My husband & I have been married almost 2 years but together a total of like 7. We have sex around 1-2 times a week but there has been a few occasions were I wanted sex and he turned me down. It really hurt my feelings bad! It just happen again the other night and I can't quit thinking about it for some reason. I don't think I am boring in bed or anything like that. I do feel like I innitate sex most times too. I thought guys never turn women down? It makes me feel like crap and I wish I didn't feel that way. I also feel like I want sex more than him and it didn't used to be that way. Should I be worried?

Hi,
I have that same problem! I know excatly how you feel! I just think we are programed to think that guys are horn dogs and always want to get it on! So that when you get turned down by a guy it makes you feel like there is something wrong with you or a reason to worry! I have been married for 6 months now and I get so frustrated because I'm always the one innihating sex. I don't know the answer as to how to fix it! Just ask him. My husband told me it's nothing about me some times he's just not in the mood and it is still frstrateing though! Good luck!

I wouldn't worry if I were you. I am in a 5 year relationship, and my partner and I both have times that one of us is "Rarin' to go" and the other has cold feet. Try talking to your husband. He might have a lot on his mind, or too tired, or just plain not in the mood. In those cases, have a back-up plan. A small vibrator or toy, with whatever turns you on, a movie, books or whatever. So that you are satisfied and not frustrated. Hopefully you'll both have your groove back soon!

Yeah I know such situations make you feel rejected and miserable.. BUT.. contrary to the common belief that guys are "always eager", they are not, especially when you live together and have sex on a regular basis. (if you're dating and seeing each other once a week, I'd say the desire builds up).

He might be tired, not feeling well, simply not feeling like having sex... many couples have different sex drives. Have you ever turned him down yourself? Did it mean that from that moment on you didn't find him sexually attractive anymore? Or that you stopped loving him?

As you said, it's been only a few times, so don't fret it. But if what makes you feel insecure is that he never initiates sex, talk to him about it. Sometimes people go through a phase when they're not feeling too sexual (stress?) so maybe its just that.