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    How to make your baby daddy fall in love with you again?

    Asked Oct 27, 2012, 06:01 PM 19 Answers
    My baby daddy and I had been dating for a year and a half, but I broke up with him while I was pregnant because things wasn't going right. I never intended for us not to be back together but he now has a girlfriend of 3 months and he says he love me but he continues to be with her. What should I do? Should I fight for our relationship back or just give up?

    Last edited by talaniman; Oct 28, 2012 at 12:27 PM.
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    Oct 27, 2012, 06:07 PM
    How old are both of you?
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    Oct 27, 2012, 06:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    How old are both of you?
    I'm 18 and he's 22
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    Oct 27, 2012, 06:12 PM
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    im 18 and he's 22
    Sounds like you were underage when you became pregnant. Is he supporting the baby?
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    Oct 27, 2012, 06:16 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    Sounds like you were underage when you became pregnant. Is he supporting the baby?
    No he doesn't have a job right now... but he always says he love me an wants a family n tries to make it seem like he ha sthe perfect rel;ationship
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    Oct 27, 2012, 06:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by FAYE2012 View Post
    no he dosent have a job right now.... but he always says he love me an wants a family n tries to make it seem like he ha sthe perfect rel;ationship
    No job. Who is supporting you? Sounds like a loser to me.
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    Oct 27, 2012, 06:53 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    No job. Who is supporting you? Sounds like a loser to me.
    My mom and I.. But I can't help but love him and I don't understand why me and him just can't work it out and why is he with someone else? Is it because she pays his cel phone bill? Or what.. like what is it... will I ever be back with the one that I truly love?
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    Oct 27, 2012, 07:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by FAYE2012 View Post
    jus my mom and i.. but i can't help but love him n i dont understand y me and him just can't work it out and y is he with someone else? is it because she pays his cel phone bill? or wat.. like wat is it... will i ever be back with the one that i truely love?
    I think you need to raise your baby and do everything you can to provide a happy, healthy childhood. Pretty soon, the new girlfriend will be pregnant and he will leave her too. File for child support so when he gets back to work he can help you provide for the child.
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    Oct 27, 2012, 08:04 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    I think you need to raise your baby and do everything you can to provide a happy, healthy childhood. Pretty soon, the new girlfriend will be pregnant and he will leave her too. File for child support so when he gets back to work he can help you provide for the child.
    But we loved each other so much.. I know that, that just can't b eit between us!
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    Oct 27, 2012, 08:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by FAYE2012 View Post
    but we loved each other so much.. i know that, that just can't b eit between us!
    What does your mom have to say? If my daughter got pregnant and she was underage, I would have turned the guy in to the police.
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    Oct 27, 2012, 09:12 PM


    Wow! Sounds like a real winner!

    Is this the kind of man you want to be a role model for your child? A man who doesn't work and doesn't support his child?

    He's got a girlfriend, he's off limits to you.
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    Oct 28, 2012, 06:52 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    What does your mom have to say? If my daughter got pregnant and she was underage, I would have turned the guy in to the police.
    My mom thinks I should try getting over him but he's my first love and I was 18
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    Oct 28, 2012, 07:08 AM


    First love means nothing, esp, when he is a loser, ( sorry but this is not anyone worth fighting over) listen to mom
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    Oct 28, 2012, 08:29 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Wow! Sounds like a real winner!

    Is this the kind of man you want to be a role model for your child? A man who doesn't work and doesn't support his child?

    He's got a girlfriend, he's off limits to you.
    N no not really. Because I know we still care for each other... n honestly I think he just using her...

    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    First love means nothing, esp, when he is a loser, ( sorry but this is not anyone worth fighting over) listen to mom
    That's easier said then done
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    Oct 28, 2012, 08:40 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by FAYE2012 View Post
    my mom thinks i should try getting over him but he's my first love and i was 18
    Why isn't he in jail for getting a minor pregnant?
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    Oct 28, 2012, 12:33 PM
    I know its hard to get over that first love after having a child by them, but you have totry and get away from this loser and his lying words to you. He is playing you both for what he can get. Take him to court for child support, job or NOT!!

    That's probably why he stays on your good side so you won't. If it wasn't right before, its even worse NOW!!
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    Oct 30, 2012, 12:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    Why isn't he in jail for getting a minor pregnant?
    18 is not considered a minor

    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    I know its hard to get over that first love after having a child by them, but you have totry and get away from this loser and his lying words to you. He is playing you both for what he can get. Take him to court for child support, job or NOT!!!

    Thats probably why he stays on your good side so you won't. If it wasn't right before, its even worse NOW!!!
    I hear u. its I don't know... just can't help the way I feel
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    Oct 30, 2012, 01:28 PM
    No you cannot help the way you feel, but you can control what you do about those feelings. No its NOT easy.
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    Oct 30, 2012, 01:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    No you cannot help the way you feel, but you can control what you do about those feelings. No its NOT easy.
    Well I don't know what to do. Sometimes I wish I never would had broke up with him and I wouldn't have these problems because he really did love me and at the time I acted like a jack and now I feel like he's doing all of this to hurt me jut like I hurt him and I know he still loves. We been through too much together.. how am I suppose to just walk away from all of that.
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    Oct 30, 2012, 02:00 PM
    Like the rest of us do, by building your own life that makes you happy without him. Keeping your dignity and self respect, and doing good things for yourself and your child.

    ONE DAY AT A TIME! Because it will take a lot of time, and many baby steps. The court can help for child support, and visitations, AND read these stickies for great ideas of how best to take care of YOURSELF.
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