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  • Jun 5, 2007, 06:56 PM
    awierenga831
    I cant stop having sex.And I want to stop.
    :( :( :( :( :( :(
    I hate myself so much.
    I feel so guilty...
    So trashy...
    Like a whore...
    I can't stop having sex with my boyfriend.
    We want to stop...
    But we arnt making any progress...
    I feel horrible...
    AND
    Im scared Im going to get pregnant...
    What do I do?
  • Jun 5, 2007, 07:02 PM
    glavine
    Try Babysitting A Brat A Few Times That May Solve Everything.
    Seriously. If It Is Just Getting Pregnant Your Worried About Then You Have A lot Of Options To Solve That Issue.
    Other Than That One Day That Sex Drive Want Be There Like This... so Enjoy It

    Where Were You When I Was 18? Lol
  • Jun 6, 2007, 07:03 PM
    bekah876
    If you really want to stop having sex then just stop. Don't put yourself in situations where you could end up having sex. For example, don't hang out in the bedroom with the door closed, don't go park anywhere and "talk". Make sure you have people around you when you hang out, go to public places. Take the opportunity to have sex away and then you won' t be able to have it. Eventually maybe the urge will go away. You are in charge of yourself... so if you want to stop having sex, then stop.
  • Jun 6, 2007, 07:53 PM
    Skell
    Why do you want to stop? Why does it make you feel like a whore?
    How old are you? Are you using protection? How long have you been with your boyfriend?

    Sex is a part of life. It is a way of expressing our love. It shouldn't make you feel dirty and like a whore if is practices under the right circumstances.

    There are many unknowns here that I think you need to fill in.

    But as the poster said above, you are the only person who control your actions.
  • Jun 7, 2007, 07:48 PM
    awierenga831
    I dont know if I can add on to my question so i hope someone sees this.
    Im 15.
    I know...
    Thats very young.
    The reasons why I want to stop is because sex is something that should wait till marriage.
  • Jun 7, 2007, 08:25 PM
    bekah876
    I agree sex is something that should wait until marriage. But, I will stick to my previous answer. If you want to stop having sex, then stop. You are in charge of you. You are the ONLY person that can make you stop. I, nor anyone else, can give you a magic answer that will make you stop having sex. It has to come from you. Stop putting yourself in the situation to fail. A person that doesn't want to get dirty doesn't play in the mud. If your boy pressures you and makes you feel guilty for not having sex then he is not the man for you. Take charge of your life and stick with your decisions.
  • Jun 7, 2007, 09:09 PM
    J_9
    Okay, time to come clean. Do you like sex or are you being raped? Not funny to play us this way. See, right here you say you are being raped and that you broke up with your boyfriend.
  • Jun 7, 2007, 09:12 PM
    Rockabilly1955mama
    Yes, my dear. Since you posted that rape post, it has me thinking.

    Is your boyfriend raping you?
    Or are you having sex wilingy?

    Thoes are two very differnet things, it is time to come clean.
  • Jun 7, 2007, 09:13 PM
    J_9
    I had to point this out for others who may answer Billy. Now, if I get to the truth I will recant my statements.
  • Jun 7, 2007, 09:18 PM
    Rockabilly1955mama
    It was a good thing you did J_9!

    Very clever. I just hope she's not joking around with the rape stuff.
  • Jun 7, 2007, 09:20 PM
    J_9
    Me too hun, it is not something that should be joked about. I know too many women who's lives were ruined because of rape. Rape is NOT a joke.
  • Jun 7, 2007, 09:24 PM
    Rockabilly1955mama
    It most certantly is not! She may also be confused with what is rape, and what is sex. It may sound strange, but I've seen that happen a lot in the younger kids.

    Whatever is it though, rape should not be a joke
  • Jun 8, 2007, 08:07 AM
    awierenga831
    Ohh the rape question was my old boyfriend.
    I haven't gotten over it.
    People bring it up.
    And I still have it locked in my heart.
    My parents don't know.
    THIS question is about my new boyfriend.
    Hes helped me a lot with what has happened to me.
    And he would never rape me or hit me.

