My girlfriend said she wants to be single.
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Anyway, I've just decided to sign up so I can explain my situation (although some others are similar) and hopefully get your truthful advice with the experience you people have all had.
So here goes...
I have been with my girlfriend for just 3 months, we were friends before and I know it was wrong but she had a boyfriend who was my friend and me and her had sex under his nose and we were together for a week until he found out. Please from this moment do not judge me in anyway, I know I have done wrong and I have learnt a very very very good lession from this, I was 20 and I just basically fell for this girl, I was single for almost 3 years and I still was a virgin, so I seen this girl as a way out.
Anyway, I started to fall for this girl, I was in love with her, it could have been the fact that I haven't been with a gir for so long but it felt great. We were going everywhere together, different places, sleeping over her place every weekend, having sex when the parents where out, always touching each other, hugging and everythink people in love do. I use to ask her, don't you miss your ex (they were together for 2 years) and she kept saying I don't think about it.
However then we started to argue a little during 2 months in our relationship, we were playing mind games on each other, to see who will ring first, who would apologise first after a argument, although we both always just wanted to pick up the phone and talk but we both were being stubbon. However I think our relationship was doomed from day one by how we met and the ex was always in the picture, I found out 2 months in our relationship that she was talking to her ex and trying to get support that she didn't want to be in a relationship anymore, not with him, me, nobody. She asked to be just single and that's it, nothing more.
I found this out of course and asked her repeatly, "whats going on", and she said that we never argues when we were friends and I feel that we may have jumped to quickly in this relationship and she needs time out and think about things and sort her head out.
However I kept asking her, "what have i done......what could have i done better to make you happy?". She said, "you did make me happy, but i feel im too young to think that im going to be with someone forever, and i need to know what i want in a man, not saying your not that man, because you could be, but its because im so confused i dont know what i want".
And I just kept asking countless questions because I felt hurt, (I know, I know I shouldn't but I didn't know all this at the time, I just wanted her back). I even went down to her parents when she was at work (me and her mom got on good together, lol) and asked her what's going on? is their another lad? has she just not attractive to me anymore? was it because of the silly arguments? WHAT!!
She just said that she didn't know what was going through her head and that maybe she just needs some time for herself to understand what she really wants, she's always been in a relationship and she just wants to be single for a while. I asked her, "If she can just tell me that she doesnt want to be with me, or is not interested, then i will be fine and i will go on my way but she issnt saying it, she keeps leading me on, i just want to know, it will make me go forward.
She asked her daughter and her mom phoned me and she said, "That she just wants to be single and sought her head out, and maybe in 6-12 months from now maybe we could get back together".
When we broke up she kept saying in texts "maybe this won't last forever" and "One day we might get close again and that", "maybe we can get back together when I'm not a little girl anymore" and "if you can wait for me long enough until I sort this out, I'll get back with you".
But what's going on, why do women need space and sort things out in their heads? It don't make sense, if you love someone then YOU DO NOT WANT THEM TO GO. PERIOD. I know she doesn't want to get back with the ex because she has told this exactly to him and said I just want to be alone and sort this out.
Im so sorry for this long post, but I just wanted to explain everythink, I just want the truth. Without it I'm just living in fairlyland. Tony.