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    forumnz Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 14, 2011, 09:34 PM
    Cant really understand my girlfriend. Help
    Hello.
    So I've been dating this girl for 2 months, but we dated last year for the first 5 months and I was hanging out for 2 years with a group of friends, so, I tried to include her in it. As such, the group and her ended up having a huge fight after christmas. Conclusion: I got through "31th Dec - 1 Jan" night with just her, and not with my friends. So, my friends decided to make some bad comments on Facebook, insulting her and such, because my friends thought my girlfriend was telling me not to party with them on new years night, and that's not true. I stood up for her, and ended up fighting with some friends of mine over her. I didn't talk with them for 2 weeks until yesterday as I went to have dinner with them to try to solve things out. During the dinner, no one said anything about what happened so I didn't say anything either. But my girlfriend got really mad at me saying that I didn't act appropriately.
    From the dinner, I concluded that my friends weren't really mad at me, just to my girlfriend for "not letting me" party with them that night. What should I do? I mean, I know they act wrong and when I stood up for my girlfriend, I made myself very clearly in which side I was on (hers obviously). How can I solve this?
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    Jan 15, 2011, 12:21 AM
    Honstley this was very unmature thing , your girl get hurted real bad by insulting by your friends , and women usually take way much , if they see some one insulting them on the net , I believe she saw when you stood up for her , but she making her self blind , you have to go and talk to her once again , and tell her I stood up for you , but she will tell you in the end of the day , you will choose your friends over me , and you can't drage your friends into this , because I can see they already hate her , and no one will go with you to apologize, don't give up try more time to apologize and show that you are there for her , if she didn't get the message then I'm sorry , you have to choose your friends or her , if the things didn't work out good , I would say look for another girl , and be carfull draging her to your group of friends, keep your things on your own privacy life
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    Jan 15, 2011, 02:39 AM

    For me personally, I like having my own friends, my girlfriend, having her own friends. This gives us the opportunity to do our own thing once in awhile. We then also have mutual friends where we can all go out as a group. This is ideal for me.
    As far as your situation goes, I have been in the same boat kind of, except my friends would disrespect my girlfriend to my face, but then behind my back be messaging her through email, or trying to call her to ask her out lol. I am 28 yrs old and so are they or older! So to me, by disrespecting my girlfriend, in a way your disrespecting me! That is my girl, who I am in love with and we are a team. So I got new friends.. these were lifelong friends too, knew some from kindergarten!
    Go tell a huge sports fan, who absolutely is in love with there favorite team, how much there favorite team sucks, I bet they don't take it too lightly, why? Because your disrespecting there team there in love with, which is disrespecting them. They are in love with that team, they believe in that team, just as I am sure you do with your girlfriend.
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    Jan 15, 2011, 01:37 PM

    Pretty plain she wanted you to stand up for her when she was there, and you didn't so she is mad about that. It happens, and for sure we can't please everyone all the time but she better get over it, or get dumped.

    I get queasy feelings in my gut when people cannot adjust to circumstances, and get over themselves.

    Or maybe you should pay closer attention to the way she handles things in the future, because it sounds as if you should have made a big deal of her hurt feelings, and gotten them to apologize to her sacred a$$. Maybe you keep her separate from them friends and seek other avenues of entertainment with her.

    But for sure they don't have to be rude on the social network, and maybe they are as immature as your g/f. That's probably the case. You can't win when you are surrounded by immature people so who is more important??

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