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  • May 24, 2005, 01:13 AM
    ladylove
    My boy friends a virgin
    :confused: Im seeing this wonderful guy and everything is going well but in the back of my mind I can't help but to doubt our relationship lasting because I am his first, he has'nt really even been with anyone seriously but me.Any advise?? -ladylove
  • May 24, 2005, 03:16 PM
    Wildcat21
    Couple questions - how old are you? Have had sex yet?

    I wouldn't let this bother you. Woman have a way of over analyzing things. He may just be real happy and comfortable with you.

    AND if you treat him right, if you know what I mean, why would he want anyone else?

    My advice, from massive experience, is that IF you worry about something too much - it will happen! Guaranteed. Don't think about it and have fun.
  • May 24, 2005, 03:52 PM
    ladylove
    Thanks wildcat21!
    Im really surprised at your response. For some reason I thought worse. Im 22 he's 19 we've had sex. I know he's young but he chose to wait. I guess he wasn't ready until now, we're very good together. We have healthy communication but I really needed someone eleses opinion-thank you
  • May 25, 2005, 05:07 PM
    keenu
    Here's to you
    Hey, no reason to think it won't work out any more than to think it will.
    I'd say relax, enjoy and live and love.
  • May 25, 2005, 05:09 PM
    keenu
    PS I forgot to add...
    My daughter is 30 and her husband is 26 and they have been happily together since he was 19.
  • May 25, 2005, 06:01 PM
    ladylove
    That's nice to hear
    Hey keenu, Im pleased at your repley as well.I think I need to change my opinion on the matter-thanx lady love
  • May 25, 2005, 07:39 PM
    Wildcat21
    I think you're making more out of it than it really is.

    Sex is very important - you gave him a gift. Just be cool about.

    Maybe you leave because of his inexperience? Does he go down on you like all real men should?

    Go enjoy and be good to your man! This is not a big deal. Maybe he only chooses to be with you the rest of his life?
  • May 25, 2005, 09:57 PM
    ladylove
    Yup he's a real man..
    No really, I think Im going to start to unlearn everything I've learnt when it comes to this whole situation-thanx everyone
  • Jul 20, 2005, 10:43 AM
    Kitty07
    Same here
    I was in the same situation w/ my b/f he has a brother and his brother had many g/f and he is 2 yrs younger so i was my b/f first it was wierd b/c the people i had been w/ before i couldnt get them to quit always wanting sex but with him he NEVER EVER talked about it but then when we finally did end up having sex thats all he talks about so sometimes its better to have an inexpierenced man.
  • Jul 20, 2005, 01:00 PM
    mr_X
    Don't worry
    I was in the same position when I was younger it is better not to worry because if he says he wants to be with you that should be good enough.if you stress him not having a lot of "tacks" under his belt you could make him wonder what else is out there best thing is enjoy the fact you are his first so you can mold him into what you want in a man.
  • Jul 20, 2005, 01:40 PM
    shenda
    Truth is
    You are not so concerned with the fact that he is a virgin. You are afraid to release your heart to someone, who has just started to sow his wild oats. The fear I hear in your question, maybe, you are not the one. You love without restraints, you have a need to give your all and that bothers you at this time. However, I submit to you, learn to enjoy each moment. Dave Koz has a song entitled the Dance, which basically states that if he knew who the end would be, he would not have pursued the relationship; however, he would have also missed the Dance. Sometimes, we encounter experiences that do not ultimately sustain us; however, in those self-same experiences we are subjected to something wonderful, and that should not be denied.
  • Jul 22, 2005, 05:58 AM
    lickemlolly
    Let me share this with you because let me tell you been there done that... after breaking his virginity not too long after he proposed to me told me he couldn't live without me and wanted a child... well not long after I conceived he left me for another girl and has been sleeping around ever since... just be careful... sex is a powerful thing and after seeing what it is like he may want to see what else is out there... not saying that it will happen just saying it can..
  • Dec 6, 2007, 02:58 AM
    ethen
    In the beginning, it is my first words on this lovely sit:

    I know what you are going throw; I was not every good in relationships because I had a lot in mind but I fall in love with a beautiful girl and she was 4 years older and we had the most amazing time the only problem that we began thinking about the future and that made us un happy and after a while we broke up but I don't regret that because we had the best time ever.
    You should be enjoying with him and don't think about the future.

    I hope that we can talk more.

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