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  • Apr 11, 2007, 01:59 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    List of things to do sticky comments
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rol
    number 1 for me would be to work out your part in why the breakup happened so that you do not repeat the same pattern in the future.

    Yeah... that's a good one rol, sorry could not rate you as I have to spread the rep first but totally agree...
  • Sep 26, 2007, 02:22 PM
    s_cianci
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rol
    number 1 for me would be to work out your part in why the breakup happened so that you do not repeat the same pattern in the future.

    Not so fast here. Self-blame is never good or healthy. If an ex is actually kind and honest enough to give you some constructive criticism, that's one thing. But this rarely happens. It usually boils down to the central idea of misplaced priorities, of making someone too big a part of your life too soon. Let's face it ; no ex is ever going to tell someone "you made me too big a part of your life too soon. I never had to pursue you, you weren't enough of a challenge for me. You were too much of a wuss ; too much of a 'nice guy.'" The remedy for that isn't a lot of self-blame but simly a rearranging of one's priorities, often coupled with a boost to one's self-esteem.
  • Sep 27, 2007, 02:37 AM
    mckenzie134
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rol
    number 1 for me would be to work out your part in why the breakup happened so that you do not repeat the same pattern in the future.

    Sometimes it was not your fault at all...
  • Sep 27, 2007, 05:17 PM
    Skell
    I think that even whether you had were at fault there is still reason for reflection and analysis. Its how we learn and grow!!
  • Oct 7, 2007, 02:07 PM
    Bluerose
    This is great. I hope lots of young people see this. When it happens to them they often think it's the end of the world. All they need are some guidelines and here they are. Great work, wontbez!
  • Oct 19, 2007, 02:01 PM
    chrissy21
    I have a male and female cockatile they laid their first egg 28 days ago. They still have not hatched and you can see the dark spots and the pink veins and the crack they made to try ot get out. Awwwwww this is so sad. Should I take them out and throw them away??
  • Oct 20, 2007, 11:26 AM
    gallivant_fellow
    It would be a good idea to ask that question in a new post. You will get way more answers than just asking it here.
  • Oct 28, 2007, 06:44 AM
    kamy
    I'm doing some practical about transactin entry,when I enter informatin in to pay bill,the system always remind me :account is not in the list. But when I opening the company,I have been enter all account in the chart of account.
    Looking forward your reply,thanks
  • Oct 28, 2007, 06:57 AM
    iAMfromHuntersBar
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by gallivant_fellow
    It would be a good idea to ask that question in a new post. You will get way more answers than just asking it here.

    Ooh, this seems relevant to this other poster too! :D
  • Jan 23, 2008, 10:50 PM
    dana21
    Well that's great u wrote " in a blue 100 page spiral" haha. Yea I just found this list.. thought it very nice.. very useful!
  • Feb 2, 2008, 03:06 AM
    helpdave
    The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. Put a number between you and your ex and they soon get forgotten
  • Feb 24, 2008, 11:28 AM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by helpdave
    The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. Put a number between you and your ex and they soon get forgotten

    Not sure I understand what you mean by number.
  • Feb 24, 2008, 11:48 AM
    helpdave
    A number means a person. So if you have been going out with someone, you break up and are not going to get back with them. Sleep with someone else and then the person you had the relationship with is not the last person you sleep with, so it puts a distance between you and them. It's a mental thing, it works for me, but is not for everyone.
  • Feb 24, 2008, 12:12 PM
    jolienoire
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by helpdave
    A number means a person. So if you have been going out with someone, you break up and are not going to get back with them. Sleep with someone else and then the person you had the relationship with is not the last person you sleep with, so it puts a distance between you and them. It's a mental thing, it works for me, but is not for everyone.

    It's a mental mess that just digs a deeper hole... it really doesn't help anything if your prior relationship was more than sex and more emotional. I don't see how this solves anything... but whatever floats your boat... Sex has never been the solution to any problem if I can recall.
  • Feb 24, 2008, 02:15 PM
    talaniman
    What about the one you use to get over the ex?
  • Mar 1, 2008, 03:05 PM
    JerseyGuy
    May not work for everyone but try going out with a new person, helped prove to myself I can have fun with a someone else and it also bothered my ex for some reason(not the reason I did it though)
  • Apr 2, 2008, 10:31 PM
    jamimama
    Any good post-break up song recommendations for running or for listening to when I'm feeling down? I'm thinking cheesy independence anthems like Journey "Don't Stop Believing" and Natasha Bedingfield "Unwritten."

