Dear Sir/Madam
I am working as a lecturer in a college .My age is 27 years and I am an unmarried male. While teaching to a student in my college I fall in her Love .The girl is from a different community and her age is 23 years .While I was passing through this stage I become so much emotionally involved with her that one day I proposed her . As I proposed her she replied that she liked me but she does not love me,further she added that she is already engaged with some other guy .

I want to come out from this relationship because this relationship is nither socially acceptable nor she loved me .

I tried my best to forget her , but I can't . Please help !

I totally lost my mental peace .

I hope that you have learned some lessons here. For one thing, you should be concentrating only on teaching the students. I know that everyone is of consenting age and everything, but you must consider your standing where you work and the professional demeanor that you must be presenting to others. How you present this is paramount to how well you teach and whether you will keep your job.

Sorry to come down so hard on you. But, you were not hired to fall in love with any student. You were hired to teach them.

You will get over her. It sounds more like you were infatuated with her anyway. That would put it into the category of a "crush." She said that she is in love with someone else and also that she is engaged. That puts her "off limits" right there as far as I am concerned. I was in a situation a number of years ago where I was in love with someone who was just living with someone. As far as I was concerned, she was free to be courted. She later became married to the person with whom she was living. I still love her, but she is off limits to me. We are still friends, though. It is okay. I can handle it. You can too.

When you have a job, part of the thing is to make yourself "indispensable" to those who employ you. Were you making yourself indispensable by getting involved with a student?

Having students in a class is a "captive audience." It's easy for a professor to take advantage of the situation.

You need to get yourself involved with socializing with your peers and people who are interested in the same things that you are. If you want a relationship with someone on your level, then it is best to do that. Go to clubs, church, dances, meetings for single people, etc.

You will get over this. Just please keep your professionalism to your students as your first priority. You will find someone else to your liking.

Consider yourself fortunate that she did not report you to the college's president and board of directors. You can get over this and should do all your best to get past the infatuation you had with this student.

Time will heal, but I hope you don't repeat the same mistake, getting involved with your students.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Time will heal, but I hope you don't repeat the same mistake, getting involved with your students.

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Yah, I agree with u, I am trying my best to forget her...
Thank you for your suggestion