Well I meet this girl last two months in a club,she kind of came to me,we talk and stuff ,she asked me if I would love to have baby's I say yes,we had a date in two days time and had sex in our first date.I travelled to vissit her in her country I meet her parents and friends who all liked me.we lived together for two weeks.now she wrote to me I rude email and I responded by telling her to off,I broke up with her and after two days I went back to her.she say she need time to think things out because I disrespected her yet she loved me,she still love me.she say she need three weeks which I was had for me then she say two weeks.its hard for me what can I do and will she come back to me pliz I need your advice

I think she enjoys the thought of making babies but not the reality that it can happen. She sounds like she is playing at being a grown-up. Give her the time she asks for and then see what happens. In that three week time span, DO NOT contact her. Do not call, email, write, or send anything to her. Leave her alone. After three weeks, see what happens. Also, in that three weeks, you go about your life and be busy. Life goes on. That may sound hard but it is true. You started with sex, you did not have any time to get to know her well enough to know if you want to have children together. How were you going to raise those children anyway?

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I think she enjoys the thought of making babies but not the reality that it can happen. She sounds like she is playing at being a grown-up. Give her the time she asks for and then see what happens. In that three week time span, DO NOT contact her. Do not call, email, write, or send anything to her. Leave her alone. After three weeks, see what happens. Also, in that three weeks, you go about your life and be busy. Life goes on. That may sound hard but it is true. You started off with sex, you did not have any time to get to know her well enough to know if you want to have children together. How were you going to raise those children anyways?

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Thanks for that,actually she is 29 years and am 26 years,I wornder how

Hi my girl told me she needed time off to think of what she want.it was a two week oof then today she broke up with me.will she ever come back because I love her still,what can I do

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hi my girl told me she needed time off to think of what she want.it was a two week oof then today she broke up with me.will she ever come back coz i love her still,what can i do

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I don't think she will come back. It sounds like she does not know what she wants. And if she cann't see a good thing in front of her then that's her bad luck.
A great book that might help is "He's just not that into me" but Greg Brehandt I know it is usually for women but I've found a lot of others who benefit.
Good luck. I know it's hard to move on but there is someone out there waiting for you.

My girl friend broke up with me two months ago.I was so hurt she say will shall never be together.I moved on with my life.now am in another relationship happily with another girl.all of a sadden she want us to meet in april;she has been texting a lot and she say she is happy we are good friends and she wants us to be good friends for life.she told me when we broke up she cried a lot.whats her motive?what can I do?should I go on with friends with her or messaging her?

No. Being friends with your ex is not fair to your girlfriend. (Your ex broke up with you. Why was she crying?? )

Text your ex that your life has changed and you are now off limits for her, forbidden to her. Then say goodbye and good luck. After that, have no contact with her. Absolutely none.

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my girl freind broke up with me two months ago.i was so hurt she say will shall never be together.i moved on with my life.now am in another relationship happily with another girl.all of a sadden she want us to meet in april;she has been texting alot and she say she is happy we are good friends and she wants us to be good friends for life.she told me when we broke up she cried alot.whats her motive?what can i do?should i go on with friends with her or messaging her?

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I totally agree with the last post. You do not owe her anything. She broke up with you. You have been brave enough to cut off contact and move on, she has not. That says a lot about you and your strength as a person.

Being friends will only complicate your new relationship, and might even ruin it.

Unless you are interested in your ex still? But be careful, she may be messing you around.

Of course she wants to be friends with you, she can have her cake, with no commitments, but does she care you have a new love? Heck NO! You don't have time for her, and she blew her chance, and you have moved on. Let her know your busy with your happy new life. No Contact is fair, for HER!

Hi my girlfriend went for three weeks trip and she is coming back soon.I will be picking her up from the airport what are some of the best romantic ways or things to do.is waiting at arrival with a red flower OK?

If she's not coming back that soon, you can get some roses and order gourmet chocolate here: Gourmet chocolate covered strawberries and chocolate dipped strawberry.
Haha
I hope that's not going over the top

One long stem rose would be perfect. She'll love it. :) Godiva is also good!

If I am back from a long trip abroad, the first thing that appeals to me would be my favourite food that is only available in the local market.

