It has been a few weeks since I last posted here. I'm just back from a long vacation and still trying to cope with my broken heart. I was feeling good last few weeks, learning to let go and trying to be myself again. A lot of soul searching. But as soon as I'm back to my place, I'm curious and wanted to check on her Facebook to see if there are any updated pics on her Valentine's outing... I know it will hurt me bad if I see it and I'm still trying not too... The temptation is so strong :(

That's like self harm and won't accomplish anything other than going back a few steps. Haven't you hurt enough?

Don't do it !!!

Why do you want to do that? Are you a masochist? What? Want to see you she's getting with?

Do some more soul searching. Continue that at home.

Forget about her for now. Get with you & fun.

Leave FB alone.
Move forwards not backwards.

Thanks guys. I'm really trying very hard not to check on her Facebook. Some part of me saying that it will help me to move on faster and some part of me is telling me that it's going to destroy me again. :(... Worse, I find it so hard to sleep now...

Facebook in your kind of situation is a big NO-NO!

You have got to want to move on,it seems to me you are still letting yourself stay stuck.

You're right, amicon. I shouldn't let myself stuck in the past... Guess, it is because I'm a sentimental person by nature... I'm just going to have to push myself harder... :(

We've all gone through this at one point or another so I know that you too will heal.
Putting some effort into actively healing is always a good idea.

Make a plan for each day that includes doing at least one new thing or activity that makes you happy.

I've been trying to keep myself busy lately so that I won't even have time to think about her.. but whenever I tried to do something new, I would be like "I think she will like this..." But then again, she's no longer mine.. and I've been telling myself I can't stay on like this forever... At times I feel like I'm suffocating...

Those are thoughts that you need to let go of-its what YOU like and want to do-its not about anyone else's likes or dislikes.
You deserve to be happy and contented and you will be-just put yourself first.

If you think of your break up as a time to learn how to cope, and deal with your feelings positively, it may help you come up with a strategy for yourself that you can follow when your having those down times, and your thoughts wonder to her, such as focusing on what's in front of you.

No doubt after a vacation, you will always have that transition back to reality, and all that dust that has collected while you were away. I bet if you look around your own place, there is a lot to do.

I'm in such a confused state now. I'm feeling very uneasy, and my eyes are filled with tears. One of our mutual friends told me that my ex is moving to another part of the world. The feeling is like I've just been dumped again for the second, third or even fourth times :(. I just don't know how to cope with it. I seriously love this girl very much :(.

Go back through your thread a few times.

Then you won't be so tragic & confused.

Start living without her.

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Originally Posted by tragedy

I'm in such a confused state now. I'm feeling very uneasy, and my eyes are filled with tears. One of our mutual friends told me that my ex is moving to another part of the world. The feeling is like I've just been dumped again for the second, third or even fourth times :(. I just don't know how to cope with it. I seriously love this girl very much :(.

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Consider this a blessing in disguise , it'll make NC that much easier.

Yup, teary, uneasy and being dumped again 4X, yet still in love.

That's not a good place. What are you going to do now?

Something good I hope.

I'm feeling bit drown. I tried to read the thread over and over again. Yet, I can't seem to control my feelings and my tears. Yes, having her around... so close really makes it hard for me to move on. But knowing that she will be in another part of the world somehow kills me :(

That will make it easier. Say Goodbye.

C'mon, man. Get out of bed. Stop.

She's GONE!!

What are you some attention magnet that doesn't want to listen to anything?

Man up.

She used you.

Slapped you. (not hard enough)

Choked you. (glad you're still here)

Dumped you.

Flaunted her boyfriend.

Then moved to another country.

What next? Her move to another planet?

Maybe the one where she will burn up on impact.

What planet are you on?

Maybe her moving is what you need to finally stop the one step forward,two steps backwards routine and finally get on with some constructive healing.

I hope so.

Thanks guys... I know it's a little crazy. You're right, Amicon. It's like I'm actually taking a one step forward, and next couple of weeks two steps backward. I'm learning, learning to let go. I have accepted the fact that we can never go back together and I'm no longer in denial. But the feelings somehow still exist... I would have never guessed or thought that she would move to another part of the world. Somehow those sweet memories started to rush in again and it's doing me no good. And it also reminds me how painful it was when I've got to know she's dating someone new. Now, I'm actually feeling the same thing when my friend told me she is moving away. I'm reading the thread over and over again. I hope I will feel better...