Ask Me Help Desk - It just hurts so much.

I don't even know if this is where I should be posting this but I would just like some advice and answers I me this girl while I was in 5th grade and well we became good friends and I thought about asking her out so many times but I didn't have the courage and she ended up dateing someone else for almost a year and it hurt but I went by through it then eventually I had the courage to step up and ask her out and I was so happy when she said yes and well we dated for 3 months and it was the best time of my life but we ahd this friend who lives in another country and well after she left me she started talking to him online a lot more and stuff they hid the fact that they wer I guess you would say dating over the internet and recently I found out about it just hurt so bad I almost killed myself because we stayed good friedns and she would always say she still loved me and I believed it and now she says that she loves me like a brother I love her so much and its just hurting me I've really been depressed since she left me but I've just hid it I didn't want her to know how bad she hurt me and while we started talking a lot again and she ended up hurting me because of how much she loved the friend from another country and I just need to know someway to get her back or to somehoe forget how bad she hurt me... this probably seems stupid but I just want to know what to do I mean I am so depressed and I feel like hurting myself time and time again

You REALLY love that girl, don't you? I mean, really, truly...

But I think she doesn't know it. She knows you love (loved) her, but she doesn't seem to know how much you really, truly love her. I might be wrong but somehow I believe she's always considered you as a very good friend and even a brother, but maybe not so much as a romantic partner.
I think you should stop hiding your feelings and open up more. Maybe you should be honest with her and with yourself and just let her know how much you love (loved) her and how much she hurt you.

Otherwise, I don't know what else you could do...
Why did she left you? And how old are you guys?

I don't know if that is what I should do I mean I'm afraid that if I tell her completely how I feel and how much she hurt me she mihgt just forget about mea and leave and I rally don't want to lose her as a freiend and if I don't do somthin I'm going to end up...

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Originally Posted by ithurtssobad

i dont know if that is what i should do i mean im afraid that if i tell her completly how i feel and how much she hurt me she mihgt just forget about mea nd leave and i rally dont want to lose her as a freiend and if i dont do somthin im going to end up...

Then, you should probably work on it yourself, deal with your emotions and do your best to understand that she's interested in some other guy. It won't be easy, but you'll have to. Sorry I can't help more.

Dude, don't worry. Think of all the good times. And I'm not just trying to cheer you up (I am, but... ) Seriously, I've had little to no dating experience. My personal advice is that there are plenty of fish in the sea, but friends are forever. So, at least for the time being, put your feelings aside and stay as very close friends

That's it... I can't stand it anymore I'm going to talk to her one more time and tell her everything... then I'm gone for good

Love hurts... its time I said goodbye... good bye to everyone I ever loved if I don't do what I'm thinking of doing I will do it inside... im never going to be the same... its over... you won't see me smile anymore.. you won't see me happy... I loved her.. she loved him... and she's put me out for the last time she doesn't care about me... THEN Y SHOULD I CARE FOR HER... I don't know but I do more then myself.. so I'm gone I'm not the same...

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Originally Posted by ithurtssobad

i dont even know if this is where i should be posting this but i would just like some advice and answers i me this girl while i was in 5th grade and well we became good friends and i thought about asking her out so many times but i didnt have the courage and she ended up dateing someone else for almost a year and it hurt but i went by thru it then eventually i had the courage to step up and ask her out and i was so happy when she said yes and well we dated for 3 months and it was the best time of my life but we ahd this friend who lives in another country and well after she left me she started talking to him online alot more and stuff they hid the fact that they wer i guess you would say dating over the internet and recently i found out about it just hurt so bad i almost killed myself because we stayed good friedns and she would always say she still loved me and i believed it and now she says that she loves me like a brother i love her so much and its jsut hurting me ive really been depressed sinse she left me but ive just hid it i didnt want her to know how bad she hurt me and while we started talking alot again and she ended up hurting me because of how much she loved the friend from another country and i just need to know someway to get her back or to somehoe forget how bad she hurt me....this probably seems stupid but i just want to know what to do i mean i am so depressed and i feel like hurting myself time and time again

Try and find another girl it may seem harsh and not what you want to do and trust me dist\ance relationships don't work been in 3 n got hurt every time badly tell her how you feel about her and ask her not t say that she loves you like a brother if that hurts or start thinking of her as a sister because if you consider her a sister the feelings you have do disappear and then you can try and be friends with her again