I want a relationship so so bad, one cause I hate being alone, and two cause I want to get over my ex once and for all. There are a couple guys that like me, but none I like back. Where am I supposed to find this person? It seems like I know everyone and there's really no one I'm interested in. I'm pretty shy so it's hard to get to know people. I'm sure I'll meet someone in college, but that's a year away! Any suggestions?

Be single and get over the ex for good. Its not fair to hook up, just to get over someone, and sometimes, we have to wait for what we want. Make yourself happy with yourself, and there will be someone to share that happiness with, in the future.

If you think a year is too long to wait for a good relationship, you will probably spend far longer than that in bad ones. Getting into a new relationship for the purpose of getting over your ex is almost guaranteed to leave you with another ex to get over. Finish Step One (get whole and healthy within yourself to where you can be happy alone) before you go to Step Two (another relationship).

I never meant to use someone else to make myself feel better, I'll shut up and wait. I have everything I want

You won't get anything simply by wanting it... everything happens at the right time and happens for a reason. And for that to happen we first need to realize that the moment we stop being desperate about something, we can think rationally and then decide what we need most at that point in time. If finding a man at this point in time is your priority only to prove to yourself that you could get over your ex, then I am sure it's going to be a disaster because when we are desperate we do things in a very overboard manner... that spoils relationships... so I suggest you live for yourself for the time being, go get some manicures, pedicures and spas done and rejuvenate yourself and feel good about yourself...

Be fair to yourself. Relationships are a lot of work and they're not something you find whenever you just snap your fingers, if they were, everyone would have one. It sounds like generic fortune cookie advice, but for the love of god, if you can't take care of yourself, how the hell do you plan on taking care of somebody else? I, personally am enjoying my single time, I was a whiny crybaby after I broke up with my ex, then I embraced it, I'm actually blowing off dates with girls so I can catch up on scrubs. Great show, you guys should watch it.

It is a big mistake to use a relationship to get over an ex. It is unfair on all parties involved. And eventually it will only make things worse.

Be comfortable on your own and enjoy single life and soon enough the right guy will come along. You won't find him whilst your desperate!

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I never meant to use someone else to make myself feel better, I'll shut up and wait. I have everything I want

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Good idea. Just don't sit around waiting though. Get out and live and enjoy life!

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Originally Posted by rockerchick_682

Where am I supposed to find this person? It seems like I know everyone and there's really no one I'm interested in. I'm pretty shy so it's hard to get to know people.

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I have the same feeling like you right now. I feel kind of boring.

Great suggestions above! There is so much more to life than having an intimate relationship with someone. Unless having an intimate relationship is your only goal.

Having an intimate relationship with someone is just one piece of the pie of life.

I don't like being single and I can honestly say I was never happier in my previous relationship however you must learn to live alone and be happy as said above. Until you can do this then you shouldn't be in a relationship. + Be over your ex, it can take some people weeks or years were all individuals it takes time.

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What state you in? LOL just joking, cheer up, laughter is the best medicine.

Rockerchick:

Trust me, college will be the best time of your life. 1 year is nothing. You will have your choice of men and the selection will be much greater. The ex will be a memory.

If I could be 20 again and do it all again I would in a heartbeat. The key is to do it right. If you know what school you are going to, start hanging with your local friends that will be going there also. Then you will have a headstart when you go off to school with your own pack and it will make the initial months easy. Then, as you meet others at parties. Class, etc expand your network.

Me, I worked at the pub at night. Had cash always and started my first classes around 10. Party, party. Trust me.

Your still young you have your future ahead of you stay single and meet someone the way you want 2 not 2 get over your ex I don't think its fair for him or for yourself it will only cause harm I no people that have done the same they end up being hurt so take your time

You are very young and have much soul searching to do. You must find yourself and find happiness without the need for a relationship. There is plenty of time for serious relationships and while relationships can be very satisfying, there should not be a need to be in one to be happy.

Before you enter another relationship you need to be happy with yourself, your life, and who you are. Take this time to make you happy, find things that you like to do and DO THEM! Once you are happy it is much easier to find and maintain a healthy happy relationship with another person.

Chances are if you want a man that bad you will get one, but he will most likely not be a good one because of your haste therefore wait till a good one comes along