Well me and my first daughters father were taking a break from each other and I got pregnant and I'm not too sure if he is the father of my new child or not and I have no idea how to tell him without breaking his heart...

You need to upfront and honest with him, I know it may be scary but you have to. Heaven forbid something happen to that child and need a blood transfusion or an organ or bone marrow and find out that he is not a match. If he really loves you he will stay by your side. Tell him you will get a paternity test to make sure. But bottom line let him know now before he gets too attached to that baby.

Thanks kaj675 u have made me look at it in a different point of view...

You just need to be honest. Tell him exactly what you told us here... that you were on a break with him and were with someone else and you are not sure who the father is. You need to tell the other guy this as well. It will serve no one if you try to pretend that your current boyfriend is the father if there is a chance he may not be. It is not fair to anyone, not to the current boyfriend, not the baby (what if there was some medical problem in the future?), or the other guy who may be the father. You NEED to come clean NOW before this child is born and your current boyfriend gets too attached to the child thinking he is the father. Hiding this very important information from everyone is simply cowardly and is not right at all!

After I wrote all of this, I then saw that the first poster wrote pretty much the same thing that I did, so please take our advice.

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Originally Posted by taraleeleb

Well me and my first daughters father were taking a break from each other and I got pregnant and im not too sure if he is the father of my new child or not and i have no idea how to tell him without breaking his heart...

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Hi there I've been through all this with most of my friends and they all don't have husbands or boyfreinds right now .ur saying you don't no who the father is but you no the guy that you slept with right .why don't u talk to him first and ask him 2 do a paternity test before confronting your husband or your boyfreind be sure who is the father before breaking anyone's heart at least you will no 100 percent who your dealing with because I no people who have confronted and lost there spouses but later the child turns out his so if I was you I would keep it 2 myself 4 now and find out who the dad is 1st and then confront him if you need 2 because it does hurt

Tell both guys asap to go take the test.

I might be in the minority of men that think this but if I was the guy you were with between your break up I would want to know about this as well. I'd be devastated to find out in 20 years that I had a child and I missed out on their childhood and worse yet someone else raised that child.

Should have kept your pants on while you were on the break...

You made the decision and now you come here looking for answers.

Tell both guys straight away your relationship sounds very unhealthy already you should have discussed this with your husband already...