I agree,it's a good post
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I agree,it's a good post
Next month will be 4 months and the feelns get worse. Gosh I miss my ex... but reading these messages help me. I need to be focus
Hey Athena254 there!
The feelings get worse because you think of it again and again ! Don't count the months human feelings are like that it does take time to heal the damage caused and mental torture ,I have been dumped by my Fiancé after 4 months of knowing each other ,I too tried to get her back but all efforts went in vain .Then my office manager told me this " Stop thinking about it ! focus on your work ,go and get yourself a new gal and start your life again ,the one who has dumped you is gone forever and she is not gonna to come back ,so why do you cry ,forget her ! beleive in God make a small prayer and say I don't care !any more and forgive her she will get and pay for what she did if you have not done anything awful to lead to such a disaster "! These words were very strong and I did exactly as he said and now I have someone else in my life and the news of the Ex is that she got dumped by someone else ! And she is single again
Whoa!
So I advice you the same get your guy who you can confide with and get on with life because no one else takes you seriously as you take them and focus on your work what ever you do always !You will get your answers :)
This is a wonderful post that helped
Thank You "danielle1896" :)
I love this.. I can't help but relate to this... completely! Did you make all this up? Wow
This post by "friend4u178" posted long back is definitely not made up for sure as I have been through such a painfull experience! I did come out of it as of today and l am not looking back any more ! What matters to me is Me ,My wife , my family ,my friends and people who I know and interact with me :)
"This Life " is beautiful gift from God ,
It's the way you and me go about it ,
So live it live to the fullest and make the best of it !
"Forgive the one who has tresspassed against you as you are forgiven by other's whom you tresspass upon "
Wow this post was incredible. It was so comprehensive! Even up to the part where you said 3% will get back with their ex and may be lucky... or unlucky. Even that they may be back with their ex because it's 'comfortable' which is so true for abusive situations. Wow. Well done!
I know how that goes. When my ex & I broke up I was devastated. (even though he cheated on me.. ) Anyway , I cried for... a long time. I asked myself those first couple questions you put over & over again. I def thought one day I'd have him back . & for 9 WHOLE months I worried about what girl he with & why he left me & all that. BUT , now I am with a new guy & I love him . You think you'll never find someone else after the break up , but I'm glad I was wrong about that. Breaking up is a terrible terrible feeling , but id DOES get better. Time really is the only way to heal(:
Feeling a little down today so I thought I would reread this because it usually lifts my spirits, and once again, it has!
I have to constantly remind myself that it does get better, and looking back on that dreaded day, it actually has gotten a lot better for me. Not 100% yet but slowly getting there. One day at a time for this guy!
3 months since the break up and 34 days NC
friend4u178, you are a friend to all of us. Thank you for writing this. I really think you should make a single page website, of your message. Hell, I'll do it for you, pro bono.
This will be my guide for me, for next few months. It's only been 2 months since my ex cheated on me and then asked for space, and like a dumbass... I still want her back! But with your incredible, real world, words of wisdom... I know I must move forward, because it's about ME now.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you... I don't necessarily believe in a god, but for now, I will say: GOD BLESS YOU!
This is perfect.. to the T.
I just don't know what to say.. GOD BLESS YOU.. This is a masterpiece.. am so so bookmarking this page.. Thank YOU!
I still come back here after 4 months alone and 1 month NC it keeps me on the right track and more importantly helps me realise that jumping into something else right now just isn't right... How long will it take... I don't know but I know that this site helps whether you did wrong and regret it or you just hurt... Thnak you all xx
It takes a different amount of time for everyone , but the fact is your still in the early stages , why is that? Because it may be 4 months since the breakup but only 1 month of NC. So effectively only 1 month , that's why we stress NC from the start so you don't waste all those earlier months and just get stuck.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cutloose2
Friend you gave me good advice from the start and yes you are right.. I realised that for her it wasn't one month she had let go from day 1( I found out last month).. I got my property back and she wished me well and said she hoped I would meet someone very special as I deserved it... That cut like a knife haha... Yet it was her way of saying she had moved on and I finally let go.. I knew she didn't mean what she said it was just a way of saying look I'm gone now... No matter what we think or feel the important thing is learn, accept and move forward in a way that benefits you.. I can't be friends and she hasny accepted that but I respect her decision I hope she will respect and try to understand mine.. Thinking of you all.xx
I'm glad you finally let go "cutloose" and thank you. I know it's not easy particularly in the beginning but hey it's all a big learning curve.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cutloose2
I wish you luck in the future and it'd be great if you stuck around and pass on some of the things you've learnt to others.
I will friend, not sure what I can pass on other than what I've experienced but I will try
Best of luck Cut -you've learned a lot!
Keep moving on.
The very best of the best. I needed this. Thumbs up
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. I know it will be better, just I don't know how to survive until then.
I lost my love in Monday... we were together 6 years.. he loves me but can't go on anymore. Yesterday I texted him all afternoon, cried, begged... he was sad.. and full of understanding.. polite.. but strong in his decision. No more... ever.. never. And I don't know how I'm going to make it. I tried NC but I broke it.. and now I'm fighting with myself not to contact him again... that's why I'm writing here.
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Originally Posted by heart_line
Post your own thread if you wish... you will receive all the encouragment and advice you need there. We are here for you.
Brilliant! I have to send this to my fiance's ex wife lol she is that way. And needs to move on... BRAVO BRAVO ENCORE lol
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Originally Posted by Serenity2009
Why are you dealing in any way with your fiance's wife? This is HIS problem, not yours. I see your contact with her as the doorway to disaster.
Can't he handle whatever the situation is for himself?
I posted my break-up question today... reading your post puts a lot of things in perspective. And definitely helps for you to say all the things I am thinking... nice to know I'm not the only one!
Break ups are painful beyond belief. At about the same time my husband died a friend's husband packed up and left. She said then and she says now (and I understand) that HER loss was more painful but her husband wanted to leave her. Mine didn't. Those words have stayed with me. She knows he is out there somewhere with someone else and is still in incredible pain.
You're sure not the only one!
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