Be it her favourite doughnut, favourite milkshake, favourite sandwich etc. U can bring it along with that rose in your hand. First, hand her the rose and say how much u miss her. Secondly, take out that box of food and let her know u went all the way to buy it. This works best if she misses the food (if she went to another country for the trip).

Another idea that will make most women melt is a self-made bracelet or anything that is self-made and can be seen as personal. U can go to a bead shop, get the beads with alphabets on them. Spell out "I MISS U" and chain it up into a bracelet. Wrap it across her wrist when u meet her and give her a peck on the cheek. She will know that when she was gone, u made the effort to do something for her.

My girlfriend of two months has stop calling or texting for a week now.I wrote her e-mail no reply.I lost her number with my phone so I can't reach her yet she has my phone number.usually she would call or text after two days or so.but since she went to work in another country where she was four years before I meet her she has stop now stop calling or texting.is she avoiding me?is she busy or what can I do.I love her so much.

That's tough- do you know any of her family or friends?


She is either really really busy, or she is "walking away" from you. Did you receive any indicators of her being displeased with the relationship before she left?

Don't be so clingy and needy. She is having a great time, and is busy, so don't just sit by the phone, find something else to do, besides fret and assume.

She's just moved away, she's finding her boundaries and getting used to things, don't be so clingy she will call eventually, don't think about it so much

Well, I have been seeing this gril for like six months now.tow months ago she told me that she wanted a pause in our relationship I didn't understand that when I told her we break up she said no we have a pause I told her its OK with her for me my life moves on.few weeks later she started calling and texting that she is sure am the right one for her.she is ready for me to meet her parents and she want to move in with me.she say she now loves me.should I move in with her. Is it true that she love me or she is after something else.my fear is that she may again say she want a pause.I aske3d her about this and she say she wanted to clear her head that's why she wanted a pause what can I do

Or she saw an opportunity with someone else, and learned that the grass wasn't greener on the other side. I would wait another six months to make sure it's a good idea.

From the way you handle things between you and her, I don't think you love her. You told her it was OK when she wanted a pause and you could move on. You didn't dig up a reason, and you did nothing to save the relationship.
And I don't think she loves you either. It seems that the "important" way she shows her love is to move in with you. It is just a physical thing for you two.
Before being in love, why not try to be good friends?

Remember,
Friends first
Then marriage,
Then sex.
Moving in together turns thing up side down. Not a good idea. Besides your post does not say much about loving her, just dating for 6 months. Probably a better idea would be to take another break and decide how much you really want this girl in your life and for how long.

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Moving in together turns thing up side down. Not a good idea. Besides your post does not say much about loving her, just dating for 6 months. Probably a better idea would be to take another break and decide how much you really want this girl in your life and for how long.

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Not everyone agrees with this. Sex before is marriage is fine if within your beliefs. That's not the applicable situation here.

I don't think 6 months is long enough to move in together. I am not saying wait until you are married but wait at least a year or two. Personally I think people should live together before they get married. What if you get married and find out the person is a living nightmare to live with then you are stuck.

MOVING IT?? As if that was going to solve your problems.. Just decline, besides after 6 months she wants a break, and then come back out of the blue wanting to move in and having you meet the parents.. I don't think so.

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MOVING IT??? As if that was going to solve your problems.. Just decline, besides after 6 months she wants a break, and then come back out of the blue wanting to move in and having you meet the parents.. I don't think so.

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That's what I was saying... seems fishy to me..

The poster is only asking about moving in and not about sex before marriage. We must resist our "speechifying" tendencies, eh people? I'm a big speecher, too, so trust me, I know how easy it is to go into "lecture mode" about stuff we weren't asked.

Anyway. What to do? Well, if you don't mind living a life like a puppet on a string, just keep taking your lead from her and doing what she wants. That will only work if you really love her and have no need for say-so of your own.

Is that how you are? You don't have any actual opinions about the right and wrong way to do things? You're OK with her dropping in and out on her whims and you just do as your told?

If not, but you still want her back, stop taking instructions from her. Start giving some of your own:

"If the pause is over, that is fine. But you will keep your home and I will keep mine. My independence is very important and I know you will respect me for it. I learned that during our 'pause', so thanks for that. And we can start seeing each other again, but I've decided we will take things nice and slow, no pressure and no more silly business. I'm sure you agree, yes?"