    And he never pressures me.
    Hes not that kind of person.
    To answer one of your questions.

    Im sorry for not stateing clearly what's going on. Im abit knew.
    And Im abit scared to say these things.
    Sorry for my unanswered questions.
    If you have any, please ask, if it would clear things up.
    Sorry...

    :[[
  • Jun 8, 2007, 08:24 AM
    saraispiel19
    Your ex rαped you.. αnd now you cαn't stop hαving sex with your current boyfriend-- hmm sounds like αn issue to me like you αre trying to cleαnse yourself or trying to tell yourself sex is okαy in order to mαke the rαpe αlright I hope thαts not the cαse thαt this rαpe hαs mαde you promiscuous

    Why did you not contαct αny αuthority or told your pαrents/relαtive αbout the rαpe? if your boyfriend truely loved you he would hαve hαd done something αbout it (told the cops, your pαrents..). someone thαt loves you doesn't just sit there αnd tell you it's gonnα be okαy then hαve sex with you..

    You cαn stop hαving sex you know nobody is holding your legs αpαrt

    sex αddiction could hαppen to αnybody αnd is not to be tαken lightly, it's the sαme αs αny αddiction whether it be drugs or αlcohol, if you think you hαve this problem you should get help, professionαl help
  • Jun 8, 2007, 09:07 AM
    bekah876
    Some women get raped and are afraid of anything intimate, other women get raped and all the sudden start having sex all the time. Unfortunately I was one of the second women. When I was raped I wanted to pretend that it wasn't a big deal, it was just sex that I didn't want. I all the sudden began having sex all the time with different guys. I just wanted to make the rape seem less significant and make sex not a big deal. I somehow thought if sex became something normal, not important then the rape would not bother me anymore. Sex is a big deal and it should be a very intimate thing with someone you love. I had to learn this the hard way. Sex never solves anything, and it never makes something horrible, like rape, become less tramatic. In fact sex only makes things worse.
    Your new boyfriend should understand why sex makes you feel the way it does. If he knows you don't want to have sex anymore then he should respect that. If he doesn't understand this then he should get the boot. I don't understand why you keep whining about wanting to stop having sex but don't stop having it. No one can help you with that problem. You are the only person that can help yourself with that.
    If your last boyfriend really raped you and now you are seeking sex as a answer then you might need some counseling. There are issues you need to deal with. I would start by talking to your parents or at least a guidance counselor at your school.
  • Jun 8, 2007, 12:14 PM
    awierenga831
    Im not using sex now as an answer to my rape.
    My rape was more then a year ago.
    And I hope that that doesn't sound stupid that Im still sad and seeking help now.
    Ive only had one boyfriend after my ex boyfreind.
    I don't want my current boyfriend to tell anyone because when I told people that I was raped they called me a slut and a whore and told people that I was just having sex with my ex willingly.
    I am having sex with my boyfriend now because we have a very intimate relationship but we want to save that intamacy for marriage. Im sorry that I ever even asked my two questions. Its just been a burden. And now you probably all think Im a whore as well...

    And my current boyfriend does respect that I want to stop.
    He wants to stop just as much as I do.

    And me and my current boyfriend arnt constantly having sex.
    Its very mild but just once is bad to me.
  • Jun 8, 2007, 12:21 PM
    saraispiel19
    Like I sαid: if your boyfriend truly loved you he would hαve hαd done something αbout it

    αnd no I don't think your α whore
  • Jun 8, 2007, 12:35 PM
    awierenga831
    He didn't do anything because I told him not to.
    No body cared, when I had like I said, told people what happened they called me a slut.
    So when I told him I told him not to do anything because I didn't want to go through it again.
  • Jun 8, 2007, 12:44 PM
    saraispiel19
    Telling everybody is one thing-- telling your pαrents, cops etc. is αnother--- I honestly αm stαrting to think your rαpe story is fαke.
  • Jun 8, 2007, 01:00 PM
    bekah876
    No one here has said you are a whore. Please don't jump to conclusions.

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