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  • May 25, 2009, 10:08 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    ahh i dont know? im sorry?

    but it could be to late by then.

    Why would you say you are sorry? You last message to her was "I love you"... don't be sorry for anything...

    SHE is the one who should be sorry...
  • May 25, 2009, 10:10 PM
    Steve1010

    I'm not sure what is going on.. I'm scared she won't say anything to me tomorrow.. or she will FLIP when I answer that night
  • May 25, 2009, 10:16 PM
    Steve1010

    I don't know why this whole night, all those texts I didn't answer.. she never said I LOVE U, or sorry
  • May 25, 2009, 10:16 PM
    Steve1010
    She hasn't said anything in 15 minutes, last text was

    Wow thought u were different. Clearly not
  • May 25, 2009, 10:17 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    im not sure what is going on.. im scared she wont say anything to me tommorrow.. or she will FLIP when i answer tht night

    Let's talk about Tues night when you talk with her.

    You will NOT apologize and you will talk in short answers, like Yes and No. If she gets weird again and acts like tonight, hang up or stop texting. Just say Good Night.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:17 PM
    BlackVY

    Let her do what she wants to do..

    All you need to do is the right thing...

    She has gone off the handle, said all these things to you, treated you badly, and you didn't deserve it.

    Don't contact her, that's all... if she talks to you nicely tomorrow, and asks why you didn't talk to her, say you aren't going to be spoken to badly anymore, that you are standing up for yourself and that she needs to sort herself out, because you meant everything you said to her, and you love her, but if she wants to have a future with you, she needs to sort herself out properly
  • May 25, 2009, 10:18 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    idk why this whole night, all those texts i didnt answer.. she never said I LOVE U, or sorry

    Ah, interesting. Glad you noticed that without me having to point it out.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:20 PM
    Steve1010

    Thanks a lot guys, I work from 7am-330 I'm sure I will have tons of texts. So I don't know if I say anything if she says sorry or wait till the night, I don't know if I can wait till the night..

    Why do you think she's not talking anymore?
  • May 25, 2009, 10:21 PM
    Steve1010
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Ah, interesting. Glad you noticed that without me having to point it out.

    Why wouldn't she though? Is she trying to see if I crack so she has the power again? Will she surrender to me tomorrow?
  • May 25, 2009, 10:22 PM
    BlackVY

    You must be strong and not give into the urge to talk to her.

    Be a man, be strong and don't let her push you around.

    She is probably tired of saying all this hurtful stuff, and hopefully she is going to stop and think now...
  • May 25, 2009, 10:23 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    thanks a lot guys, i work from 7am-330 im sure i will have tons of texts. so idk if i say anything if she says sorry or wait till the night, idk if i can wait till the night..

    why do u think shes not talking anymore?

    She's probably exhausted. You haven't heard the end of her. Don't give in before 9 p.m.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:23 PM
    BlackVY
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    why wouldnt she tho? is she trying to see if i crack so she has the power again? will she surrender to me tommorrow?

    Its not really about who has the power. It has to be balanced, but if she treats you badly and stuff and you still come after her, you are like a love sick puppy and she knows she has control over you because she has your heart.

    You need to show her that yes you love her, but she can't treat you like this anymore. You will only respond to her love and respect.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:24 PM
    Steve1010

    What if she's like " why didnt u tell me that last night then when i was trying to talk to u!!"
  • May 25, 2009, 10:25 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    why wouldnt she tho? is she trying to see if i crack so she has the power again? will she surrender to me tommorrow?

    She won't change her ways by tomorrow. You still have work ahead of you.
  • May 25, 2009, 10:26 PM
    Steve1010
    If she says sorry before 9pm. I don't know how I can wait to talk to her
  • May 25, 2009, 10:26 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    what if shes like " why didnt u tell me that last night then when i was trying to talk to u!!"

    "Wud u have lissened?"
  • May 25, 2009, 10:26 PM
    Steve1010
    O god what else do I have to do?
  • May 25, 2009, 10:26 PM
    BlackVY

    Tell her you were not going to talk to her when she is not respecting you.

    If she wants love, she has to respect you as a man, and as a person.

    When she is calling you names and saying bad stuff, that's not respectful and therefore you will not respond.

    Basically, if she wants you, she has to treat you right.

    If she doesn't realize this, if she doesn't treat you right, then you shouldn't be with her
  • May 25, 2009, 10:27 PM
    Steve1010
    God its still bothering me when she said thought u were different. Clearly not
  • May 25, 2009, 10:28 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Steve1010 View Post
    if she says sorry before 9pm. idk how i can wait to talk to her

    You really enjoy being a puppet, don't you.

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