it was really odd. it's one of those things that make you think..."is this a joke?"

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"ground rules" and a set date... hmmmm... could be she likes to have some sort of control over things. Not necessarily a bad thing. Or maybe she just has a lot of stuff going on and wants to make some time for you because she likes you...

Maybe she meant march 21st. And just was thinking about April and forgot the "1" lol.

That is strange...

Hey Sneezy. Well first to respond to one of your earlier posts. I definitely understand that the different paths you and your ex are taking might result in you two never seeing each other again. However, I still think you should let a friendship grow naturally. The day you two say goodbye at graduation may be the day you two say hello to a friendship. It's possible you may never see each other again, but remember it's a very small world.

As for your new "dilemma." Well as I always say, we can never really know what a persons intentions are. Maybe she wanted to give you ample time to schedule, maybe she is really busy, or maybe she wanted to make it clear that its just a friendly get together instead of a date by letting you know she is not in a hurry to see you. Really though, who the heck knows.

If I were you I would wait a day or two to respond. Than when I do e-mail her I would tell her that lunch sounds great but it seems that week is a rather busy one for you (school, work, etc.) so at the moment you are not sure you can make it. However, you will let her know for sure by the end of the week. Tell her that it was great hearing from her and that you will e-mail her soon.

That's what I would do, but wait for some other responses. I'm sure you'll get some good ideas soon.

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Originally Posted by mafiaangel180

"ground rules" and a set date...hmmmm...could be she likes to have some sort of control over things. Not necessarily a bad thing. Or maybe she just has a lot of stuff going on and wants to make some time for you because she likes you...

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Yeah, she's a very independent (and business like) girl. Think ivanka trump. Seriously. Wears expensive clothing... jewelry... but ready to stomp your balls out in a second... but also the sweetest girl in the world. Hands down.

For some reason, I'm attracted to that.

I e-mailed her back and replied, "april 2..? plan much? not sure if I'll be free that day...let me know closer to the date"

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

yeah, she's a very independent (and business like) girl. think ivanka trump. seriously. wears expensive clothing...jewelry...but ready to stomp your balls out in a second...but also the sweetest girl in the world. hands down.

for some reason, I'm attracted to that.

I e-mailed her back and replied, "april 2..? plan much? not sure if I'll be free that day...let me know closer to the date"

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Wow... that's sexy in a scary way. I don't even have balls, yet oddly I felt it when you said that.