OK, so there is this girl that I've liked for a couple months now, OK? And I've heard from some of my friends that she likes me and that I should ask her out. I've also noticed that she smiles and laughs a lot when she's talking to me. However, I'm kind of shy about the whole dating thing (ever since I had a relationship blow up in my face last year). I want to ask her out, but I don't think I could handle being rejected too well. Also, one of the kids I hang out with liked her before me. He says he is over her, but some people (including me) don't think so. What should I do??

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I would go for it. You have nothing to loose.

Ditto. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

Besides, what's the worst thing that'll happen? She says no? Comes up with some lame excuse for not going out with you? Tells her dad to kick the crap out of you?

Okay, that last one you might be kind of worried about, but don't sweat it if she says no. She says no, just smile, be cool and say, "Okay, sure; if you change your mind let me know," and go on as if you hadn't asked her out in the first place. Just be cool, before, during and after.

If she says yes, then you've got a date. If not, then you don't. The reward definitely outweighs that tiny little risk.

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Originally Posted by fugitivechemical

OK, so there is this girl that I've liked for a couple months now, ok? And I've heard from some of my friends that she likes me and that I should ask her out. I've also noticed that she smiles and laughs a lot when she's talking to me. However, I'm kind of shy about the whole dating thing (ever since I had a relationship blow up in my face last year). I want to ask her out, but I don't think I could handle being rejected too well. Also, one of the kids I hang out with liked her before me. He says he is over her, but some people (including me) don't think so. What should I do???

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I am an older person and had relationships before I married... I was shy and it kept me from meeting or dating many women, I regret not being more curagous... Just hope you
Will not look back and regret the things you didn't do, when you get older..

You have one life,make the best of it, know what you want and go get it... You will never
Get anything if you, keep yourself from trying... Make up your mind what you want,
See yourself getting it... It will surprise you how easy it is... You need to drive yourself
To get where you want to go.

Same here. Go for it! Asking people out takes practice. If you get regected, so what? Consider it an opportunity to learn how to do it better.

Find some common thing that you both like, and bring the subject up with her to "break the ice." You don't have to ask her out immediately then. Just develop a dialogue of some sort with her.

When I was in college (which was a long time ago), one of my goals was to ask as many girls out as possible. I really don't know why, other than I was a very competitive person at the time who wanted to get as much as possible out of life. If not one, why not more? It was just something that I wanted to do. Try the field. See who was a good match, etc.

Relationships when you are young, can be on again, off again in a flash. It is part of being young and finding out who you really are, what you want to be, and who you want to, maybe, spend a lot of time with - maybe for the rest of your life.

All right you guys, I feel a lot more confident now.

First this entire "my friends say this or that" is just not important.
And the way to date is to ask people out, you may be told no 5 out of 8 times, but then they say yes 3 out of 8.

If you never try, you will never get anywhere.