In the 5 years we were together she has managed to ruin 3 summers for me. Being depressed most of the time this summer will be a little better by me further in my healing process. This is the furthest she has let me heal. She did tell me once she always had another guy lined up before she broke up with anybody. She told me every break up she has respect for me not to do this. I know I shouldn't have emailed her and told her hope everything works out between you and newboyfriend. I was just so angry and jealous when I found out. And in the past 6 weeks she has drove buy or stared at me while we saw each other driving I have not waved when she does or looked when she looks at me. Which was harder then hell.

Keep up the good work... I'm still not convinced you're going out as often as you should... watch movies... go out man... u'll be surprised how good it feels going out all clean and good looking!

You are right I should be going out more then I am. One minute I'm fine then I get down on myself and don't feel like it. But I am going to force myself to go out. Like Thur. Going out to beer garden with some buddies. I hope I meet some nice pretty girls their.

Yea... Just focus on having a good time... Let the ladies want to see you... Not the other way around!

Sab... brother... focus on you.

You know all the reasons you shouldn't be with her. I know it is hard because you still have all these emotions there. Its hard to let them go... to have someone you care about break that sacred trust... to wake up everyday not having them beside you.

I know it is tough being alone. We all want someone to be there... someone to hold and love. Someone to love us and care about us. But you and I know that she wasn't the one to do that. You deserve better.

Just realize this. She was a weight around your neck. Always pulling you down with her actions. She kept your emotions up in the air... she kept your life chaotic.

You now have a chance to start over. To get your emotions back to normal. Drop that weight that is around your shoulders. Make decisions based on what you want and what makes you happy.

Just let her go.

I did let her go and feel better. But last night I had 3 dreams about her 2 of them where the same dream. We where laying beside each other she wanted me back and I said no she started crying and I took her back. Then my pain went away again. S**t like this keeps me thinking of her and when I see her driving. I don't think I want her back but sometimes I wish I could hug and give her a kiss one last time.

It's been over 4.5 months. I know she's wrong for me, but why can't I let her go and move on with my life. Although this 6th break up is a little easir then others but I still hurt and miss her.

Wow... Another post? Why don't you just continue from your other one. We will read it... Anyway... You have a good job and all. Go out more... Thats it. Get busy!

You crack me up Emo, I needed to laugh rite now, Thanks Buddy. I just yhink of how pretty she is and the way she hugged and held me. Sometimes I wish she would come back and put the ball back into my court.

I know right? I hear you man... But we are Men... We have to be tougher than this. Get this song by Des'ree It's called you got to be... look for it.

I know how you feel SAB, I was with my X for about 5 years. I've been with my current g/f for about 3 years now, and I still find myself thinking of my X a LOT. Granted, its not near as often, but there are still times I just sit and think about how much fun we used to have. I've learned to try to use that as motivation though, maybe you could do the same. Like when I think of when we went on a trip somewhere, I think of how great it was. So then I try to make an even better memory with my new g/f, instead of going to one place, for one night, we'll go to 5 places in a week.

Wow I wish I could still want my ex then at least id want sum1 lol read my post brecause my situation is a lot different then yours but I still feel bad about it.

It's tough. I'm in a similar situation right now. We are great together, but it can't work because of our age difference. She's wrestling with someday becoming a mom and I'm too old for that. I feel helpless because there are so many things I can do naturally to help build our relationship, but I can't do anything about the age difference. Yeah, I know the stars can do it... nannys etc. Are you unable to move on because you are in love with her, or you obsessed with her. There is a big difference. I'm dealing with this question a lot.

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It's tough. I'm in a similar situation right now. We are great together, but it can't work because of our age difference. she's wrestling with someday becoming a mom and I'm too old for that. I feel helpless because there are so many things I can do naturally to help build our relationship, but I can't do anything about the age difference. Yeah, I know the stars can do it......nannys etc. Are you unable to move on because you are in love with her, or you obsessed with her. There is a big difference. I'm dealing with this question a lot.

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Because I am in love with her. If you read my other post I don't know if she has a new boy friend but if not she is obsessed with me.

I was doing pretty good but ever since my ex's sons step brother told me she has a so called boyfriend I feel unwanted, a little jealous, and wanting her back now. Why?

Have u not taken any advise yet?

In the beginning I was but when she started driving buy waving 2.5 months after break up that is when I started missing and wanting her back again?

LET GO MY FRIEND... It's over... Even if she comes back it's still over... Move on... I hope to hear on Monday that you went out at least twice to have a good time.

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In the beginning I was but when she started driving buy waving 2.5 months after break up that is when I started missing and wanting her back again?

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You are letting her stay on your mind, and not following the advice of other posts and staying busy. How many cars do you see driving by, and then see hers? If you where busy and getting a life that you enjoy without her, you would not be aware that she drives by, nor would you care.

It just suck... The fact she maybe messing around with some other dude now hurts. I just wonder if she still thinks of me. That would make me feel better. I just need to find a nice pretty girl to get my mind her! I think maybe I'm in shock, Ever since my ex's sons step brother came over and said she had a boyfriend I have been thinking of her more. Maybe I'm jealous. Well I got some what over the first stage I think once it settles in I'll be fine.