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    jayjay87 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 5, 2010, 10:42 AM
    Insecure and shy, but boyfriend of 3 years doesn't understand.
    Me and my boyfriend have been together about 3 years, he's 25 am 22. About 18 months ago I had a miscarriage. I didn't even know I was pregnant and was on the pill. (am now using the pill PLUS condoms) however about 2 weeks ago the condom ripped and I stopped taking the pill that week (side effects), damn luck, the condom split and I had to have the morning after pill.
    This messed my head up a bit and since then I haven't been near my boyfriend. We have been fighting a lot, he feels I'm not attracted to him any more, but I am. I love him to pieces but the idea of having sex scares me a bit. We used to be all over each other, twice a day, (all day if we could) and to go from that to this, I just can't understand it, my boyfriend wants to know wats rong, but how can I explain it, if I don't even know myself?
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    Oct 5, 2010, 10:46 AM

    Just tell him you are scared of getting pregnant. Be honest. It is easier then you think.
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    Oct 5, 2010, 05:52 PM

    Start with the absolute truth, and go from there.
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    Oct 26, 2010, 10:03 AM
    You just told US what the problem is, have you tried sitting down and talking to him saying the things that you JUST told US? If he loves you, he will understand how and why you are feeling the way you are, and give him a time, even though you might not know how long is going to take before you feel comfortable to start having sex with him again, at least tell him whether you think you will be able to accomplish such task. And if you can't, maybe it is time to let him move on because even though you love him you won't be able to meet his expectations which will return in more issues and fights, so think about how you are going to fix this current, and hopefully momentary issue that you are going through right now.

    Good Luck,

    Javi
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    Oct 26, 2010, 11:45 AM

    You tell him what you just told us. Hopefully this boyfriend will be man enough to understand! If he doesn't, well then you will need to start another post about how much of jerk your boyfriend is!
    You also need to check into other types of birth control besides the pill that gives you side effects and condems that break. You can find that out on internet or other just ask experts on this site under appropriate category. Good luck
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