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  • Jun 5, 2013, 06:19 PM
    samantha21
    My boyfriend has cheated on me multiple times.
    My fiancé and me have a 3 month old baby and he had to go live with his dad to finish his probation. Then come to find out while he was there he has slept with three girls and one while he was out here. He sexts with the girls on his FB and his phone.

    The last girls he has slept with was his superviser and she said that she couldn't control what she does with my man. Please help I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to continue to be cheated on and I don't want my son to grow up with no dad. :(

    What should I do? He keeps sleeping with these girls.
  • Jun 5, 2013, 06:23 PM
    joypulv
    You do have to make a choice. That choice should be 'no dad' - for enough time as it takes, 1 year or 10 years, to really know someone well before you get involved again. He isn't going to change. Where can you go, or can you throw him out?
    And what SUPERVISOR did he have sex with?
  • Jun 5, 2013, 06:43 PM
    niallover101
    Make sure he KNOWS you are thinking about leaving him. No one wants their child growing up with out a dad, but also no one wants a child that has to see their parents constantly fighting.
  • Jun 5, 2013, 07:03 PM
    odinn7
    He cheated on you 3 times... how are you going to keep him from doing it again? You're not. Why stay with him... he's just going to keep doing it.
  • Jun 6, 2013, 08:07 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Why is there even a choice, he knows what he is doing. He wanted to cheat on you.
  • Jun 7, 2013, 10:49 AM
    mrpines
    Cheating is not a good thing. I recently messed up, cheated on my girlfriend and lost her forever. It was the first and only time and I confessed. Doesn't make it right I confessed, but the fact that it sounds like he does not care is a red-flag. Only if someone is willing to work for your forgivness then it is not worth it.
  • Jun 7, 2013, 05:31 PM
    Handyman2007
    The fact that you have a child with this guy, he is on parole and you are still with him says an awful lot about YOUR priorities. Dump this loser, move away and get a job, learn to make better decisions and improve yourself .
  • Jun 7, 2013, 06:16 PM
    Jake2008
    Why did he have to go and stay with his father to complete his probation? What was the nature of his charges.

    That you decided to become pregnant with a man you know who cheats, what kind of answer do you expect. You have brought a child into this world with full knowledge that your fiancé is already not a very good man, let alone good husband, and more particularly, good father material. I doubt if he has 2 cents to rub together to buy diapers.

    There is nothing in what you have said to indicate that he has offered to make some serious changes in his life in order to accommodate you and a child. If for some strange reason he has to go live with daddy to complete his probation, it isn't likely that he has a lot of education or savings of his own to provide for himself, let alone two more people, and the stress of raising a family.

    So it is up to you. You either continue to buy the garbage he throws your way, or you decide you want a better life for yourself, and your child. Get into some sort of training or education program, and seek help from organizations that can guide you to independence.

    When you are in charge of your own life, you will wonder what you ever needed him for.

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