My daughter won't talk to me because I don't approve of her boyfriend.
My 23 year old daughter won't talk to me anymore because she knows that I don't approve of her current boyfriend. I have done this because I knew him as a friend and co-worker before they were interested in each other. They were meeting secretly since they had I had a good idea I would not approve.
He is 8 years older than her, has been with numerous girls including hookers on a semi regular basis and is has a huge anger problem. He was also a heavy drinker but seems to have slowed down when he is with her but drinks the same way when with his friends.
Once I found out they were dating secretly he sort of tried to get my approval but I told him it was a little late for that and that I don't think they are a good match. That made him very angry and he seems to have successfully turned her against her whole family.
We are from a South Asian ethnic background and family approval of serious relationships between friends and family is generally considered a tradition. I feel he betrayed our friendship by his actions and with all the other negative things I know about him I think he just 'trapping' my daughter in a relationship but she does not see anything wrong with him.
What should I do? I don't want to lose my daughter but I also need to be frank with her about who she is seeing to warn her.
Please help !