[bluemoon2]

I am wondering if anyone here (maybe psychic) can tell me some insights on my past relationship and on whether it'll work out in the end. I saw a psychic that I believe to be very sincere a couple times last month and he said his "guides" tell him that we'll get back together.

[Fr_Chuck]

Have you broken up at some point, since you said back together.

What happened to cause you to break up ?

Are you currently talking and trying to work things out

[bluemoon2]

So about a month and a half ago my boyfriend broke up with me. We are both 26, and I was just about to graduate college. (finally!) The break up came to me as a complete surprise. I know it might sound like total crap... but we never fought! He got along great with my friends and I got along great with his. When he broke up with me he told me that he just feels like we're two different people. He went on to say that I'm about to finish school and get my career on track, and he doesn't even know what he wants to do yet. He said a few silly things like "sometimes I think you just want to be married now and start a family right away." I never pushed anything. We didn't even live together and never talked about it.
Before the break up we both went through some very stressful situations... none of which were related to each other. I was finishing school and had a lot of stress from that, and I had an internship at a domestic abuse shelter. I did different administrative/office management type duties during my internship, and I really didn't think that the atmosphere would effect me. A couple weeks before the break up there was a domestic murder in our area and that completely changed everything for me at work. Not only did we have more crisis phone calls, but there were more women coming in to talk with counselors. I did have to talk to these sobbing women many times and try to calm them down. Often they'd tell me in great detail what was going on with them. I heard awful things. It started to eat away at me. I kept it all inside, which I now know was wrong. I took the confidentiality of the job very seriously and didn't want to talk to anyone outside of work about it. One day I even tried to talk to my supervisor, but she was in her office crying when I approached her. I walked away. There would be times where I would just start to cry randomly, including the last night we spent together as a couple. He asked me what was wrong and I told him a couple things were wrong... school and work. He later told me after the break up that he was sure that I was crying because I was thinking about how this relationship would never work... a thought that never crossed my mind. His stress that was going on during this time was mainly money related. Even though I am just finishing school, I've never had any money issues. I am lucky to have had money left to me by a grandparent. He found out a few days before the break up that he wasn't approved for a home loan, and he has been working his tail off and he still lives paycheck to paycheck. Although he's not really in debt besides his car loan, he really has anxiety issues because of money. He hates hates HATES his job. He has a goal of becoming a fireman. I told him that I'd always support him no matter what he chooses to do. (If I would imagine he and I together a year from now, I'd picture him in school and we would go through the financial and emotional stress of that together.)
The first time we talked after the break up (maybe 3 days later), I found out that he gave his 30 day notice on his apartment- even though he has no idea where he'll go, he just knows he can't afford it- and he had a meeting set up with an army recruiter. This is one path that he could take to get trained in fire safety. I told him that I'd support him if he thought that was the best route to take in achieving his goal, but I suggested that he really look into going to a school around here for the same training. He has a lot of fear about school loans. Although I never had to take any loans out, I don't understand that he doesn't realize that pretty much all college students take loans. He now is studying to take a placement test at the college and has applied for loans to see how that goes. He's been really negative though... he thinks that he won't get any loans and that he'll do real poorly on the test. He's very intelligent and I tell him that all the time. He wasn't always this negative, either. If he was, I never would have been attracted to him in the first place.
We have talked a couple times about maybe getting back together. Every time he says that he just doesn't want to be with anyone right now. He told me that he doesn't think that he'll want to get back together at any point because he thinks he would have felt that way already. (he said that about 3 weeks ago)
I love him so much, but I am trying as hard as I can to just move on. I can't. I cry every day. He and I still talk about once or twice a week and each time is for about and hour and a half. (and no, I never cry on the phone) I am so proud of him for working towards his career goals. I was 24 when I went back to college to finish, and I know how hard it is to go when you aren't the typical 18-19 years old. Although I am happy that he's working on getting things where he wants them in his life, I am so sad that we aren't together. I just feel that everything would be so easy to fix.
I ran into one of his best friends about a month after the break up and she had no idea anything had happened. She said that if she'd call him lately he wouldn't answer and would never call her back. She didn't know about the military stuff or anything. I don't quite know how to take this. I don't call him much, but every time I have he's ALWAYS returned my calls. Although it's hard for me to hear him talk so negatively, I somehow think that him talking to me about everything helps him. You know how just telling someone what's going on makes you feel better? And how getting other's perspectives helps?
Well one night last week we were maybe going to hang out, but we both got too busy and it didn't happen. He called me that night and we talked for over an hour again. That was Monday night, and I left for a quick trip to Las Vegas Thursday. He told me to call him when I get back from my trip. Thursday when I arrived in LV and was able to turn my phone back on, I had a text from him telling me to have a great time and win big. He gets off work at 4:30 and texted me at 4:37. I'm trying so hard not to read too much into this... but I can't help it! He called me Monday... told me to call him when I get back from my trip... and then texted me the day I left wishing me fun and luck. Obviously he's thinking about me, right? I have been dumped before, and I've dumped before. As the dumper, I didn't call my ex or care about what they were up to because I frankly didn't care. And when I was dumped by others, they didn't call me... and if I called them they ignored my calls and didn't call back.
I just want so badly for him to get everything in his life straightened out. Inside that wish I have hope that we'll be back together in the end. This is the first man that I could see myself marrying. This is the first guy that I talked to about having children. Even though it may sound like it, I really don't want to be with him now. I realize he has a lot of things to straighten out, and I think he needs to work on his depression/anxiety issues. I am not going to sit around and wait for him, but I won't be searching for anyone right now. I am simply too hung up on my ex. What do you all think I should do? What's happening in this situation?