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  • Dec 16, 2005, 07:32 PM
    s_cianci
    Sorry to hear of your situation. If you do in fact have TB it's fortunate you're finding out now before it gets any worse. If your test is positive follow all of your doctor's instuctions exactly and follow exactly the antibiotic regimen that's prescribed for you. If you're allergic to any antibiotics (penicillin is a common allergy), make sure your doctor knows.
  • Dec 16, 2005, 07:43 PM
    jeffatl
    Thanks for the support guys, I just think all of this is funny considering what I have gone through with this girl. HAHAHAHA! This isn't really too much of a surprise...
  • Dec 16, 2005, 10:07 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Tb
    It is a air borne illness that you get from breathing air in the area where people have TB (and other ways)

    You may have gotten it from the same person you wife did months and months ago. You can have it and not even know it for a long time

    The health departments in your county should offer low cost test.

    Many people in certain jobs are exposed daily, and have to take all sorts of precautions
  • Dec 16, 2005, 10:14 PM
    jeffatl
    She wasn't my wife, but I couldn't have gotten it from the same person she did because she was out of the country when she got it.
  • Dec 19, 2005, 11:33 PM
    momincali
    Oooooooooooooooh Noooooooooo! Hang in there Jeff, I'm praying for you too and your results will turn out okay. Oh wow, am I having a psychic moment here??

    That is pretty freaky that you haven't seen whatshername in so long yet you may have the same thing she has. Maybe she kissed a guy who kissed a girl that kissed you?? Naaaaah... Keep your mind busy. I found a great online game (it's supposed to be for kids but I am HOOKED). It's called Chicktionary and you can download the free version from kewlbox.com. It's got these funky chickens that make the cool chicken clucks every times you make a word out of the scrambled letters... it's fun, just don't play late at night or you'll find yourself spelling in your dream.. seriously, I once was up until 2:30, it drove me nuts, oh and it's timed so it puts a little more pressure on you.. feel better!

    M3:)
  • Dec 20, 2005, 05:06 AM
    bizygurl
    Im so sorry to hear that. Im sure you will be okay. If you do have It, I believe there is a cure for it. Ill defenitly will be thinking about you and keep you in my prayers. Let us know what happens.
  • Dec 23, 2005, 07:36 PM
    jeffatl
    YAY!! I got my test results back and they were NEGATIVE!! I just had a really nasty virus according to my doctor, somehting close to mono. I feel almost 100% now. Thanks again for your support guys!
  • Dec 23, 2005, 07:48 PM
    nymphetamine
    Yayy! That's good new. :D
  • Dec 23, 2005, 08:41 PM
    rkim291968
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jeffatl
    YAY!!!!! I got my test results back and they were NEGATIVE!!!! I just had a really nasty virus according to my doctor, somehting close to mono. I feel almost 100% now. Thanks again for your support guys!

    Don't be so quick to blame others, eh? ;)
  • Dec 23, 2005, 09:05 PM
    CaptainForest
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jeffatl
    YAY!!!!! I got my test results back and they were NEGATIVE!!!! I just had a really nasty virus according to my doctor, somehting close to mono. I feel almost 100% now. Thanks again for your support guys!

    Awesome news jeff!! You must feel way better. Congrads.
  • Dec 24, 2005, 02:53 AM
    jeffatl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rkim291968
    Don't be so quick to blame others, eh? ;)

    Hey, I just put two and two together on this one buddy... take it easy...
  • Dec 26, 2005, 07:25 AM
    bizygurl
    That's so wonderful, you must be so relieved.;)
  • Mar 7, 2006, 12:59 AM
    jeffatl
    You guys are going to be sooo proud of me!
    So the EX had been calling me a lot over the past few days, and I never picked up. She left me a message telling me she really needed to talk to me, I just thought BS. She called again, so I picked up and we talked for a bit. She said she was in town and she would like to meet up for luch. I thought about it and agreed. So I go out to luch and we talked for about an hour, then out of the blue she starts crying... ALOT. I just thought to myself, great. She starts telling me how big of a mistake she made and the guy she is engaged to doesn't support her in anyhting she does, and he pretty much expects her to say home and "make babies" for him. At first I got VERY mad, and almost just walked out on her. I collected myself and just told her "look, you put me through hell for the past year of my life. I still care about you alot, and I only want the best for you, but you are not the best for me". I told her I could never love her the way I did before, and she shouldn't marry this guys, but there will be someone else for her that she can be happy with. She started to freak, and just sob. I just sat there (I felt so terrible). I told her that The way she treated me was totally unfair, and I have found someone new that dare I say, Im falling in love with. She said she would do anything to make things right, and I looked down and see this ring on her finger... I started to laugh. I told her that she hadent changed one bit. I said "its just like you to run to someone else when things get tuff, and that why I could never respect you". She just looked at me in shock, she tried to sweet talk me but I wasn't hearing it. I then thanked her for everyhting she taught me about myself and relationships, paid for lunch, and left. I was sooooooo happy when I got in my car because I made my peace and I wasn't mean, rude, or anything. I flet like I could do a backflip! LOL! I made my peace guys!! Im cured!! :D
  • Mar 7, 2006, 02:51 AM
    DJ 'H'
    Well done you! You have done the right thing and what's more important, you have moved on with you life. You have strength, courage and the motivation to do anything you want and to achieve all of your goals in life. It is obvious to me that you are happy with youraself and content with your life, which is half of the battle. You are on the road to finding true happiness and I am really pleased for you. The only way is up :)
  • Mar 7, 2006, 06:06 AM
    confuzed
    That is awesome! You were in total control of yourself and didn't let yourself get sucked in by the tears!
    You sound like you are doing really great! I wish you the best!
  • Mar 7, 2006, 06:10 AM
    fredg
    Hi,
    CONGRATULATIONS, Jeff.
    Learning about life is what makes it fun. I am 64, and my "hats" off to you. You told her some things without being mad, rude, or insulting. You are off to a very good start with life, and everything enjoyable with it. Best of luck.
  • Mar 7, 2006, 08:47 AM
    phillysteakandcheese
    I think there are a lot of people that can learn from your example. :)
  • Mar 7, 2006, 11:26 AM
    Wildcat21
    Jeff - ALL I can say is OUTSATNDING!! You totally figured this chick out!!

    You've learned SOOOOOOOOOO much in such a short time. I am prouf of you my man!! And I do mean MAN!! You grown from a maybe (not to be rude), young man - to a real man.

    HOW DOES IT FEEL??

    AND she freaking shows up with the ring on?? Is she nuts?? I think so.

    Two days later she would have said it wouldn't work out. Bottom line is she would have left again.

    You got all your power back - sapped all her power away as well.

    Ughhh - I hopw she leaves you alone - but, I doubt it - you now are massive challenge in her head.
  • Mar 7, 2006, 01:15 PM
    jeffatl
    Not really a good feeling so much. I just feel like I have finally put that ugly past behind me FOR GOOD. I always thought I would crumble at the sight of her, and let her make me weak again. Now that I know she doesn't have that control over me anymore, I feel like I am a free man, and a new man. Its refreshing to know I hold no baggage for my new lady, we hung out today and had the best time. I haven't told her about the meeting with the EX, Im just waiting for the right time to let her know. Thanks for all of your support guys! For all you new people that are going through a hard break up, take me as an example. I was a shell of a man (just read my 1st thread here!) I thought I would never be free. If I can do it, so can you!
  • Mar 7, 2006, 01:18 PM
    nwsflash
    Quote:

    I am a free man, and a new man. Its refreshing to know I hold no baggage
    That's good to hear, I hope life keeps treating you good...

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