Oh yeah... I guess your right. She didn't give me that kind of love. She just used me... at least that's what our mutal friend said. "you shouldnt call him for just a booty call, because he loves you..." and she said... "i dont see it that way"

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oh yeah....i guess your right. she didnt give me that kind of love. she just used me....at least thats what our mutal friend said. "you shouldnt call him for just a booty call, because he loves you..." and she said...."i dont see it that way"

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Nothing against her friend but you got to cut her out of your life. First, friends lie because they tell you what you want to hear. Second, getting messages like the one above do not help you move forward. This is your time now, accept it and stop allowing negative messages from the outside corrupt it.

Ok. Thanks for your input! I'll keep the faith and try not to talk to him although eh calls to tell me about her and all..

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Ok. Thanks for ur input! I'll keep the faith and try not to talk to him although eh calls to tell me about her and all ..

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Change the subject. There is no reason to continue talking about her. If you have to tell him you don't want to talk about her anymore. He should understand.

I will do that next time Chuff! Thanks... ill let you know... he said he was going to give me a buzz in a day or two..

All right everyone... yall shouldve warned me... although I shouldve known myself...

Drinking is NOT a good idea. It makes me dwell...

Makes me want to break NC.

You have come to far to break NC now. Think of it like this. Have you ever listned as one of your friends have told you a story of something very stupid they have done while drunk. You know like driving, sleeping with someone they would not if they were not drunk, saying something stupid, and so on. Well you are about to do something very stupid.

Don't do it. It hurts I know. But do any thing but that. Listen to musc what ever. You're a Cowboys fan... we are stronger than that!!

No worries everyone... I forced myself to go to bed. SO NO NC is STILL in effect! :)

Wow, its been a while since I've had contact with her... havent seen her since February 14... havent "heard" any text from her since Feb. 27th ish...

What does she look like again?? Jk.

You will have to watch it with the alcohol. It will lower your inhibitions, and make you a tad more vulnerable to your emotions. The best thing to do is give your phone to one of your good friends if you go out for a night, so you won't be able to drunk text or drunk dial her. Believe me, it makes you look like a complete a$$ for doing so (yes, I am speaking from multiple experiences). You wake up the next morning not only hungover, but feeling like a total jacka$$!

Drunk calls make you look like a jackarse... who would have known.

I always think I am so much cooler when I am drunk... who doesn't love the drunk version of me?? What a crazy thought.

You are doing well, Crazy. Good job sending yourself to bed, at least you have nothing to wake up and regret this morning. :D

Thanks everyone... yeah, I really wanted to send a drunk email, text to her last night but I just told myself : "get your a$$ to fu%%kn bed!

Glad I kept the faith... but you know what? As much as I am moving on etc... I still think about her, but the memories are getting foggy.

Comments?

I wonder if that's just me... and a defense mechanism/coping or by being out of sight and body... the relationship really does fade away...

And, more importantly, what happens when I see her... because I KNOW I will.. not by my choosing but we go to the same places...

They will keep getting foggier.

In the end you will wonder why you were clinging for so long, you won't remember just the good things, you will remember the toxic things and wonder what took you so long to wake up.

Don't worry you will be just as smitten with the next one, when you are ready. Hopefully the next one will be just as smitten with you and the relationship will be healthier, but you have to be healthy first.

What are you doing for you now? Hope you are making some new friends. How about the gym?

Well I'm not really going out too much... working and then going to the gym. I've never been so "buff" and fit in my life!

Anyway, its good to know that the memories will get foggier.. and for some reason I do now think of the bad that was in the relationship.. I can see that a little more clearly now. Not to say that I was perfect but she really used to overreact to things.

My GF before her, never did that... we usually never had ANY drama like my current ex. Makes me feel so stupid to be treated like that. >:

You know justwant fair, I'm not one to brag... BUT as my memories get foggier... I just KNOW that the dudes she's going to date would NEVER put up with the crap that I did! I say that because who is going to be with her for 5years ? Not anymore we are both older. You know? And the thing is that, when she discovers THAT truth... shes going to want me back.

I mean when she's "done" with it all... im not mr. "boring or safe" but I did treat her very well considering...

Not to burst your bubble, but she will carry on, she will continue to date and the relationship will go better or worse then your relationship did.

What you have to worry about now, is all about you. That is wonderful that you are more "buff" then you have ever been. With spring and summer just around the corner it is a wonderful time to get back out there and start making new friends. Find out about sport leagues. This is a wonderful time to take up sand volleyball. :D

:) dang... justwantfair... that is harsh! To think that she will continue and carry on... sheesh!

Oh well, like u said, got to look out after me. Thanks for the comments!!