    Themes being positivity, independence, freedom, etc.
  • May 13, 2008, 09:40 AM
    stuck719
    I've been wallowing for some time. So tired of it. Thanks for the advice.
  • May 13, 2008, 07:57 PM
    bigbird213
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jamimama
    Any good post-break up song recommendations for running or for listening to when I'm feeling down?

    Found a new one recently (older song actually)...


    Don't tell me what to think.
    Cause I don't care this time.
    Don't tell me what you believe,
    Cause you wont be there
    To catch me when I fall.
    But you'll need me
    when I'm not here at all.
    ....
    Don't tell me how life is,
    Cause I don't really wanna know.
    Don't tell me how this game ends,
    Cause we'll just see how it goes.


    3 Doors Down - Going Down in Flames
  • May 28, 2008, 09:44 AM
    Tinkerbell24
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Tinkerbell24
    the frist thing i did was BURN ALL OF HIS STUFF THAT I HAD. pictures, and some clothes. it helped out a lot

    that was my own little closure and now I'm dating this amazing guy who is a heck of a lot better than my x could ever be:D
  • Jun 7, 2008, 04:19 AM
    tiamokiss
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by wontbez
    Feel free to add to this list.


    1. Volunteer
    2. Take a class in something you're interested in
    3. Learn a foreign language
    4. Read a book on the best seller chart
    5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
    6. Call old friends and family members
    7. Play some video games
    8. Watch some movies
    9. Join a gym
    10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
    11. Learn how to cook
    12. Get a library card
    13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
    14. Take on a new project at work
    15. Update your resume
    16. Buy some new clothes
    17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
    18. Change the layout of your furniture
    19. Go for walks
    20. Answer questions on this website

    Sometimes when you are so in love with that person you freeze, you feel like you can't move on nor backwards, your just stuck in a moment that was never meant to be, caught in the middle!! So this list may not work for some people!
  • Jun 7, 2008, 10:16 AM
    bigbird213
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by tiamokiss
    sometimes when u r so in love with that person u freeze, u feel like u can't move on nor backwards, ur just stuck in a moment that was never meant to be, caught in the middle !!! so this list may not work for some ppl!

    This list is designed to break you out of that feeling exactly. When you get stuck in that feeling, like you can't get out, and you can't stop thinking about them, performing some of the actions on this list will bring you out of that mode and help you see that there is happiness without them.
  • Jun 7, 2008, 05:20 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    so this list may not work for some people!
    It will work for those that work it, and has.
  • Jun 7, 2008, 06:13 PM
    Sikativ
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Tinkerbell24
    the frist thing i did was BURN ALL OF HIS STUFF THAT I HAD. pictures, and some clothes. it helped out a lot

    So she's allowed to burn all her stuff but I have to give it all back to her?

    Wheres my payment for pain and suffering, let alone the money she owes to my father for moving her down here (ive already paid my half!! )

    -grunts in disgust-
    -Sik
  • Jun 27, 2008, 06:43 AM
    bigbird213
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by xxrangerxx
    exercise is a really, really good stress releaser in my opinion.

    I've also been thinking about learning to play the guitar. I've always wanted to and since I'm currently going through an awful breakup, would be nice to try something totally new!

    Go for it man, great way to keep busy. Warning though, it is frustrating in the beginning, but totally worth it.
  • Jul 1, 2008, 05:38 PM
    Meatybune
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by wontbez
    Feel free to add to this list.


    1. Volunteer
    2. Take a class in something you're interested in
    3. Learn a foreign language
    4. Read a book on the best seller chart
    5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
    6. Call old friends and family members
    7. Play some video games
    8. Watch some movies
    9. Join a gym
    10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
    11. Learn how to cook
    12. Get a library card
    13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
    14. Take on a new project at work
    15. Update your resume
    16. Buy some new clothes
    17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
    18. Change the layout of your furniture
    19. Go for walks
    20. Answer questions on this website

    Go a complete stranger!
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:32 AM
    CFZD
    I didn't read all, but join AMHD!:)
  • Jul 23, 2008, 10:19 AM
    Andrew916
    I've put this on almost all my posts so I think I might as well put it here too. I reflect on what the Desiderata says. It has an amazing message an plan on how you should live life and treat others.

    "Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
    and remember what peace there may be in silence.

    As far as possible, without surrender,
    be on good terms with all persons.
    Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
    and listen to others,
    even to the dull and the ignorant;
    they too have their story.
    Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
    they are vexatious to the spirit.

