I slightly hope he hits me soon
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I slightly hope he hits me soon
I can understand that, but at the same time, it's really not good. I'd say anticipate it, but don't wish for it.
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Originally Posted by ohsohappy
Exactly! You could get hurt and we don't want that!
Perhaps hope was the wrong word. Anticipate sounds much betterQuote:
Originally Posted by ohsohappy
It's a healthier mindset too.Quote:
Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
Your want isn't for him to hit you, it's for the opportunity to take action. That's why I undersntand.
Thank you all for everything so far. I just wanted to say that
You are very welcome my dear.Quote:
Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
How common is child abuse? I figure I might as well post it here, else it'll be moved to here (as most do haha)
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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
Look on the web or watch TV. It's horrible to think about the violence among family members.
I'm not quite sure what you mean
She means that you can see it anywhere, watch the news or read the paper. It comes up a lot. And it never shouldQuote:
Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
O but I mean statistically
Look at Casey Anthony,Susan Smith, Andrea Yates. I could name a hundred. Spouses killing a wife or husband , example Scott Peterson. I'm sorry but I get so angry thinking about these people it makes me sick. In cases like theirs , DEATH PENALTY!Quote:
Originally Posted by ohsohappy
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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
What I am saying is go on the web and search for the statistics of child abuse. You are NOt going to like what you find. The statistics will horrify you.
1 in every 58?
Child Abuse in America...
Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Over 3 million reports of child abuse are made every year in the United States; however, those reports can include multiple children. In 2007, approximately 5.8 million children were involved in an estimated 3.2 million child abuse reports and allegations.
Law Enforcement, Courts, & Prisons: Crimes and Crime Rates
295 - Crimes and Crime Rates by Type of Offense [Excel 47k] | [PDF 447k]
296 - Crimes and Crime Rates by Type and Area: 2007 [Excel 35k] | [PDF 447k]
297 - Crime Rates by State, 2006 and 2007, and by Type, 2007 [Excel 41k] | [PDF 448k]
298 - Crime Rates by Type--Selected Large Cities: 2006 [Excel 51k] | [PDF 469k]
299 - Murder Victims--Circumstances and Weapons Used or Cause of Death [Excel 44k] | [PDF 448k]
300 - Murder Victims by Age, Sex, and Race: 2007 [Excel 38k] | [PDF 448k]
301 - Homicide Trends [Excel 49k] | [PDF 448k]
302 - Homicide Victims by Race and Sex [Excel 55k] | [PDF 463k]
303 - Forcible Rape--Number and Rate [Excel 39k] | [PDF 458k]
307 - Violence by Intimate Partners by Sex, 1995 to 2007, and by Type of Crime, 2007 [Excel 38k] | [PDF 450k]
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Man in East Midlands killed his two children aged three and four and committed suicide...
An Alabama man is accused of killing his four young children...
A man and his wife allegedly killed their three children in Orissa’s Bargarh district because they could not manage to feed them...
In San-Zhong near Taipei, a man and his wife killed their two little boys, putting them in a sealed room filled with carbon monoxide, and committed suicide...
Poverty, revenge, financial problems... all these reasons are silly enough to let the children breath their last.
In an incident of infanticide in Tamil Nadu, a mother named Lakshmi squeezed the milky sap from an oleander shrub, mixed it with castor oil, and forced the poisonous potion down the new-born's throat. The baby bled from the nose, then died soon afterward...
Andrea Yates, a mother of five who methodically drowned all of her children in a bathtub then calmly called police...
News paper reports are shocking as well as alarming. Even though parental love is incomparable, there are several reported incidents of fillicide, child murder by parents. Most of the times the innocent children are murdered by their own parents for silliest reasons, and in several cases the kids were mere victims of the revenge of father or mother towards their partner. Some studies suggest that because of some sort of mental instability parents murder their own children.
Parents killing their children is not rare. Statistics say that between three and five children are killed by their parents in the U.S. every day and more than 200 women kill their children in the U.S. every year. If it is the case with the highly civilised America, what would be the situation in other countries, especially in the third world countries.
The parents who kill their children for whatever reasons, consider their children as a commodity, not for sure, as human beings. Thus they are slaughtered when parents cannot feed them, they are killed when parents are afraid of social problems, kids are murdered to satisfy the cheap revenge against their mother or father.
This is the facts as horrible as they are.
