I'm in the military and so is my fiancée. We were both based together and that's how we met. We took leave and visited each others families over the holidays. When we were done with our leave, we had to go to new bases, separate from each other. Now she is overseas and I'm still stateside. When she got there she decided that she hated being without me and we set a date. We were already engaged but with no date set. So we started planning. From the color of the dresses to the cake to the honeymoon. Randomly last weekend she called me and said she doesn't want to get married on the date we set. She said she still does, just not then. Then 20 minutes later she called and apologized and said she was being stupid and she's in love with me and does want to get married in September. That night she stopped responding to all messages and the next day we had a serious talk about our relationship. We established that we are going to get married, we just don't know when. She said she'd call me later but she had to go take care of her laundry. The call never came. When it got late for her, local time, I texted her a "goodnight, I love you" message. The next day she told me she'd been out drinking with her girlfriends until well after I had texted her. Then she told me she needs a couple days to think because she is stressed and might need a break. She told me to call her on my lunch break the following day. When I did she said that we need a break. I asked if that's what she really wants and she responded with "I think it's best". I was so confused and couldn't just take that laying down so I left her a message that night saying that I didn't want a break and I am in love with her and if we love each other we should work things out, not just walk away and hope that whatever's wrong will get better. She responded with "please do it for me. I need a break". I haven't spoken to her since. It's been just under a week, but it's killing me. My life feels so empty without her. I've never even considered marrying somebody before so this is a big deal. I can't get her off my mind, no matter how hard I try, she's always there. I just don't know what to do.

I think you see the handwriting on the wall. She doesn't know what she wants. Maybe it's you and maybe it's not. Distance doesn't necessary make a heart grow fonder.

The way to get over someone is to not have contact with that person. I know it sounds a lot easier than it is.

You need closure, certainly, but that's next to impossible with you "here" and her "there."

What would I do? I'd leave her alone not contact her, not play any more games. If she is undecided or uncertain getting married would be a very bad idea - but you already know that.