Moving On But showing my ex that I am still there.
Hi my name is bobby and I am 19 years old. I am new to this site so I would just like to say its great to be a part of this. I see how you experts give advice and was very intrigued and decided to sign up so that I can see what advice you guys would give me.
I met this girl last year who lives in los angeles. And in June of this year we started going out. And as a month have gone by she fell in love with me and I did for her. And we were going good, the distance didn't mean anything to us. However there were problems at my end that I started to stress. Like my parents being so skeptical and not supportive as much on my relationship. My mother who visits every now and then always bad talking about me saying that I'm nothing and ull never be good of a person. And while taking all of this in, I started to become I guess more clingy. I called her more periods of times. If she was sleeping or bz I would keep calling like 5 more times until she picks up, or send her text messages to see what she was up to. And then I started to get more mushy, to a point where it was getting boring and irritating towards her. And then we argued a lot over things. At times I would lie not on anything big or major something little. Like if she was telling me about something and asks are you listening to me? I would go yea yea I'm listening instead of me saying I'm sorry what were you saying? So the little lies I made became a big issues because she hates liars. Don't we all? But all my mistakes that I made instead of me just stopping. I made excuses and excuses and with each one. I doubted myself more saying she's going to leave me. She's not going to love me anymore. And my doubts led me to the breakup. We tried getting back together but I didn't change back to the calm person I was before. The person that she fell in love with. And then she said she was fed up and couldn't take it anymore. That I had a lot of growing up to do. And I begged and pleaded but it didn't change her mind. And I let her go. She told me when you do get yourself together give me a call. And then the next day I woke up and realised everything from when it started to now. And I was wrong. And she was right. I called and told her that you were right. And I do need to grow up. So I will start listening. And I told her ima give you your space as well as my time to think things through. And that was that. And then she calls me later saying I'm confused because I miss you. I miss the person that I fell in love with. I miss what we had. And she goes on to saying I'm not saying we are not going to be together but I'm also not saying we are going to be together. But I just hope that you work out whatever is making you this way. So I told her well look I'm not trying to rush anything between us. And I'm not trying to get back in this relationship asap but I would like to take this slow. And see if we can make this work again. So after we talked for a while and relaxed and conversated. I didn't call for like 3 days and then today I just called to tell her that I've done a lot of thinking and I can honestly say that right now I am feeling very good and happy with where I'm at. And that everything with my family has started to ease up. My dad has started to support me more and my mom just hasn't been visiting as much so I got some peace. And I told her that I know last week we talked and I know we got a couple of weeks until you finally come down. But why don't we make the best of the time we have until that final time. I'm not tryna rush you into taking me back. But I would like to take things slow with u. and after that I told her to enjoy her day and that was that.
I know it's a longggggggggggggg story. But I hope I explained this very well to you guys.
At first she did not want to come down after she said she was done trying with me. But for some reason she does now. So tell me. Do I have a chance of getting her back? And what do I have to do?