Statistics
The world is as twisted as I thought
Walk through the mall and watch a mom viciously jerk a child's arm or yell when the child wants to go in a different direction or is overtired or wants candy that a store temptingly displays at the checkout registers. Is that abuse? Abuse of a child, especially emotional abuse, is so subtle that we don't even notice it most of the time. And if it happens in public, one can only imagine what happens at home.Quote:
Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
You are one of the lucky ones, you're old enough to walk out and you are finally getting help. Some of these little children aren't old enough to fight for themselves. I'm proud of you! :):):)Quote:
Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
Dad does in public
And parents teach their children that another family's upheaval is none of their concern -- "mind your own business." This world would be a trifle better if we DIDN'T mind our own business so often.Quote:
Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
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If he hits you in public, then I hope he runs into a big guy named Bubba who will teach him a lesson.
Bubba will get him in jail. Dad will be someone's girlfriend!
Hmmm. I don't believe in lowering oneself to your dad's level. Please don't go to the least common denominator.Quote:
Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
You are right.. Disney World 2006. Man was yelling at his wife and little boy using profanity that would put a sailor to shame. I'm standing there waiting for my grandchildren to come of the bathroom. No one is doing a thing and there were some big guys passing by His wife is crying and so is the little boy. I walked over and said politely ,you should be ashamed of yourself! I looked at his wife and son and I ask the wife, why don't you take up for your child? She told me to mind my own business and the guy didn't say anything he was so stunned and maybe because my husband and the boys walked out of the bathrooms where we were standing. My husband is a big guy and when I told him what had happened the guy was already gone.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
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I was so mad I was crying, not for the woman who is dumb enough to stay with the jerk. I think of that little boy and I still see the image of hs little face.
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I think you reap what you sow. What goes around comes around either in this world or where you spend eternity.
The things that really get me in a fighting mood is when I see someone being mean to a little child. The next is a father or mother who abuse their children. Children are a gift, not a burden. I see these sweet little old folks who are left in a rest home and they crave attention. I hate to see an older child treating their parent like they are a burden.
I have said some things to people who I see doing this and it dosen't scare me at all to take up for them. It's like Wondergirl said about all these enticing things children see at the mall and yet when they cry the parents jerk them around by their arm or yell at them. I would love to shake them and say, these children are only children, don't treat them as if they are a inconvenience.
My third... People who are mean to animals. I hate it it makes me furious
Any human who would abuse and hurt a little animal would hurt and abuse a child. I believe that. Okay EMOP, I'm through ranting now.
I've gotten cut before defending the dog against dad... He's mean to everything.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
You are a nice girl and I know soon you will be out of that horrible situation.
I desperately want to be with my x. Today he proposed a deal to me. That if I do not have sex with anyone for 10 months, we can be together again. I'm uncertain if I want to take this deal. Not because I plan on having sex, I don't, but because I do not like that he would be placing stipulations like that. Opinions?
EMOP.. concentrate on what is going on in your home. Deal with that and the fact that your father will be getting out of your life soon... DON'T get side tracked and end up in another bad situation with your ex boyfriend. You're seventeen, you have plenty of time for dating and finding the right one when you are out of the mess in your home life.
I'm almost out of home already
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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx
Then give yourself time to find out who you really are. Don't define yourself by thinking you need a man in your life ,another bad experience
Could send you spiraling right back to where you've been. There will be a nice guy someday but you need to work on yourself confidence first.
I agree 100%Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
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Originally Posted by ohsohappy
I have always told my own children the same thing.I always taught my children to be strong and independent and NEVER depend on anyone else to make them happy or NEVER let another person have the power to make them miserable.
Strength comes from wiithin yourself and through the Lord. Being by yourself and being happy about yourself is where strength begins. No guy can make you feel good about yourself if you don't like the person you are.
EMOP, I'm telling you the same thing I would tell my own kids, stay away from people who bring you down. We all care for you!
You don't need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend to be happy.
Without sounding mean, it sounds like you might be a very needy person and you need to find your own way before dating or seeing or going out with anyone.
Sorry to be harsh but I just think you need to sort out your problems before dragging someone else into them.
When you say you are almost out of home are you planning on moving into your own place?
That's a great first step.
I agree, that's a wonderful first step. :)
I know in your other thread I told you its okay to date around, as long as you stayed within the bounds of good behavior, and I still think it's the right thing to do, but life is a lot more than just dating. Its also about what you do for yourself, that makes you happy, and able to do for yourself, as far as taking care of yourself.
Hard to leave home, and be on your own without the proper skills, and education, to support yourself. That would be a good balance in your life, and one that would give your future a big boost, and also more options, and opportunities, to really be able to do what you want, and not just depend on a guy for the basics of life. You can only have so much fun, and its more fun to be had when you can care for yourself, on your own. Now would be a great time to lay those foundations for the future
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