I agree with everyone about getting her stuff back by a third party. The nice guy I am I told my ex I would drop off her son's bed at a certain time and guess what their was another guy there. I was so hurt that it set me back about 2-3 weeks in my healing process. One thing I did learn from this experience is what you don't know won't hurt you. And it happen several more time down road because I wanted to know what she was up too. BIG mistake. As TAL told me 2 years ago make sure she gets everything back.