Friend poached another friend! Advice?
I had never had this feeling before, but last summer I felt like one of my friends was poaching another, as in they were going to be friends with each other INSTEAD of me, not in addition to me. A series of events happened in a few days (friend #1 supposed to come early to help with my housewarming party but not coming until after midnight, friend #2 being the first to leave the party; it getting back to me the next day that they were gossiping about a party they weren't even at; me seeing them out together a few days later when neither had called me) and I was upset and told them both to f off. When I apologized and explained they wouldn't have it and now we're not friends.
Problem is, they never really let me explain why I was upset (things happened before that week, too). I was friends with these women for years, ups and downs, letdowns, good and bad times and it crushes me to think that they apparently don't think as much of the friendship as I do. I KNOW if tables were turned I'd want an apology and an explanation, but for me once you're in the inner circle, you're in. Everybody screws up, just don't make a habit of it.
Part of me wants to get a chance to at least be heard in terms of why I acted the way I did. Another is ready to just let the firnedships die, but it's like I got broken up with no closure. And I can't get it. And one of them I work with and the other is in my sister's wedding with me.
Any ideas would be MOST appreciated!