    If you compare yourself with others,
    you may become vain or bitter,
    for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
    Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
    Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
    it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

    Exercise caution in your business affairs,
    for the world is full of trickery.
    But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
    many persons strive for high ideals,
    and everywhere life is full of heroism.
    Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
    Neither be cynical about love,
    for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
    it is as perennial as the grass.

    Take kindly the counsel of the years,
    gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
    Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
    But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
    Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

    Beyond a wholesome discipline,
    be gentle with yourself.
    You are a child of the universe
    no less than the trees and the stars;
    you have a right to be here.
    And whether or not it is clear to you,
    no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

    Therefore be at peace with God,
    whatever you conceive Him to be.
    And whatever your labors and aspirations,
    in the noisy confusion of life,
    keep peace in your soul.

    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
    it is still a beautiful world.
    Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."

    Make sure you take the lessons you learned from that relationship and go forth into the world with a newer (positive) outlook on life. Apply those lessons and walk with confidence and peace.
    Move on knowing that you WILL feel better, that you WILL find an even better partner, that you ARE blessed. Don't let life get you down- it's I gift given to us daily. It is here to be cherished, embraced, loved and lived to its utmost potential! Remember- "With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy." tomorrow will be a better day! :)

    -Drew
  • Aug 5, 2008, 05:27 PM
    confuse
    What does it mean if your ex is talking to you again?
  • Aug 20, 2008, 12:20 AM
    jiltedgirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by confuse
    What does it mean if your ex is talking to you again?

    It can honestly mean nothing. They can be feeling lonely or miss you, not necessarily looking to get back together.

    I would prefer it if you didn't proceed at all (unless you are over him/her).

    Proceed with caution,
    J
  • Nov 5, 2008, 04:15 AM
    RUSThammer

    Prepare a plan to kill yer ex :D
  • Nov 5, 2008, 04:16 AM
    RUSThammer

    ^^ LOL just kidding... see this is how funny you shd be after the break off
  • Dec 30, 2008, 03:09 AM
    expat2009

    Move on - find someone better - enjoy



    Hehe wish it were that easy :)
  • Apr 1, 2009, 12:56 AM
    none12345
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by hornistAdam View Post
    being a hornist, I say play the Horn! ha!

    but seriously, music is an amazing outlet. I would say take up the guitar. It's a common instrument, relatively easy, relatively inexpensive, and there's a huge repertoire of music to choose from.

    Lol dude when I first read your name, I thought a hornist is someoen that is horny lol >_< that was embarrassing XD
  • Apr 2, 2009, 03:30 PM
    faye1983

    Aaah thanks this is helping me sooo much
  • Apr 2, 2009, 06:22 PM
    none12345
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ameet711 View Post
    go bungee jumping..it will throw out your past and make you fresh for a new start!!!:)

    With straps or without? O_O
  • Apr 21, 2009, 03:06 PM
    Heartbroken7
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BiWiccanAndProud View Post
    Cry... I've found crying to be the best of medicine for anything... so yea... just sit and cry... THEN GO AND PARTY WITH SOME FRIENDS AND HAVE SOME LAUGHS!!!! ^.^ always helps!!!

    What if I can't cry? I've literally sat down and played country, YES country, you know, jump off a 10 story building music! I think I cried the day before we broke up, but not since then. I have a hard time doing it un-intoxicated! HAHA! I am really having a tough time with this one, but crying isn't coming when I need it to :(
  • Apr 21, 2009, 03:31 PM
    none12345
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Heartbroken7 View Post
    What if I can't cry? I've literally sat down and played country, YES country, you know, jump off a 10 story building music! I think I cried the day before we broke up, but not since then. I have a hard time doind it un-intoxicated! HAHA! I am really havin a tough time with this one, but crying isn't coming when I need it to :(

    Actually laughter is the best medicine, crying just lets everything out. =P
  • Apr 23, 2009, 10:59 AM
    bc472556

    Number 28 is the best advice. After breaking up with my boyfriend of years I wrote him a 13 page letter I never mailed it but just writing it was the best closer.
  • May 16, 2009, 10:37 PM
    frangipanis

    Take time to heal but don't waste time missing out on the chance to make new friends. I've been feeling really sorry and sad for myself these past few weeks and a bit worthless, so today when I signed on to a dating site and said I was looking for friendship, I was amazed that someone with a great looking face and decent profile who is 10 years younger than me wrote:

    You are 1 very attractive lady, and for a woman of 49 even more so. Would love to see that smile in person.

    Boy, did he make my day :)))

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