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  • May 27, 2009, 03:48 PM
    Steve1010

    She's texting me. Lol she said sorry I'm not good enough.. putting it all on me
  • May 27, 2009, 03:49 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    shes texting me. lol she said sorry im not good enough.. putting it all on me

    Why are you reading her texts?

    You really don't want help, do you?
  • May 27, 2009, 03:53 PM
    Steve1010

    What's the big deal if I read them? I'm not going to not look at my phone I have a lot of friends I talk to
  • May 27, 2009, 03:57 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    whats the big deal if i read them? im not going to not look at my phone i have alot of freinds i talk to

    If it's not a big deal then why are you stressing about it? Why are we hearing about it?

    Sounds like it is a big deal.

    I'm thinking you're beyond help. You don't really want advice at all, you just want someone to whine to.
  • May 27, 2009, 03:58 PM
    Steve1010

    Think what u want. I came on here for advice
  • May 27, 2009, 04:01 PM
    BlackVY

    Then take our advice and listen to us. We know what we are talking about too. Don't look at your phone, Don't contact her, Do other things. LISTEN!
  • May 27, 2009, 04:04 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    think what u want. i came on here for advice

    LMAO! No you don't, you come on her to whine and complain.

    Advice you got, over and over and over and over again.

    I'm done. You're a lost cause.

    I'd be very surprised if anyone wastes any more time on this.

    You do realize that we do this for free, right? There are other people that come here and actually listen to what we say. You're not one of those people.

    190 posts in 2 days, all on this thread, the majority of it a play by play of what she's saying to you, what she's doing to you and a whole lot of "Woe is me".

    Why don't you call her, get on your knees and beg her forgiveness, you know you want to, you know you will eventually, why put it off?

    Sigh. I'm going to go bang my head on a desk, it's more productive.

    Good luck.
  • May 27, 2009, 04:05 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    Then take our advice and listen to us. We know what we are talking about too. Don't look at your phone, Don't contact her, Do other things. LISTEN!

    How many times has this advice been given? 200? 300? More?

    It's falling on deaf ears. He doesn't want advice.
  • May 27, 2009, 04:07 PM
    Steve1010

    OK ill listen. I'm sorry I just did play by play because I didn't know what was going on and I thought it would help.. I really appreciate you helping.
  • May 27, 2009, 04:10 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    ok ill listen. im sorry i just did play by play because i didnt know what was going on and i thought it would help.. i really appreciate u helping.

    And you've said this more then a dozen times too.

    I'm not you, I don't fall for the same line over and over again. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
  • May 27, 2009, 04:11 PM
    twinkiedooter

    Steve - forget her and get a real girlfriend. This girl is taking you for a R.I.D.E. Get off at the next exit fast or face HER consequences. There is no other answer for this. She is a child posing as a maybe adult in a woman's body. Get a clue. She is immature and needs to grow up.

    You should look elsewhere for someone else. This chick is way too messed up headwise by her mama for you or any other man right now and needs to grow up. Maybe in a few years once she's lived on her own and can think for herself you might get back together with her, but right now she is way too messed up for you or anyone else.

    You will be used and used daily by her. So either get over her and move on or keep being used. It's your choice.

    That's just my 2 cents as I can see no viable happy ending to your miserable situation with her using you emotionally.
  • May 27, 2009, 04:13 PM
    Steve1010

    So if I don't contact her.. how will I know if she's fooling me?
  • May 27, 2009, 04:14 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    ok ill listen. im sorry i just did play by play because i didnt know what was going on and i thought it would help.. i really appreciate u helping.

    Ok then , if you really do appreciate our help, then listen to us. You want advice, we are giving it. Listen to us

    Stop reading her messages, its hurting you, which is what she wants.

    Do not contact her, again, that is what she wants, it gives her the power again.

    Forget about this girl, because as much as you love her, she is not right for you.

    Think about yourself, do what you need to do and make yourself happy. This time it is all about you. You will get through this. BE STRONG
  • May 27, 2009, 04:17 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    If she is not your girl friend, then she is not fooling around she is just dating.

    And the other point, you should not care, don't need to know and move on
  • May 27, 2009, 04:19 PM
    Steve1010
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    if she is not your girl friend, then she is not fooling around she is just dating.

    And the other point, you should not care, don't need to know and move on

    What do u mean from the first line?
  • May 27, 2009, 04:20 PM
    Steve1010
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    Ok then , if you really do appreciate our help, then listen to us. You want advice, we are giving it. Listen to us

    Stop reading her messages, its hurting you, which is what she wants.

    Do not contact her, again, that is what she wants, it gives her the power again.

    Forget about this girl, because as much as you love her, she is not right for you.

    Think about yourself, do what you need to do and make yourself happy. This time it is all about you. You will get through this. BE STRONG

    Thanks so much, I will still be posting as I need experts for advice still... it helps me vent a little
  • May 27, 2009, 04:27 PM
    BlackVY

    Yes, venting a little is fine, but telling us what she is saying when we told you not to look at her messages or reply is not listening to our advice. If you need to vent, write in a journal or on your computer or something. A forum is where you ask for advice, get it, and if you want, listen to it. If you don't like the advice or aren't going to listen to it, then this is not the place for you. Just letting you know.

    Basically, ask questions, get advice, then listen or don't listen, but don't keep asking the same questions over and over again is you are not willing to take the advice we give.
  • May 27, 2009, 04:36 PM
    Ren6
    Steve... you came here asking for advice. Everybody gave you good advice. Don't contact this girl for twenty-four hours. Don't even read her texts! Turn off your phone. This is your third night doing the same stupid thing over and over, with the same stupid results. Try our plan once, and see how it goes.
  • May 27, 2009, 04:38 PM
    Steve1010

    OK, ill give it a try. Ill report back tomorrow
  • May 27, 2009, 04:42 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    ok, ill give it a try. ill report back tommorrow

    Yup, 24 hours. See how it goes and seriously stick to it.

    NO contact

    DON'T read her messages

    Don't even think about her. Do other things...
  • May 27, 2009, 04:43 PM
    friend4u178

    WOW , this is a long thread :eek:

    Steve

    People on here (some very smart people I might add ) have told you what you should do and how you should go about it. Rather than going back and forth over old ground and asking the same thing over and over its now up to you. People are going to get sick of it and will eventually get sick of reading and answering.

    So now you have a decision to make , you ignore the advise and stay stuck until you come to your senses and finally stop wasteing more time wallowing in self pity OR take the advice and start using it , sure come back and discuss your progress and we'll all be here to listen to you vent and help you get through it.

    DECISION TIME!!

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