Take some control here, no need to be mean, just no need to be a doormat, either.

Very good advice, AS USUSAL, from JBeaucaire!!

You didn't care about a pause in the relationship, and I really can't see why your even considering moving in with her, or meeting her parents. You never even said you missed her. I don't think you two fit together, or even care about each other, so stay where you are.

Hi greetings.I have been dating this girl for like six months now and I love her so much.thre months ago she wanted us to pause our relationship.I didn't want to pause but I surgested that we should end it.she didn't want to end it either and also decided not to pasue.she say the reason for her wanting to pause was to think things out.after two months we became serious and she even pay for me my hotel and trip to go meet her parents.I had great time with her parents and they like me a lot .I spend two days at there home.now this girl is ready to move in with me.and she say she is in love with me.she never have loved someone like the way she loved me.also she say am the only boy friend her parents liked. Is this girl for real?can I let her mve in?will she nevr want to pause again. she want to meet my family also.what can I do.

What can you do?

Go with it!

If you love her just as much as she loved you then you would make it work. Love is like that. Are you ready to make such a commitment?

She is moving to fast for you, and has it in her head to jump to the next level, and your not ready. Resolve this conflict by being honest about how you feel, and listening to her concerns. That takes some honest communications between you, and a willingness to work together. Now is not the time to just go with the flow, as boundaries need to be established, by you both. Communicate, and express your concerns.

Greetings. What if she tells me she loves me so much and she is ready to settle with me.she say she has travel and seen all she wanted and now she has move in another serious step of her life.she say she was sorry for the pause thing.and she say she is truly in love with me.should I let her move in because I love her so much and she did asked me to forgive her.I have meet all of her friends and parents.is she for real can I take a risk and try things with her out.

I think you should take a chance you will never no what will happen if you don't try.. I did the same thing with my husbent and now were married

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After what you have been through, 6 months is not enough time to resolve your issues nor know each other well enough to know where this should be going. Slow down and have some fun getting to know each other and build the trust needed for living together, without the pressure of being to close to fast. What's the hurry.

You both have to know for sure your willing to work together, and not just be together.

Well,I moved in with this girl and its now one week.since she move in when ever am from work I find her with her friends who are gilrs watching movie in my house.she has two months off before she start work and when she start work in September she will be going away from home every hree weeks.since she been here she has been so into sex and close to me.she don't want me to go out to be with her indoors.does she love me.she say she love me and want to us to have wedding one day.she talks of her giving me half of her salary for me to invest for our future.whats her intention.is she after this two month.can I keep on or should I go on with my life and pretend as if she doesn't exist.I love her though.pliz help.

You may as well enjoy it, because from your previous posts it will never last. You both may think this is love, but I really don't. Sorry, but I have read your whole story, and don't see that everlasting love as you do, and I only think she is in it as a convenient, fun thing to do, and can use sex to keep you guessing, but doing nothing except what she wants. Sorry guy, I think your gut is telling you something you need to hear.

Greetings.my girl moved in with me awhile ago.she has long term plan with me.she is even considering us having engaged in few days.in a nice island.she is paying all the coast.she buys all the rings.she trust me with her money after moving in with me for like for a month now.she want me to invest the money for our future.is she real in love.sometimes she makes me sad when she say something or when she react in a negative way and after she say she never wanted to make me sad it happened and she really feel sorry.can I trus this girl and go on with her.what is she up to.

?? She is paying for the ring and all cost BUT she wants you to pay for your future and everything else?

Not sure the situation here BUT
Sounds to me like her thinkin' is
I invest a couple thousand and in return I end up with a house, all the furnishings, a car, vacations and whatever I want. The couple thousand a small investment to my return.

If that is the case and you still want to go through with it I think you better do some planning ahead for yourself as well. Like suggest a pre-nuptial agreement and see how she takes it. Or put some money somewhere that she has no way to get to it.
Protect yourself somehow. I think you better be sure before cause she could find a way around anything you try.

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If this is the same female, I would think twice.

Agree with Tal, money doesn't mean the best relationship or trusting person.