I would say more like preparing for the worst and expecting nothing. That way if he's right your not upset about it. And usually people who do the breaking up don't dwell on it, it's the dumped people who do, otherwise they contradict themselves. Its usually down the road when they try to come back and people forget the whole situation. How old are you by the way?

Oh... ok... didnt think of that when you said that the one who breaks up... is NOT the one who dwells on it. Interesting perspective!

But you say that they come back down the road... (or at least try to)..

I'm not having any hope... (well maybe a little, would like for ME to tell her to take a hike! :)

HEY EVERYONE...

You know that I gave her an ultimatum, deadline for her to come back or forget about it all forever of April 20. (dont ask me why that date... just wanted it) AND this was all before I started talking to everyone on this forum.

Anyway, I've been thinking about that... NOW, even if she does want to patch things up...

My fear is that she WILL want to get back with me! Funny huh? I really doubt this but what if she does?

I don't want to get back with her... not the way she was. So, what would I tell her? "um, sorry baby but you have to change this and that about u BEFORE i take you back?" etc.

Yeah, I know not to wonder about "what ifs" but just wanted to get everyone's opinion.

You have asked that question and its been answered, re-read your own thread. Geez guy, your going in circles now.

How many times are you going to run head first into the wall before you realize it's not going to budge?

He reminds me of this one member... KCTiger... I think that is his name... :cool:

He does, that KCtiger was stubborn, always asking for more punishment, thankfully he wised up and even gives good advice every now and then.

Oops sorry... I did ask that before. Going back and forth here in my head... alrighty then. ;)

Hey everyone... just got an email from our mutual "friend"... I have it in my inbox haven't read it yet.

It looks like he forwarded me a message from her. Uall think I should delete it right? I know you said to delete her stuff... but you didn't say anything about his.

Delete...

Can't you find a new friend, this one seems to be encouraging the pain.

FIND A NEW FRIEND!! Delete anything that comes from him, I will send you $80 if you get that tattooed on your arm "No contact means NO CONTACT"

Hi Crazy,

We meant all stuff pertaining to her whether it comes from this mutual friend or not. I think we even said to delete stuff from him too. You are torturing yourself. I think I speak for everyone when I say 'Dont read it, delete it'. Its for your own good.

Forward it to me, and I will translate it for you...

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Me too, me too!

He has to open it to forward it...

I think it is time for the "friend" to get a farking clue. I don't know why Crazy you consider this person a "friend", he is a clueless piece.

Thanks everyone for the input!!

Here's where I am...

I DID GET THE EMAIL FROM OUR "FRIEND"... I didn't read it! :) not until I got your advice... anyway... about 2 minutes later he calls me and leaves me a message.

I didn't answer my phone on purpose...

Anyway, I was getting email from other things... and I had to.. because you know how you can read the subject line and all... it wasn't my intention... but I did.

Like I said, I haven't read it yet but what I did read was from him saying on the subject line... "but i want to be your friend"


WHAT THE H#LL?

So, I imagine the email that he forwarded to me from her... was that she dumped me for good or whatever her reasons were...

Anyway, any help out there? I'm going crazy because I want to read the email but I will DEFINITELY take everyone's advice and delete it with one eye open!

BUT what do I do because he called me and left me a message? Its rude of me considering I've known him for sometime to not return his call don't you think? It would seem like I was afraid to talk to him!

I could always call him back and say first thing... dont say anything to me about her... whether he slips and says otherwise is another story.

HELP! The weekend is coming up and any worse news then I'm already going through would be really bad...

Advice.

Hey.. I just thought of something...

Maybe I could email him saying for him not to tell me anything... and that ill call him next week. How does that sound?

Why are you opening yourself up for more pain? This guy is obviously not taking your feelings and emotions into consideration since all he's doing is relaying messages from her... Is he a good friend you hang around with regularly? If not then it would be best to keep away from him. Ignore all the texts and emails. You are trying to heal AND HE JUST KEEPS TRYING TO OPEN YOUR WOUNDS...

Yeah that's a good point.. heartbroke. I did tell him last time we talked that I didn't want him to say anything about her.

So maybe your right for me not to return his calls... but you know, at the same time I don't want to completely be rude... ill probably write an email saying that I deleted his email and that I'm going to chill for awhile... ill call him in a couple of weeks...

He's not that good of a friend heart broke... so...

Does this sound cool to you or should I ingore him completely like you say?

If I do ingore him then I give her the satisfaction that I DID read her email... not that I'm playing games but I think that that would pi%% her off even more than anything... because SHE didn't get the last words!

It almost sounds like you encourage drama in your life... playing games and last words...

Hmmmmm... maybe your right. I got to think about that one. But if it was your friend... would you ingnore him completely?

If he was my friend he would have respected my decision to cut her out of my life and not relay messages from her.