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  • May 10, 2009, 08:38 PM
    JTS31708

    Im done with her
  • May 10, 2009, 08:47 PM
    talaniman

    About freakin time, GEEEEEEEEEEEEEZ!!

    All you had to do was ignore her, instead you allowed your buttons to be pushed, now do your NC, and get real with it.
  • May 10, 2009, 09:35 PM
    none12345
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JTS31708 View Post
    Im done with her

    That's what you said last time...

    Are you really done with her?
  • May 10, 2009, 11:44 PM
    JTS31708

    Yea for sure I made it clear to her
  • May 10, 2009, 11:46 PM
    JTS31708
    I just don't see how someone could be so selfish and get so mad after her being the one who has caused all of this and put us where we are now instead of where we could have been if she would have worked together with me in our relationship.
  • May 11, 2009, 05:56 AM
    Romefalls19

    If you figure out that answer, please tell me where you got it. I searched for many months on an answer for that and came up with nothing.
  • May 11, 2009, 06:32 AM
    talaniman
    From your original post.
    Quote:

    I just don't see why this happened!?
    Just can't imagine someone changing their mind huh? Get used to it as that happens all the time.
    Today.
    Quote:

    instead of where we could have been if she would have worked together with me in our relationship.
    When people's feelings change, they aren't as willing to go along with the program, heck, they may even want to do their OWN program, without you.

    It takes time for reality to set in, and accept it for what it is.

    Bottom line... Sometimes people don't want what you want. Can't say I'm sorry for your loss, as there will be other, better, options and opportunities. Its only a matter of time.
  • May 11, 2009, 06:45 AM
    jmw0713

    Give yourself time to redevelop your own life. When the next girl comes along (I can 100% guarantee she will), you will be happier and better off.
  • May 11, 2009, 12:14 PM
    JTS31708

    Thanks to all of you for your support and giving me great advice.
    I can actually say now that I have not thought about her all day, I feel so glad I sent that message and was done with her it wasn't mean it was just straight up and to the point of what needed to be said.
  • May 11, 2009, 12:15 PM
    Lonelyandbroken
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JTS31708 View Post
    Thanks to all of you for your support and giving me great advice.
    I can actually say now that i have not thought about her all day, i feel so glad i sent that message and was done with her it wasnt mean it was just straight up and to the point of what needed to be said.

    Congrats your on the road to recovery
  • May 11, 2009, 12:33 PM
    YeloDasy

    She is at a point where she is selfish and not really concerned about you... what she feels is more importantl... you deserve better... leave it at that... she will never understand because she does not want to...
    Good luck to you...
  • May 11, 2009, 01:59 PM
    none12345
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JTS31708 View Post
    Thanks to all of you for your support and giving me great advice.
    I can actually say now that i have not thought about her all day, i feel so glad i sent that message and was done with her it wasnt mean it was just straight up and to the point of what needed to be said.

    Lol actually I can guarantee you did because you wrote this post. " I have not thought about her all day, ..."

    STOP THINKING ABOUT HER!!
  • May 11, 2009, 02:02 PM
    ajGambino

    Do what you have to do man, but I'll tell you one thing..

    DON'T BREAK NC.

    She is not worth it, she's playing games, she's trying to make herself feel better about the guilt she has to deal with and that shows what kind of person she is. Screw her, move on.

    It's one thing to break up with someone and try to move on down the road, it's another to break up with someone and try to make themselves feel better about it by any means, even as far as to make the one they broke up with feel depressed and miserable. Selfish, irresponsible and controlling. She is no good.
  • May 11, 2009, 11:50 PM
    JTS31708

    She contacted me today saying sorry about everything and saying karma hit her back or something like that saying she has felt bad and says she wants to be friends for now I didn't respond I just deleted the messages like I said I'm done with her I will not write back only unless she is willing to want to work things out not because I wanted to but if she wants to. That is the only way I will talk until then I'm doing NC for good and getting over her which I am about 80% about right now lol
  • May 12, 2009, 12:17 AM
    ajGambino

    That's real good, I'm glad you're moving on with your life. Keep working hard at being yourself and making things better for you, keep us updated on your progress to success.
  • May 12, 2009, 12:35 AM
    JTS31708

    Thanks I will definitely update from time to time, but for now we won't be texting each other or anything for a while!! Lol well mainly me I put her number in my phone listed as don't break NC lmaooo. I don't want to go back to her the only way I would is if deep down inside she truly wanted to start over again but that won't be for a while a long while because she thinks she knows what she is doing and swears she is happy when deep down she's not and that is perfectly fine with me because she was the one who caused all of this and to put us where we are today
  • May 12, 2009, 09:14 AM
    YeloDasy

    Funny... you put her as don't break no contact. Good one!
  • May 12, 2009, 08:05 PM
    JTS31708

    Lol she asked me the other day if we could be friends or not at all I didn't contact her because I'm not going to she will get the message after a while lol

    Yea I actually did put her in my contacts as that lol
  • May 13, 2009, 04:25 PM
    JTS31708

    Feeling a lot better since I haven't had any contact with her!
    Today I got to drive my friends 09 zo6 corvette it was amazing and definitely took my mind off things lol
  • May 13, 2009, 05:19 PM
    ajGambino
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JTS31708 View Post
    Feeling alot better since i havent had any contact with her!
    Today i got to drive my friends 09 zo6 corvette it was amazing and definately took my mind off things lol


    Cool man, I drove my civic today... =/

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